Hi Candie:
There is no link between depression and cross-dressing. There are two reasons a man might cross-dress: The first is because he’s turned on by wearing women’s clothing, like your friend/partner. In other words, he’s a transvestite. There are varying degrees of transvestism. Some men are turned on by wearing total outfits, while others stick to one or two articles of clothing. Transvestites are almost exclusively heterosexual men. They are not Gay, and they don’t want to be women, they’re just turned on to women’s clothes.
When you consider how much our society eroticizes women’s clothing, it’s not surprising that while many men get turned on by LOOKING at women in sexy clothes, others make the leap to wearing them. We humans are endlessly creative in the ways we eroticize not only behavior but words, objects, situations, etc.
The second reason for cross-dressing is not sexual at all. If one is a transsexual, one feels trapped in the body of the wrong sex, so a male transsexual dresses as a woman in order to express his true self. This doesn’t sound like your partner.
If you’d like more information about transvestism, there are many support groups and information sites. Two resources for further information are:
http://www.rachelmiller.info/linkso1.htm
http://ourworld.compuserve.com/homepages/cathytg/essays.htm
Dr. J
thank you for clearing this up1 we have talked and done some rolepalying and are happy with the results.. he will be relieved to find this out..