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17yr old with Erectile Disfunction
So I am 17 years old and I currently have the most attractive girl friend I have ever had. I am still a virgin and we have tried to have sex 3 times now. And all 3 times I have not been able to achieve an erection at all. First time made sense to me because I was really drunk. But other 2 times I was not. Its kind of embarrassing but she is understands somwhat but is just dissapointed we can't do it. To be honest its really pissing me off too because I really want to have sex with her. I have tryed to change my mind set about the entire situatuon and it just doesnot work. Is it time for pills?
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
The first few times you're experimentally sexually with a partner can create lots of anxiety, which is the enemy of good sex. And, of course, alcohol will only intensify this reaction.
It's time to take the pressure off yourself. Talk to your girlfriend about being together sexually and just playing. No pressure to have penis-vagina sex, just pleasuring and touching. Let yourself relax and just enjoy the sensations. There really is nothing to worry about, other than that you've become your own worst enemy and worried yourself into this state.
And please don't be fooled by creams, pills, etc. that purport to give you an instant erection. Erections come and go, but good sex is the result of being comfortable within your skin and learning that sex is about more than just in and out. If you'd like to learn more, I highly recommend the book, "The New Male Sexuality," by Bernie Zilbergeld, Phld., widely available online, both used and in paperbook. This book has helped thousands of men (including my college students) to better understand their sexuality. I know you'll find it valuable too. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
The first few times you're experimentally sexually with a partner can create lots of anxiety, which is the enemy of good sex. And, of course, alcohol will only intensify this reaction.
It's time to take the pressure off yourself. Talk to your girlfriend about being together sexually and just playing. No pressure to have penis-vagina sex, just pleasuring and touching. Let yourself relax and just enjoy the sensations. There really is nothing to worry about, other than that you've become your own worst enemy and worried yourself into this state.
And please don't be fooled by creams, pills, etc. that purport to give you an instant erection. Erections come and go, but good sex is the result of being comfortable within your skin and learning that sex is about more than just in and out. If you'd like to learn more, I highly recommend the book, "The New Male Sexuality," by Bernie Zilbergeld, Phld., widely available online, both used and in paperbook. This book has helped thousands of men (including my college students) to better understand their sexuality. I know you'll find it valuable too. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
nice advise beefcake, in addition to that, practice also safe sex, your young and you can experience a lot more...there are much temptations you can encounter
Erectile Dysfunction in teens is normal, there is nothing to worry about. The anxiety of trying to perform is one of the main reasons why many teen males are not able to get an erection. Before trying out pills ask yourself this, are you still able to get an erection during masturbation? Do you still wake up with morning wood? If the answer is yes, than you can cross out the worries about having erectile dysfunction.
You've mentioned that your current girlfriend is the hottest girl you've ever dated and your probably just intimidated with this because you don't want to be a disappointment, also the fact that you are still a virgin can add to that pressure. Before trying out pills there are a variety of creams that you might want to try out first, also its very important to practice foreplay, this gives you time for both to get in the mood.
One other thing that you've mentioned was the first time that you've tried to have sex you were drunk and yes this can bring problems in getting an erection, but my other question is, do you do any types of drugs? Such as smoking marijuana? Many pot smokers will deny that smoking pot has anything to do with not getting a hard on but the facts are that some pot smokers can not achieve full erection, and smoking the seeds of the marijuana can cause impotence. So next time your with your girlfriend just take it easy, and remember the foreplay.
Good Luck!
You've mentioned that your current girlfriend is the hottest girl you've ever dated and your probably just intimidated with this because you don't want to be a disappointment, also the fact that you are still a virgin can add to that pressure. Before trying out pills there are a variety of creams that you might want to try out first, also its very important to practice foreplay, this gives you time for both to get in the mood.
One other thing that you've mentioned was the first time that you've tried to have sex you were drunk and yes this can bring problems in getting an erection, but my other question is, do you do any types of drugs? Such as smoking marijuana? Many pot smokers will deny that smoking pot has anything to do with not getting a hard on but the facts are that some pot smokers can not achieve full erection, and smoking the seeds of the marijuana can cause impotence. So next time your with your girlfriend just take it easy, and remember the foreplay.
Good Luck!
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