Ok, typical situation. I have a high sex drive and want to experiment with anal sex. My wife wants little if any experimentation, and sex only about once every other month, and that would really be too much for her (not much of an exaggeration either). So you could say we are both frustrated. Her fears are founded in her childhood upbringing about sex (strict Mennonite background, so like enjoying anything is bad) so anal sex is not only taboo but also a "sin," and this is probably complicated to some degree by the fact that she is a Nurse. She is afraid of anal , and even worse things than that, from just one or two attempts at anal sex done properly. She won't give me a chance, basically.
What can I do to get her over her coldness in general, get her to have some semblance of a healthy sex drive, and then get her to be willing to experiment every once in a while with anal sex? I don't need anal every day, and won't pressure her all the time. I just feel like she isn't really caring about me in her denials, and her coldness in general. BTW, the coldness has been long standing, and not just after I mentioned the "A" word.