anal sex tightness

[lastunicorn]

my boyfriend and i tried anal sex for the first time last night, as I had never had anal sex before.  we were very careful, used a lot of lubricant, and took it very slowly.  I found it quite enjoyable, and there was very little pain, and there is some soreness today, but nothing that is too bad.  My boyfriend on the other hand, found that I was too tight, to the point that it was almost painful for him.  we were wondering if there was anything we could do to help make this more enjoyable for him.  We assumed that with some more practice the problem would fix itself, and that's fine too.  thanks!

[blikorr]

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[yomike]

Actually, the question has been answered, and the best way is to first use a dildo, and then let your boyfriend. It seems like once you start it can be very tight, but after you are having anal sex it will loosen up.
Just be careful because over time it can affect how "tight" your rectum is.

Just my 2 cents worth...

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hi.

Glad you found the experience pleasurable. I'm not quite sure what you're asking. It seems as though you're saying that the tightness of your anus was uncomfortable for your boyfriend because it constricted his penis too much.

Now, unless you'd like to walk around embarrassed all the time, you definitely don't want to do anything that would loosen your anal sphincter, do you?

I suggest you try it one or two more times, and if he still finds it uncomfortable, take it off the menu. You can still enjoy anal penetration and play in other ways. For instance, the two of you could concoct some sort of hot fantasy involving a dildo. There's lots of room for creativity here. Have fun, and place safe. Dr. J

[gmcguy244]

relax if you are tightening your *** its like a clamp and can hurt.