I've been with my boyfriend for 2years now. I love him very much, he loves me the same amount. (he tells e alot) The thing is, i've became very insecure. I recently found out he lied to me about an ex.
He added this girl on myspace who was just a 'friend' & she left him a comment that sounded more than just friendly. So i pulled him up about it & he said were just friends. i was like really? doesn't sound like it. he got really mad. this was in july.
Dec, i found out that this girl was his ex after all, but not from him. from her. she got in contact with me & told me.
I felt so sick & betrayed. it destroyed me.
When we first got together, i asked him if she has slept with anyone & he went all funny on me & turned away & wouldn't speak to me.
after i found out about his ex. i found out he has slept with 3 girls. & i'm his 4th. He's my first. I wish he would of been my first. He said he regrets it all & if he knew he was gonna be with me, he would of waited. ( but i think he's just saying that)
Anyway, after i found out about he lied to me, i've been so insecure since, we have talked, worked on things. But still, i feel insecure. Everytime a girl who i think is pretty, i look at his eyes to see if he looks. & half of the time he does look. & then i feel so horrible, cause all sorts go on in my head. thinking that he likes her & so on.
Even when you get them add's on the side of naked girls. Or naked girls, or just pretty looking girls in mags or on tv.
I feel like he's always looking at them. I've just became so insecure & jealous about girls. I don't like the idea of him looking at girls. & i'll always question things about his girl mates.
I really don't want to be like this, it's destroying me. i never use to be like this, i was totally fine. I just use to think wow, i love him. i don't care.
It's got to the point now were it's effecting him as well as me. He's constantly moaning at me. (telling me how silly i am, why do i think these things & all that)
All these throughts will come into my head & i can't seem to get them away.
He tells me he's not attracted to anyone but me. He doesn't look at anyone, doesn't think anyone else is pretty or nice looking. but that's not true. I mean, people will have crushes on people out of bands & so on. i just don't believe him.
I've became very distant to him. I don't tell him things that go on in my head.
Cause when i try talk to him, he constantly just has a go. saying about I'm so insecure & he doesn't need it.
i tell him i can't help it. i dunno what to do.
Help me please?
i can't take this.