Wow! That’s a lot of medications to be taking. No wonder he’s having some sexual side effects. And it doesn’t help that you’re obviously putting pressure on him to “perform” and “achieve.” These words and concepts contribute to men feeling sex is work. And who wants to work all the time, especially when feeling not up to par?
I can’t tell you anything about whether any or all of these drugs are interfering with his sexual response. For that, he needs to see a urologist for thorough testing.
Please be aware that his medical conditions will have an effect on his body in many ways. Erections come and go, and so do orgasms. It doesn’t mean they won’t come back. I wonder if he’s still enjoying his sexuality? If not, don’t burden him with the idea that it has to be exactly the same as it always was. This puts way too much pressure on him and can contribute to stress and anxiety. Once he begins worrying, the stress and anxiety can create a self-fulfilling prophecy: the more he worries about erections, the less his penis will cooperate, and it becomes a vicious circle.
Realize too, that, as we age, our bodies slow down. It doesn’t mean we can’t have fun, enjoy sex and all the other activities we’ve always enjoyed, but it DOES mean that we may need to make some adjustments in our sex life as well as in other areas. He has lots of physical challenges, any one of which can affect not only his physical being but also his emotional equilibrium, and, in turn, his sexuality. Dealing with all these medical conditions can be physically and emotionally exhausting.
He may be feeling ashamed that his medical condition has affected him in this way. Men are so disadvantaged by this assumption that they’re not ALLOWED to have any concerns or problems with sexual functioning, and yet I’ve never known a man who DIDN’T have a concern at least once in his life. So he’s human.
This particular forum is for information about psychological and/or emotional concerns, rather than for giving medical advice. I suggest that if you want further information about his current drug regimen, post your question in the Urology Expert Forum at
www.medhelp.org/forums/show/113 Best of luck to you. Dr. J