hello, i am a 17 year old male. i am SO confused and i have never been like this. when i was young, i NEVER had the thought of me being gay whatsoever. keep this in mind. recently after i broke up with my girlfriend after a month and a half, i have been questioning myself soo much that i dont even feel like being alive. ever since i was like 10 or 11 i have been watching porn. about 2 years later i watched gay porn on and off but i didnt put much thought into it because i liked regular porn WAY better. i NEVER EVER had thoughts of being with a guy in a relationship in my life. after me and my girlfriend broke up, i havent been attracted to girls WHATSOEVER and i have been paying more attention to guys. at first, just thoughts of guys didnt arouse me. now whenever i think of a dude naked, it arouses me and i HATE it. i feel like dying everytime i see a dude on tv with his shirt off or even a gay guy. deep down this isnt me and i know it because i have been soo deppresed. i cant eat, sleep or even be myself. i cant even hang out with my guy friends because im afraid ill be atttracted to them or something and the normal things i do with them would make me think "this is because im gay". i want guys to just be my friends. i would be happy deep down just banging girls left and right and not guys. when i see a girl now, i dont think anything of her whatsoever and it upsets me soo much, like i wanna cry when i think about it. i used to think girls were like god. now i dont even aknowledge them. when i was younger, just the thought of having sex with a girl got me hard. now i dont even care. what scares me even more is the fact that i can keep a conversation with a guy soo easily and ill want to keep talking. then i start thinking "what if thats because im gay?" also, i only get hard about thoughts. if i was ever put in a homosexual situation, id probably run. i believe that is the real me deep down saying "this is wrong" and i think thats why im soo upset because my mind is messing with me. i recently lost my virginity to one of my x's and it was alright. i obivously got hard as a rock during it. a day later i didnt want anything to do with her anymore. a few days ago, i had sex again. i got aroused soo easily by the girl. but lately with my mood, its impossible to be happy towards girls with these thoughts. unless im gonna be friends with a girl, i wont even look at her. when i used to go out with girls, i was happy. but about a month into the relationship, it would get boring and die out. the way ive been thinking, it makes me think thats because im gay and id be able to keep a lifelong relationship with a dude. i dont want that at all but my mind tells me i do. i have no idea what to do right now because i am being tortured in my own body. i cannot take this anymore. im afraid to talk to a therapist about it because im afraid they will tell me im gay. reading everything on the internet such as peoples stories about being gay and symptoms of being gay (not saying being gay is bad) just makes me even more scared. the only thing that somewhat calms me for a couple minutes is that gays know they are gay from when they are young. and also, how i always had thoughts of women and having sex with multiple women. i hope this whole thing is the reason for me temporarily not having any attraction for girls because i always was attracted to girls and i wanna be able to talk to my guy friends and be like "yeahh id tap that" and mean it. i have every symptom for HOCD except the arousing one. im REALLY hoping this is just a phase in my life or OCD or something. someone please help me, i need help :/ thanks