Very confused

[rbec]

My husband and I are in our mid-late 50's - we've been together for 3 years and were recently married (7 wks ago)  I love him dearly but so far, we haven't consumated our marriage...!  When we were first together, our sex life was fabulous - 2,3,4 times a week.  It diminshed (became virtually non-existent) when my youngest son passed away 2 years ago and so far, we've had sex 2 times since.  
I've gently tried to bring this up - we usually are very open with one another - but all he does is chuckle-as if he's embarrassed (completely alien reaction)...???  I've directly asked why and he answers that he's 'just tired' when I want to make love...  Granted, we both own businesses and do get exhausted, but I still have strong desires and want that closeness... He rarely even snuggles anymore.
We've both been checked by our Dr. and we're in good shape (I'm type 2 diabetic but in total control)
Can't figure this out....
Any suggestions?

[mamy93]

ur an idiot ...... vladamor .... now rbec ....ur husband is probaley still thinking about ur son .... thats why he acts like that .... just tell him that you miss him to but you have to move on ....but don't pressure him. getting over a death can take yrs ..... but it depends on the person ....just talk. ... cry if u need to.!.

[vladamor]

slip him some stuff you can get at the gass station its called horney goat weed

[JMengele]

Congrats first of all on your marriage, personally i don't believe in such institutions. 4 times a week! gleinschin! thats a lot. But now that yo are married there seems to be no ainxn(action in german) in the bedroom. SOLUTION take of your wedding rings and role play that junk. Pretend that you arent't married, that's the trick. Premarital sexytime is such an einsfich(aphrodisiac). Having what you shouldn't is extreme sexy. Now that you are married you have permission, just throw your rings to the tail winds and jump on it.

sincerely JMengele