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1925157 tn?1328929017

why dont i get wet anymore?

Ok so for starters I'm only 19 years old and having been dating my current boyfriend for ten months now. We have been living together since may.He has always been a very sexual guy. And before him, I pretty much hated sex. And I would only have it if I thought it could lead me into a relationship, stupid I know. I have only had sex with 7 guys including my current Bf. And he is the only one I've done in a year. But to get to the point, when we first started having sex, I lovedddd it. It completly turned my thoughts about sex around. And I didn't want to have any other partners. He was "the best I ever had" and I would get so wet. He would love it. Well once we moved in together we would do it everyday if not twice a day, well eventually we slowed down and went to once a day or once every other. Well I started to not get as wet, or not wet at all, we ended up resorting to lub. Which I hate the thought of because I want him to make me wet n not have to worry about putting that crap on. Now I'm 5 months pregnant, still with the same problem. And he does still turn me on just as much now as he ever did. Even resulting in orgams in the end. But my question is WHYYYY don't I get wet anymore? And HOW can I change this? Pleaseee help. I do stay fully hydrated as well, as I need to for my baby so I don't think that could be the issue. And I am healthy with a job where I get a full workout. And I eat fruits and veggies. So what could it be n how do I solve it?
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super late on this, but foreplay and sexual creativity is SO important for older relationships. For me, the newness of the relationship got me wet everytime, up until we got into a "sex rut". We started doing it in other parts of the house,  which got us back on track. we also gave each other head more often, took more time with foreplay as RainLover71 mentioned, candles, bubble baths, lingerie, blindfolds, light bondage, trying something brand new even once can really be the restart that you need.
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I know Im pretty late on this question but I am currently 19 years old right now and having the same problem today I been with my boyfriend for two years now and out of no where I became dry like sand I just want to know; Are you ladies still having this problem? or did you figure out what was the problem? please let me now
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It's probably not as uncommon as most would think.
The body requires a lot of different things too all be synced up in order to do what it does. Being aroused often requires a particular mental state as well, and it's hard to say it's simply "wanting" to be aroused.
My wife is in her 30s and has gone through a "dry spell". We used lubricants to get past it, and one day we just didn't need them any more. We couldn't pinpoint what it was, it just happened. I have male friends that have had the same issue with ED, myself included. Overthinking turned out to be a major factor in most of the guys I've talked to.
I hope your situation is better now.
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im 18 and im having the same problem....i dont no what the hell to do. i just feel like something is really really wrong with me...and i just hate the look in his eyes when he place his hand down there and there is no flash flood going on.
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I have the same problem and I'm 24 I haven't been able to get wet since I was 20 I hate it I feel like something is wrong with me I thought we were suppose to have a natural wetness that stays forever
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My girlfriend had the same problem and I started to go down on her and she became extremely wet and then the sex was wonderful,also foreplay helped her aswell.Kissing,hugging and touching.All the best.
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1925157 tn?1328929017
That's weird because it started right when I became pregnant the first time! I did terminate it, because of guilt from my mother and it made me feel like I was ruining everyones lifes,... Then after we both knew it was the wrong choice, and ended up pregnant again, so now I'm 21 weeks. But I do use lube now, it makes me feel so dirty after sex though! I hate it, and I end up sitting on the toilet for like 5 mins peeing everytime! I just wish I could get wet again like I used to!! My nd hasn't said anything about it yet, but the other night tried to stick it in without lube and I didn't stop him until it hurt so bad. It feels like he tore me! Ouchhh.
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Oh and I'm only 22,  this also started when I was 19.
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I have this same problem! It started after I had my daughter. My bf thinks its his fault and that I'm not attracted to him anymore but that's not the case. I got so tired of being lkke this, that I asked my ob if there was sometjkng wrong with me or something I could do. He said no. It happens to women all the time, and the only suggestion he had was to use lube..

Kinda nice to find someone with the same prob as me lol.. but ***** that we don't have a cure to this problem!
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1925157 tn?1328929017
No answer ???? Well this is a lot of help.
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Anyone????
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