I've never participated in a forum discussion before, but I really need advice. My boyfriend is 26 years old. We've been together 2 years and have always had great, amazing sex. About a year ago, he injured his back at work and now has both a ruptured and herniated disc. He is in constant pain and is prescribed numerous narcotics (such as vicodin, embeda, xanax, etc) from his surgeon and doctors to control the pain. We do not have a problem becoming aroused by each other, and he has no problem staying hard, however, even after hours he cannot orgasm. I have no problem and orgasm multiple times. It's very frustrating and upsetting for the both of us. I feel like it's my fault, like I'm not attractive enough or tight enough or anything enough. We've tried regular sex, oral and anal and he still can't get off. I feel so guilty and depressed about it. Do the drugs have a lot to do with it? Or is it me? Somebody, anybody- PLEASE give me advice. I've even tried losing weight, wearing lingerie, etc to seem more attractive. Also, after we do have sex, and he doesn't get anything out of it, his back kills him. What do I do??? I'm so upset about it and it is beginning to affect our relationship in a very negative way.
I'm begging- please. ANYBODY out there!! Is there any way I can help him or anything I can do?