Erection issue

[cab10017]

I am 27 year old and get nervous and loose erections when I try to have penetrative sex. In my entire life, I have only had sex 3-4 times.
I do not have issues while masturbating or receiving fellatio. How can I overcome this? Please help.
I have been masturbating and watching porn for years, can that be a cause? How can I stop my porn addiction?

Thanks

[Janice M Epp, PhD]

Hello.

First things first: watching porn is something enjoyed by millions of people and doesn't indicate there's anything wrong with you.

Since you're having erections with yourself and during oral sex, we can rule out any physiological conditions. That leaves us with the fact that you're clearly uncomfortable and conflicted about having any form of intimate sexuality with a partner where you have to see their face and relate to them.

You'll need to sit down and think about possibilities. Are you unsure of yourself? Scared of intimacy? Worried that someone won't enjoy being sexual in this way? Conflicted about some moral issues/messages? There are so many possibilities. It's up to you to figure out what's going on. If you can't gain any helpful insights, then you might want to consult a counselor trained to help people with sexual concerns. Best of luck to you. Dr. J

[someguy248]

Oh, the porn addiction issue..  there's nothing wrong with porn, enjoy it. If you are enjoying it too often then it means you have too much boring alone time, you are single, maybe play WoW and possibly unemployed. fix any of these issues you have and the porn will solve it's self.

[someguy248]

Sounds like you may not be comfortable with your partner or with yourself since you are comfortable with your porn, so it's not like you have a physical problem. Maybe see your doctor about your anxiety, xanax may help you get over your fears until you learn to ride that bike, a beer or two might help. Is this a problem with one night stands or someone you are in a relationship with? You may just need something long term and not be cut out for random hookups. Take it slow, have some forplay, maybe do it with the lights out. let her know about your situation, she may like your innocence, don't bring up the porn though dude.