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I am 28 years old and my husband is 34 we have been married from 2 years he has never had sex with me. if i try tempting him it was waste he just goes to sleep. I am not sure why he is treating me like this
Hi janice,
Thank you very much, i tried speaking to him but he is not very interested to discuss on the topic
Thank you very much, i tried speaking to him but he is not very interested to discuss on the topic
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
Unless you’re a mind-reader, how can you possibly know why your husband hasn't had sex with you? You haven’t asked him. Let’s look at some possible contributing factors:
Many men get messages that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure. Some men are very affected by cultural or family messages that women who have sex are somehow “dirty” or evil, and this affects their desire for their wives, so they can only have sex with women who are strangers.
There are many other factors which could be affecting his desire, including stress, anxiety, fear of failure, and, most importantly, relationship conflicts.
Your next step now is to approach him with the idea of sitting down to talk. It’s important that you don’t adopt an accusatory or angry manner, but instead are loving and accepting. Let him know that whatever he feels, you’ll be supportive—and hope he’ll be the same for you. Point out to him that the two of you need to work this out together. A therapist trained to help couples who have sexual issues can also help the two of you to express your feelings. Good luck to you. Dr. J
Unless you’re a mind-reader, how can you possibly know why your husband hasn't had sex with you? You haven’t asked him. Let’s look at some possible contributing factors:
Many men get messages that sex is somehow dirty and wrong, unless you’re doing it for reproductive purposes. Sometimes this can creep into our unconscious thoughts and sabotage any pleasure. Some men are very affected by cultural or family messages that women who have sex are somehow “dirty” or evil, and this affects their desire for their wives, so they can only have sex with women who are strangers.
There are many other factors which could be affecting his desire, including stress, anxiety, fear of failure, and, most importantly, relationship conflicts.
Your next step now is to approach him with the idea of sitting down to talk. It’s important that you don’t adopt an accusatory or angry manner, but instead are loving and accepting. Let him know that whatever he feels, you’ll be supportive—and hope he’ll be the same for you. Point out to him that the two of you need to work this out together. A therapist trained to help couples who have sexual issues can also help the two of you to express your feelings. Good luck to you. Dr. J
You should have a conversation about your problem.
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