why is this painful

[shouldiworry1323]

Hi all. 28 y/o married female. I had a gyne exam and pap smear done in Febuary of this year, everything was normal according to my doc. My hubby and I just recently started to try and get pregnant, started in June. My problem is, the last couple of months, not every time we have sex, but sometimes, it is painful. Not a burning dry sensation upon entry, that is fine. It is when he is thrusting deep. We tend to umm, embarassing to say here, like it rough a lot. But lately, this hasn't been feeling too good. I notice it hurts in doggy style, not so much in missionary, if it did then very slight. It goes away immediately, only hurts when he is thrusting and prodding in. Sometimes a shift in my hips or something can hinder it. No pain after intercourse or when going slow. It doesn't stick around. No abnormal discharge. The only other thing I could add, and it probably isn't related at all, is that for the past 4 cycles, my period has been coming at shorter intervals, averaging 22-24 days for a cycle. I read online many different things...."he's just hitting your cervix, that can hurt!", to other things that are pretty scary such as internal problems. I just wanted to see if anyone else had this and can shed some light on it.

[Des_a_rae]

You're so welcome. :)

As I said earlier about the cervix coming down at different times during  your cycle, mine is more tender around ovulation time.  I haven't learned the difference of when it hurts me as to when it's lower/higher or not yet though.  The gyno is feeling for anything out of the ordinary in there when they're checking you.  My cysts are always found with a transvaginal ultrasound.  I have them constantly so I'm SO tender in there and most of the time the ultrasound is very uncomfortable.  IF you think you have ovarian cysts just give your gyno a call, make an appointment to go in and have the ultrasound done.  It only takes a few minutes. :)  If your mother had them then chances are  you have them.   Good luck with everything :)  

if you have anymore questions about cysts please feel free to ask..I've had them why whole life :S  

[shouldiworry1323]

Hi. Thank you so much for replying!

I'm not entirely sure that she ran an STD panel when I went. It was my first visit with this doctor, and she did do a pap smear and it was all normal, but I couldn't say for sure whether she did cultures for STDs or not. However, she said all looked normal, from what she could see anyways.

I actually had my husband try something on me the other day. I had him insert two fingers ( sorry tmi as well!) as far up as he could, to hit the cervix, while using the other hand to press on my lower abdomen, like the gyne does during an exam. It did not hurt at all during this, just felt it. I have never been diagnosed with ovarian cysts, however no tests have ever been done to determine that. My mom has had ovarian cysts, she actually had one burst before. When the gyne palpates your abdomen, is she feeling for lumps like that, on your ovaries?  That's exactly how it feels, when he is thrusting far in is when it hurts at times, but goes away immediately after. I dunno, it just worried me.
Thanks again for responding :)

[Des_a_rae]

Hi there!  

I'm going to agree with the "he's hitting your cervix" only because if everything else has came back normal and you have no abnormal discharge and things like that. I've had this to happen and it does hurt.  At different times in your cycle your cervix will be high or it will come down low.   Also, it could be ovarian cysts.  I get these a lot!!  And when I have sex even though the sex itself doesn't hurt, but when (sorry tmi) he's thrusting inside of me, while he's in as far as he can go will hurt and I can feel the pressure pain around my ovaries.   Have you ever been told that you have had ovarian cysts before?  They're quite common and they come and go during your cycles.  IF no cysts then I'd say for sure it would be the "hitting your cervix".  Anyways, I hope this helps!!  Best of luck with trying to conceive :).