My b/f and I have been dating for 1 1/2 yrs.The only problem we have is sex. Initially it was great but we now only avg sex once/month, usually only after I beg. Weve talked about this many times and always agree to compromise: Ill settle for less sex; hell settle for more sex. When we do have sex there is no passion, even downright awkward. I used to *** every time. Since this started, 3 mnths into our relationship, I cant *** w/ him, and havent told him for fear of giving him another excuse for no sex. He has a history of sexual abuse (oral), cant enjoy oral sex, and often cant stay hard during sex (hes only 27). He used to say the problem wasnt me, he just had no interest in sex and agreed to consider counseling/medical help. Yet, Id find porn sites in his browser history during these periods of "no interest." I mentioned this and he changed his story: now the problem is my weight (160lbs at 5"7', not exactly huge). He prefers skinny women but loves me and knows he wont find another woman like me. I was hurt, but again agreed to compromise. still no change. Ive warned this is why so many cheat/break-up. Ive offered to watch it w/ him, he said no. He says he doesnt know what turns him on and gets uneasy when I try to touch his genitals. Ive assured him Ill never leave b/c I love him unconditionally. That didn’t work so I warned I cant live the rest of my life sex-starved/competing with porn. IDK what else to do. Last time we tried to have sex, he couldnt stay hard. He apologized, I said it was ok and thanked him for trying. Yesterday he gave me his login to check his bank balance. A funny tone in his voice led me to investigate further. What I found confirmed what my gut already knew: that week he purchased 200 minutes from a porn site, all of which had been used. This explains why he couldnt stay hard: he wore it out w/ porn prior to us trying to have sex! This isnt the 1st time I learn of him masturbating instead of having sex, while I remain sex-starved!