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Anal sex and addiction
Dear I hope you/somebody can help with this issue..
Some girl she is good and belong to good family, grow up well/decent. after she becomes 16 years old she felt interested with anal sex as straight normal sex. She likes or loves to have anal sex, after she hookup up with a boyfriend , she asked him fir anal sex, and to ejaculate in her anus instead of vegaina. when he started ejaculation semes in her back or anus, she becomes very very addicted to have anal sex and have him ejaculating in the anus. Without ejaculation she will not calm, and if her boyfriend is not available , she will look for other men to have only anal sex and ejaculation in her anus.. Now she needs help with two issues, first she wants to get cured from becoming so so horny and having irritation in her anal/anus and second she wants some medicine to stop or reduce the desire of anal sex. She does not want it any more, she wants to be able to live normal and quit this desire. Your help will be so appreciated..
Thank you so much. I wish I included a prescription to stop anal irritating.
Thank you for you effort for helping the one who I care about.
Thank you for you effort for helping the one who I care about.
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello
It's difficult for me to answer your friend by answering you. Perhaps she would like to tell you, in her words, how she feels, and you can then translate and post to me. In the meantime, here are some facts from me directly to her:
First, many people love anal sex. The anus is full of erotic parts, just like many parts of our bodies. There is nothing to be ashamed of.
Second, just because you like anal sex doesn't mean you have a problem. If it's what you like, the best thing I can tell you is to learn to do it well, enjoy it and accept that it's part of your erotic personality.
When I mention doing it well, it's because there are some basic health issues you need to know about anal sex. Here they are:
1. Talk with your partner about the need for him to go very slowly and gently until you say he can begin to move.
2. Unlike the vagina or the mouth, the anus and rectum don't have a built-in source of lubrication. In addition, the rectum is designed to absorb liquids so you've got to provide your own lube, and lots of it. The rule of thumb is to use as much as you think you need, and then use more. If you're using latex condoms, be sure to use one water-based (like Astroglide, Slippery Stuff, or Elbow Grease Gel) or silicone-based (like Eros's silicone lube), but it's important never to use petroleum-based or oil-based lubricants (like Vaseline or massage oil) since those destroy latex.
3. Although lubricant is a requirement, do NOT use any of creams (or any drugs) that dull nerves and mask any pain. These encourage tearing of the skin and other harm to the anus, since they dull pain. Remember that pain is our early-warning system and should never be ignored.
4. The key here is to go very slowly, and only proceed when you’re ready. In fact, you shouldn’t have penis-anus sex until you’re super turned on. Try changing your pattern. Instead of having p-a sex AFTER you have p-v sex and orgasms, try doing it before you orgasm, while you’re really turned on. If you do p-a sex before p-v sex, remember never to put anything in your vagina that’s first been in your anus because the bacteria that live in your anus can sometimes be hostile to those that live in your vagina. So if you want to back and forth, be sure your partner washes his penis/fingers thoroughly before inserting into your vagina.
5. And remember to follow risk reduction guidelines to avoid getting or giving infections, including HIV. For example, condoms need to be used for sexual activities where body fluids may be involved (including anal sex).
Finally, I highly recommend the book, “Anal Pleasure and Health,” by Jack Morin, Ph.D., widely available. This book is a very comprehensive resource for having fun with anal sex. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
It's difficult for me to answer your friend by answering you. Perhaps she would like to tell you, in her words, how she feels, and you can then translate and post to me. In the meantime, here are some facts from me directly to her:
First, many people love anal sex. The anus is full of erotic parts, just like many parts of our bodies. There is nothing to be ashamed of.
Second, just because you like anal sex doesn't mean you have a problem. If it's what you like, the best thing I can tell you is to learn to do it well, enjoy it and accept that it's part of your erotic personality.
When I mention doing it well, it's because there are some basic health issues you need to know about anal sex. Here they are:
1. Talk with your partner about the need for him to go very slowly and gently until you say he can begin to move.
2. Unlike the vagina or the mouth, the anus and rectum don't have a built-in source of lubrication. In addition, the rectum is designed to absorb liquids so you've got to provide your own lube, and lots of it. The rule of thumb is to use as much as you think you need, and then use more. If you're using latex condoms, be sure to use one water-based (like Astroglide, Slippery Stuff, or Elbow Grease Gel) or silicone-based (like Eros's silicone lube), but it's important never to use petroleum-based or oil-based lubricants (like Vaseline or massage oil) since those destroy latex.
3. Although lubricant is a requirement, do NOT use any of creams (or any drugs) that dull nerves and mask any pain. These encourage tearing of the skin and other harm to the anus, since they dull pain. Remember that pain is our early-warning system and should never be ignored.
4. The key here is to go very slowly, and only proceed when you’re ready. In fact, you shouldn’t have penis-anus sex until you’re super turned on. Try changing your pattern. Instead of having p-a sex AFTER you have p-v sex and orgasms, try doing it before you orgasm, while you’re really turned on. If you do p-a sex before p-v sex, remember never to put anything in your vagina that’s first been in your anus because the bacteria that live in your anus can sometimes be hostile to those that live in your vagina. So if you want to back and forth, be sure your partner washes his penis/fingers thoroughly before inserting into your vagina.
5. And remember to follow risk reduction guidelines to avoid getting or giving infections, including HIV. For example, condoms need to be used for sexual activities where body fluids may be involved (including anal sex).
Finally, I highly recommend the book, “Anal Pleasure and Health,” by Jack Morin, Ph.D., widely available. This book is a very comprehensive resource for having fun with anal sex. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
Dear Janice EppI sent this message due to her poor English language, and I do care of her. That was my first post and I found it little difficult to find such person. If I would've know your contact email I will do, so please consider this post is toward you as long there is a horizon of way out of such problem. Please extend your kind support .
Dear Jannica I sent this message due to her poor English language, and I do care of her. That was my first post and I found it little difficult to find such person. If I would've know your contact email I will do, so please consider this post is toward you as long there is a horizon of way out of such problem. Please extend your kind support .
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
I cannot answer questions about someone who hasn't written to me. If this woman is having a concern, she should write to me, and I will answer.
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