Hello.
What you've experienced is your body's reaction to becoming sexually aroused and not experiencing orgasm. Everyone has different reasons for not being sexual, so I assume you have yours.
Here's why you may be feeling discomfort:
During sex, the body goes through distinct phases of physiological change. As soon as you become aroused, if you’re male, blood flows to your crotch, which results in erection. This phase is also characterized by an increase in muscle tension and heart rate as well as nipple erection in both sexes.
In the next phase, if the penis is stimulated, erection will become stiffer. The urethra enlarges to accommodate the passage of semen out of the body.
If effective stimulation continues, orgasm occurs. This is characterized by a series of involuntary muscle contractions in the crotch, occurring every eight-tenths of a second. In men, orgasm occurs in two stages. The first stage could be called the “point of no return.” You can sense an orgasm is imminent, but if you remove the stimulation, breathe and relax, you can delay it and begin to build back up to orgasm again. Once you decide to orgasm, you’ll proceed through the second stage, during which the contractions will cause ejaculation of semen.
After orgasm, if no further stimulation occurs, the body returns fairly rapidly to its unaroused state, or more slowly if no orgasm has occurred. The blood leaves the crotch and returns to the rest of the body, including the brain (rational thought resumes!). Erection goes down. Sometimes, men’s penises feel very sensitive and even ticklish, while other times, they may enjoy continued stimulation.
And here's where it concerns you: if you experience sexual arousal, wherein the blood flows to your penis, but DON'T have an orgasm, the blood stays in the general area for a longer amount of time, and the urethra stays enlarged. Sometimes this can cause a feeling of fullness and discomfort, including what men have referred to as "blue balls." There is nothing harmful about this--it's merely uncomfortable.
When, and if, you decide to become sexual and have orgasms--either with yourself or with a partner--you will no longer experience this discomfort. Dr. J
Hello,
I am in wonder why no answers yet? Is it because I decided not to engage in sexual intercourse before marriage and still encountered this problem of ejaculatory duct pain? Or would I get answers if one practices non-martial sex regularly and suffered from this condition stated in the first posting?
I am a Married, member of my church. A healthy sex life with a loving partner does relieve the pain I experience(d), having a very active drive myself. Even though I'm married, self control and decorum is still an important part of the partnership! In short marriage is awesome!