virginity

[sugare]

i'm 25 years old lady and a virgin,please let me know how painful is sex the first time can i take a painkiller before

[devanandan]

i puck at the age of 12 for 12 year girl but not bleeding why

[gwen2002]

When I lost mine I was 15yrs. And it hurt bad.I did bleed lots,not only the first time but the second time too.

[skirby]

Hi,

The more tense you are about it, the more it will hurt. It's just uncomfortable, and it does help to take a deep breath in while he enters you. I would also suggest lube, like KY jelly. You might be a bit too apprehensive the first time to get properly wet.

It really isn't that bad though. And you body will stretch around him as he enters you. Don't worry if you think that you are too tight, it'll fit. Relax and enjoy! You only get to loose your virginity once!

[Reomy]

sorry i made mistake...my advice is intended to sugar not u  ...sorry

[Reomy]

hello..you know what?  i lost my virginity at the age of 25 to a man that i really loved so much...and im very happy that we are getting married this month..to tell u honestly yeah...for the very first time  for me it is very painful but..if ur bf know how to drive it then,,,u and ur bf will automatically enjoy it...sex is fun and enjoyable but to a person u dearly love...
    ok gudluck to u and hear u soon...

[hldeskin]

the biggest thing to remember when you're having sex for the first time is to communicate with the man you're having sex with.  If he's going to fast, tell him.  If you're too nervious, tell him.  If it hurts tell him.  For one, he should be completely understanding.  This is a big step for you.  If you're not comfortable maybe its not time.  Its not all like the movies, so it wont be picture perfect.  If it feels right relax, take your time and talk to your man.  

[Ame_chan]

I don't think you should take a painkiller.
For me, when I have sex with my boyfriend it feels like I am a virgin every time. To me and to him. It hurts differently from person to person, but if you have found the right person to have sex with, the pain is a sign of trust and love. Don't be scared.

Also, depending on how active you were/are such as sports, horseback riding, etc..your hymen might have already broken and you didn't realize it.

Good luck!

[DevinPierce]

taking the painkiller sounds like a good idea.

[SeriousSam]

Actually my ex-wife was a virgin when we married years ago because she was and still is a conservative protestant so it can happen that someone is a virgin in their later years.  The problem is that if her background is such that she probably won't due the various things that you can do to stretch the hymen to make the whole process less messy and less traumatic.

Personally I have been with two virgins in my life and wish in both cases they had known, or I had known what to do on the "first time"  With proper preparation I believe this could and should be one of the best memories in a womans life instead of messy and painful like I have heard so many women, friends and family talk about.

[Crystlas]

Yeah, I was thinking the same thing.  She is like 25, so WTF?  

[mr.lucky66]

I wonder if this is a real post ?

[saintclaire]

i lost my virginity at age 15, and it hurt like hell. hah, although i don't think a painkiller is necessary.

[SpieluhrsMelodie]

There is no reason to take a painkiller it really doesn't hurt that much at all... its awesome.

[jml1986]

Sex is not really painful the first time. It can be a little uncomfortable at first but not pain. There is alot of stretching going on so that is where the discomfort comes from. Some women who use tampons have already ruptured the hymen. There maybe a little bleeding the first few times, but this is common and will stop fairly quickly. Just remember to always use protection.