I broke it off with him. 3 days later he did heroin, and again the next week. He blaims it on ME! JERK! Thanks 4 all of ur help! I'm so glad I'm not caught up in that still.
Blah blah blah Girl, u KNOW he is no good. Cut ties. Just do it.
Thank you! But its so hard to leave him. I love him and I hate seeing him this way. He calls me crying, telling me that its so hard for him. He's all alone, he doesn't have any friends because he dropped his druggie friends. I know I have to leave him. I just am having trouble cutting all ties. I guess I just don't know how to do it. I really appreciate you writing me about this. Especially coming from an expert.
Go into therapy right now! Because you need to get away from this guy-- and if he really loved you- he'd push you away- because he knows he's bad news. Instead he is trying to guilt trip you into staying. Drug addicts learn how to be manipulative , they have to be to get away with taking drugs. So he is saying you are in charge of his whole life instead of the truth: he is charge of his life and he doesn't want to take responsibility for this or most of his other acts.
This guy will bring you down. Look how you have suffered for him already. He will lie, cheat, steal, whatever it takes when he's on drugs-- and you may not know when that it. He has a terrible problem- in and out of rehab already so many times. I feel for him- but I feel for you more-- because you don't need to get in the gutter- and he's trying to take you there with him
If you have any self respect or survival instinct - you will get out of there. Go get some support from a religious figure, counselor, drug expert, group therapy, psychologist-- whatever you can find. But leave-- and stay away. He needs to lean on himself- not you. And you need to look ahead and not have the drama and pain that he continually brings into your life.
I know exactly how you feel.......... but my problem actually resulted in court because we have two children together.....
If you really love him, then you will be able to move on eventually, but if you don't love him and only feel sorry for him, then leave now! or you will be on an emotional roller coaster that no one should ever have to experience.
I will check in later to see how you are doing, I'd hate to see what happened to me happen to anyone!
What happened!? If you don't mind me asking....?
See..I don't want to get to the whole marriage and kids point and have him go back to drugs and ruin everything. I do love him, but I'm only 22, and I don't think I want to risk havin my future ruined when I can possibly find another man, one who doesn't have that history.