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Hello,
I am having my first love relationship, even if I’m 27.I am a fearful person, but my fears have increased in the last2 months.In august the condom slipped off,I took Norlevo even if he hadn’t ejaculated;the period came with 2days of anticipation, then I started to take the Loette pill.Currently in the 7day pause I had the withdrawal bleed. But since 2months I have the fixation of being pregnant.I took the test before the bleed(negative).Ijust can’t take my thoughts away from it.I’m afraid that I wouldn’t recognize a pregnancy in time for abortion.My questions:
1.what is the rate of bleeding even in case of a pregnancy?so withdrawal bleed isn’t a “proof”?
2.who guarantees that 7days cannot originate a natural cycle?
3.I realize that this is a great mental problem, how can I feel better?
Thank you!
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1060231 tn?1338390135
i hate to say this but it sounds like if and whenever you get pregnant you plan on getting an abortion,thats not a very good frame of mind.if you are so fearful then stop having intercourse,theres other ways of having sex and enjoying it.i don't mean to sound like i'm coming down on you but your putting your health and your emotions at risk.if he loves you he will wait till your ready and if he don't really love you when he gets tired of what your giving him he will eventually drop you lirke a bad habbit.so don't set yourself up to get hurt.if he cares enough he will wait.if he gets angry when you say no.let him go,he's not worthit.good luck,i hope i was of some help to you
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thank you gagootza,
I think you've understood my inner feelings. Although I'm 27 I feel link an adolescent...it' just my first experiences,and I'm sure I have all the paranoic feelings that a teenager has.
As in all other issues of my life, I should face my fears; it's against my "will" to do anything in life, and thus, I must insist. (avoiding personality) I really desired this relationship,I've always been alone, or involved in bad affairs, and so this is my chance to "grow".... I must face my fears, fighting against this mental distress due to sexual and emotional relationships. I hope that I'll get more experienced in love and sex, to the former first of all,and learn to live an authentic relationship,because I think I have found a good guy,he doesn't show his feelings, but he's honest,sincere and quite full of care for me.
Going back to the post,I did another test...negative.
thank you for your answer
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1060231 tn?1338390135
i'm sorry i sounded so negitive i didn't realize he was as good a person as you just discribed.then i take back the negitive side of my answer.sometimes i put things in the wrong words and for that forgive me.i just don't want to see anybody get hurt over sex.theres a great deal more to a relationship than sex.love is never having to say your sorry.it sounds like you found your match and i'm happy for you.i don't mean this in a negitive way but never let your guard down.i wish you and your boyfriend all the best life has to offer.sincerely...pete  
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It's all right, I've understood your reaction :)
I must get rid of this feeling.
there are very young teenagers fully confident in their b/c habits;probably I'll never be; and honestly I'm freaking out that this month we will experience sex only using oral contraceptive (I'll ask him to put on a condom before ejaculation anyway.)
but yes,you've understoof that I am not planning any pregnancy at the moment. and so I'm sorry to say that your equation pregnancy=abortion at the moment is true for me.
I'm so scared about this "false periods" issue...
thank you for being so sincere...
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1060231 tn?1338390135
your very welcome.anytime you need to talk or have a problem or concern feel free to contact me and i will try to help you .good luck and enjoy charish the moment
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