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how do i stop masterbation
first thx for taking ur time to read this my quetion is i hv been mastrbating since i was 15 im allmost 20 now i hvnt seen any effect on my body but in my mind im filing guilt evry time i do it .i do it all most 3 times a day plase help me and tell me how to stop it in my country its very hard to talk about this caus it is concidred as saham.thank u
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
I'm sorry that you've received such negative and incorrect information. Let me replace those myths with facts for you.
You can find so much misinformation on the Internet because there’s no quality control. “Over-masturbation” sites are written by people who want to sell you something, for example, herbal remedies. No medical expert recognizes “over-masturbation” because there is no scientific evidence that there is any such thing, just as there’s no such thing as “under-masturbation.” What most of these non-experts mean by “over-masturbation” is anything more than what THEY do or are comfortable with.
Let’s note the difference between a “belief” and a demonstrable fact. There are people who believe that the earth is flat, in spite of all evidence to the contrary. Similiarly, many cultures have myths that associate semen with strength. That's where discomfort with self-pleasuring comes from. None of these myths is based on any scientific research.
Self-pleasuring (masturbation) doesn’t affect your body in any negative way. As you note, however, if you feel uncomfortable about it, you can end up with feelings of guilt. These come from receiving misinformation.
Let’s talk about what we DO know about self-pleasuring.
It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control. If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.
Another advantage is self-knowledge: How can you show a partner what you like if you don’t know yourself?
And the #1 reason for self-pleasuring: it’s fun!
Self-pleasuring is a part of who you are sexually—for your whole life, not just when you don’t have a partner. People self-pleasure from birth to death, when they’re alone and when they’re partnered. It’s just one of many options we have as sexual beings. It’s not better or worse than partner sex, just different—like steak is different than chicken.
Remember that all our scientific data show that the people who take responsibility for their OWN pleasure have the best sex lives and rate themselves as happiest about their sexuality. So please stop torturing yourself, accept your sexuality as a gift and start enjoying life.
Your body is working fine—it’s your heart/brain that’s getting in the way. For more information about self-pleasuring, attitude, etc., I highly recommend the book “The New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D. It’s widely available online, both used and in paperback and is an invaluable resource.
Relax, and accept yourself for who you are. Listen to your inner voice; it will tell you what's best for you. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
I'm sorry that you've received such negative and incorrect information. Let me replace those myths with facts for you.
You can find so much misinformation on the Internet because there’s no quality control. “Over-masturbation” sites are written by people who want to sell you something, for example, herbal remedies. No medical expert recognizes “over-masturbation” because there is no scientific evidence that there is any such thing, just as there’s no such thing as “under-masturbation.” What most of these non-experts mean by “over-masturbation” is anything more than what THEY do or are comfortable with.
Let’s note the difference between a “belief” and a demonstrable fact. There are people who believe that the earth is flat, in spite of all evidence to the contrary. Similiarly, many cultures have myths that associate semen with strength. That's where discomfort with self-pleasuring comes from. None of these myths is based on any scientific research.
Self-pleasuring (masturbation) doesn’t affect your body in any negative way. As you note, however, if you feel uncomfortable about it, you can end up with feelings of guilt. These come from receiving misinformation.
Let’s talk about what we DO know about self-pleasuring.
It’s the surest way to orgasm and the most effective way to learn about our sexual response cycle, as well as the surest way men to learn orgasmic control. If you feel you come too quickly, the surest way to slow down is to teach yourself a new pattern via self-pleasuring.
Another advantage is self-knowledge: How can you show a partner what you like if you don’t know yourself?
And the #1 reason for self-pleasuring: it’s fun!
Self-pleasuring is a part of who you are sexually—for your whole life, not just when you don’t have a partner. People self-pleasure from birth to death, when they’re alone and when they’re partnered. It’s just one of many options we have as sexual beings. It’s not better or worse than partner sex, just different—like steak is different than chicken.
Remember that all our scientific data show that the people who take responsibility for their OWN pleasure have the best sex lives and rate themselves as happiest about their sexuality. So please stop torturing yourself, accept your sexuality as a gift and start enjoying life.
Your body is working fine—it’s your heart/brain that’s getting in the way. For more information about self-pleasuring, attitude, etc., I highly recommend the book “The New Male Sexuality” by Bernie Zilbergeld, Ph.D. It’s widely available online, both used and in paperback and is an invaluable resource.
Relax, and accept yourself for who you are. Listen to your inner voice; it will tell you what's best for you. Best of luck to you. Dr. J
its hard to quit completely but its all about self control try to back it down to one time a day and then try to get it to 3 times a week until you are at a rate that you consider more normal. also if internet adult websites are a contributer get a blocker and just type random letters for your password so you wont ever be able to disable it.
its a tuff battle but it can be done
its a tuff battle but it can be done
Thank u dr j i found ur idea more helpfull than the others if its ok i will like to ask u qutions related to std .thank u again
Just dont do it. Personally, i think theres nothing wrong with it, but once a day should suffice your urge, 3 times a day would be excessive. :) good luck
Obviously this isn't a std related question so this isn't the most appropriate forum for this question.
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STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
Discharge often isn't normal, and could mean an infection or an STD.
STDs aren't transmitted through clothing. Fabric is a germ barrier.
Normal vaginal discharge varies in color, smell, texture and amount.
