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can I have sex?
I'll turn 18 in a few months and i never had menstruation.I've been to 10 gynecologists maybe and non of them told me what the problem is.anyway, my question is -can i have sex?
and because I've never had menstruation , can my vagina not be developed as it should?
and one more thing.I've also read somewhere i can't remember now, that after your first time you can bleed for 2-3 days, is that true?
thank you!
and because I've never had menstruation , can my vagina not be developed as it should?
and one more thing.I've also read somewhere i can't remember now, that after your first time you can bleed for 2-3 days, is that true?
thank you!
Doing sex at this age is Medically fine, but getting pregnent is not good , as it will impact on your health a lot.Regarding virginity, now a days hardly we will get the virgins ,as the Hymen can break even after Cycling and Running etc...that dosent means that you are deflored.
Dr.Zuber
Dr.Zuber
When you're over the age of 14, doctors have no legal right to tell anyone else outside your doctor/patient relationship ANYTHING about your case unless there are legal consequences eg: if you had been beaten by your parents, the dr. would have to tel lthe police.
But in the case of you beign a virgin, no, they cannot tell anyone unless you say to them outright that they are.
doctor/patient confidentiality is a wonderful thing :D
But in the case of you beign a virgin, no, they cannot tell anyone unless you say to them outright that they are.
doctor/patient confidentiality is a wonderful thing :D
YES you can definitely have sex. There is no reason your vagina wouldn't be fully developed. And you won't know unless you try!
It is curious why you have not yet got your period though, however that has nothing to do with whether or not you can actually have sex itself. And I cannot answer that question.
There can be a little bleeding after your first intercourse, but I've never heard of it being for 2-3 days. That seems odd because the bleeding simply comes from the vaginal opening getting a little tear in it from stretching - it's a bit like a cut or torn skin anywhere else on the body. Have you ever heard of cuts or tears elsewhere on the body bleeding for 2-3 days?? I haven't anyway. But SOME women, yes, do experience some blood. It can also hurt a little the first time, just make sure you are very lubricated before attempting to put the penis in that will minimise any bleeding & pain. Also make sure the man takes is slowly your first time that will help to.
thank you :D!!!!
You really need to find out why you do not have your period yet at the age of 18. Also, pleas euse birth control. Even without your period, you can get pregnant. Also use a condom, because you can get a STD also. Both a baby and a STD can be a life long responsibility. Is that what you want? Take care of yourself and your life.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
You sound like a very thoughtful person, and I'm glad you're making decisions that you think will be best for you. You say your physicians haven't been able to tell you if all your organs are developed properly. Any gynecological exam will reveal any conditions, so I'm sure all is well, or you would have been informed.
And, yes, stress and anxiety can affect your cycle. I wonder why you're so stressed and anxious. Maybe it's something to begin to examine and get help with, since it will affect not only your sexuality, but also all your relationships and potentially your future. Something that's serious enough to delay your period should definitely not be ignored.
As to lubrication: if you are indeed producing enough lubrication, then no need for buying lube; however, even if you are very turned on, if you are having penis-vagina sex for long periods of time, even the most willing vagina might not produce enough lubrication, so don't be shy about using some if you need to. Dr. J
You sound like a very thoughtful person, and I'm glad you're making decisions that you think will be best for you. You say your physicians haven't been able to tell you if all your organs are developed properly. Any gynecological exam will reveal any conditions, so I'm sure all is well, or you would have been informed.
And, yes, stress and anxiety can affect your cycle. I wonder why you're so stressed and anxious. Maybe it's something to begin to examine and get help with, since it will affect not only your sexuality, but also all your relationships and potentially your future. Something that's serious enough to delay your period should definitely not be ignored.
As to lubrication: if you are indeed producing enough lubrication, then no need for buying lube; however, even if you are very turned on, if you are having penis-vagina sex for long periods of time, even the most willing vagina might not produce enough lubrication, so don't be shy about using some if you need to. Dr. J
thank you very much! I'm going to do it because i want to.no one is forcing me.
all the gyns say that they can't see if all my organs are developed as they should(except the ovaries-they are fine).
I think that i should wait some more time before i go to the doctor again. because i feel stressed all the time and I'm nervous most of the time so that can be a cause for not having my period...
is it possible that my uterus is not fully developed(if that is possible), if so , can i have sex then?
also one more question-why should i use lube, can't i get wet enough myself? ( is a condom fine(like lube)
p.s. i know that i should always have sex with condoms
thank you!
all the gyns say that they can't see if all my organs are developed as they should(except the ovaries-they are fine).
I think that i should wait some more time before i go to the doctor again. because i feel stressed all the time and I'm nervous most of the time so that can be a cause for not having my period...
is it possible that my uterus is not fully developed(if that is possible), if so , can i have sex then?
also one more question-why should i use lube, can't i get wet enough myself? ( is a condom fine(like lube)
p.s. i know that i should always have sex with condoms
thank you!
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
Let me get this straight: you're 18 but haven't yet gotten your period, and you've been to many gynecologists. Have you asked any of them what's going on? There's a reason why you haven't yet gotten your period, and you should ask what it is.
Laws in countries differ regarding patient confidentiality. Your profile says you're in Australia, and I'm unfamiliar with your laws. I would behoove you to research this; however, as far as I know, confidentiality laws are fairly universal for 18-year-olds. No ethical physcian can disclose anything about you unless required by a court to do so.
If you're considering having penis-vagina sex, I'd encourage you to first learn about your body by self-pleasuring if you haven't yet done so. The more you know about your own orgasmic response and how you like to be touched, the more effectively you can communicate with a partner.
And, yes, some women do experience bleeding during the first time; however, most women today are so active that they no longer have an untorn hymen due to exercise, etc., so most women don't see a lot of blood--if any.
And it's important to go slow and use lots of lube. Be sure that you feel good about this decision and also that you're feeling pleasure while being sexual and not just doing it for a partner's enjoyment. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Let me get this straight: you're 18 but haven't yet gotten your period, and you've been to many gynecologists. Have you asked any of them what's going on? There's a reason why you haven't yet gotten your period, and you should ask what it is.
Laws in countries differ regarding patient confidentiality. Your profile says you're in Australia, and I'm unfamiliar with your laws. I would behoove you to research this; however, as far as I know, confidentiality laws are fairly universal for 18-year-olds. No ethical physcian can disclose anything about you unless required by a court to do so.
If you're considering having penis-vagina sex, I'd encourage you to first learn about your body by self-pleasuring if you haven't yet done so. The more you know about your own orgasmic response and how you like to be touched, the more effectively you can communicate with a partner.
And, yes, some women do experience bleeding during the first time; however, most women today are so active that they no longer have an untorn hymen due to exercise, etc., so most women don't see a lot of blood--if any.
And it's important to go slow and use lots of lube. Be sure that you feel good about this decision and also that you're feeling pleasure while being sexual and not just doing it for a partner's enjoyment. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
thanx:D
thank you very much!
I would also like to know, if the gynecologists are allowed to tell my parents or someone else if I am a virgin or not?
because there are some cases when the doctors told the parents but there are more cases when they didn't..
that is my only fear
thank you!
I would also like to know, if the gynecologists are allowed to tell my parents or someone else if I am a virgin or not?
because there are some cases when the doctors told the parents but there are more cases when they didn't..
that is my only fear
thank you!
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Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
