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No sex drive
I'm 20 about to turn 21 and have no sex drive. I mean like at all. I was a virgin until just a few weeks ago. I was sexually molested as a young child and I wonder if that has something to do with my lack of sexual feelings. I want to feel something when I have sex and I want to want to have sex but I do. It really hurts every time i've had sex which I dont fully understand either. I have not told the boy I'm dating yet about this just keep trying and hoping it will get better. I need help
this child molestation affects you and many grown up adults today. first you need to go to a hypnotist and get a relation session and talk about your problem with the md or phd hypnotist and will help you relax and get away from the problem.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi Panda.
I'm assuming that you're referring to penis-vagina (p-v) sex that is causing you pain? As for your lack of sexual desire, pain can affect that pretty quickly.
There are many possible causes of your pain. The most common is that you aren’t wet enough. This is a reminder to only have sex when YOU'RE ready. Be sure that: 1) you’re turned on when your partner enters you and 2) you’re lubricated. If you ARE turned on, but are still dry, there are several excellent lubricants available. Some women also experience pain and/or bleeding if they engage in penis-vagina sex for too long or if the thrusting is too hard or vigorous. If none of these is the case, other possible causes are various infections, certain medications, hormonal imbalance, perfumed soaps which can irritate tissue and urinary tract infections. It’s a good idea to see your gynecologist for a check-up to find out if any of these is contributing to your pain.
Here are some other possible causes for your lack of desire. You may have negative attitudes about sex in general, or you may be bored or frustrated with your partner. Whose idea was it to begin having p-v sex? Was it your decision, or did you feel pressured? During sex, is your partner interested in your pleasure, or merely focused on his own? In addition, trust can be a big factor in women's enjoyment of sex. If, for some reason, you feel vulnerable with your partner, this may greatly inhibit your ability to get turned on. See below.
You mention that you had some non-consensual sexual experiences as a child. If you haven't worked through any feelings of guilt, anger, etc., this can be a big inhibiting factor to sexual desire and arousal and can definitely affect your ability to trust your partner and let go during sex.
I’m also wondering what YOU think is contributing to this and whether you’ve taken any actions to try to change it. You’ve probably got more insight than you realize. If you want to explore your feelings and begin to understand what's inhibiting you, I strongly urge you to see a counselor who is trained to help people with sexual concerns. Good luck to you. Dr. J
I'm assuming that you're referring to penis-vagina (p-v) sex that is causing you pain? As for your lack of sexual desire, pain can affect that pretty quickly.
There are many possible causes of your pain. The most common is that you aren’t wet enough. This is a reminder to only have sex when YOU'RE ready. Be sure that: 1) you’re turned on when your partner enters you and 2) you’re lubricated. If you ARE turned on, but are still dry, there are several excellent lubricants available. Some women also experience pain and/or bleeding if they engage in penis-vagina sex for too long or if the thrusting is too hard or vigorous. If none of these is the case, other possible causes are various infections, certain medications, hormonal imbalance, perfumed soaps which can irritate tissue and urinary tract infections. It’s a good idea to see your gynecologist for a check-up to find out if any of these is contributing to your pain.
Here are some other possible causes for your lack of desire. You may have negative attitudes about sex in general, or you may be bored or frustrated with your partner. Whose idea was it to begin having p-v sex? Was it your decision, or did you feel pressured? During sex, is your partner interested in your pleasure, or merely focused on his own? In addition, trust can be a big factor in women's enjoyment of sex. If, for some reason, you feel vulnerable with your partner, this may greatly inhibit your ability to get turned on. See below.
You mention that you had some non-consensual sexual experiences as a child. If you haven't worked through any feelings of guilt, anger, etc., this can be a big inhibiting factor to sexual desire and arousal and can definitely affect your ability to trust your partner and let go during sex.
I’m also wondering what YOU think is contributing to this and whether you’ve taken any actions to try to change it. You’ve probably got more insight than you realize. If you want to explore your feelings and begin to understand what's inhibiting you, I strongly urge you to see a counselor who is trained to help people with sexual concerns. Good luck to you. Dr. J
If you are still holding onto guilt or feelings of anger about being sexually molested as a child then yes it will affect your sex life greatly. to the point where you may need to seek advice from a counselor to help you deal with your past.
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