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My wife is post menapause and is dry and has a low libido because of it. We used to be very compatible but now sex hurts. Are there medicines that may help her condition? thank you, Sam Jewell
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi.
It's difficult for me to answer your question for two reasons: 1) I'm not sure what you mean by "libido" because people use that term to cover a multitude of circumstances--everything from "she doesn't want to have when I do" to "he's not interested in sex with anyone, even himself" and everything in between. In other words, it's possible that your wife is still turned on and interested in sex, but is avoiding it because it's painful. It's also possible that she's no longer interested at all, and so she's using pain as an excuse. Or it's possible that there's a combination of the two. It's fruitless to speculate. There's only one way to find out, and that's to talk with her about this. Realize that many women feel less attractive after menopause--and with good reason. All the images we're bombarded with show women as sexy only when they're young. It's difficult for many of us to feel sexy when everything around us tells us we shouldn't.
So there's a conversation you need to have with your wife. She needs to hear that you find her sexy and attractive and that you always will.
2) The second part of your question deals with medications, and the short answer is: I don't know. In order to determine whether your wife has any hormonal imbalance which affects her lubrication, she'd need to see her gynecologist. If she's motivated to do that, I'd encourage her. Don't be fooled by over-the-counter remedies that purport to increase female desire. None has been found to be effective, and they're simply designed to part you with your money.
However, there ARE some good lubricants which may help your wife. I recommend Replens, because it's the product that most resembles a woman's natural lubrication. However, there are many others on the market, and I encourage you and your wife to experiment with several to determine which works best for you. Best of luck to you both. Dr. J
It's difficult for me to answer your question for two reasons: 1) I'm not sure what you mean by "libido" because people use that term to cover a multitude of circumstances--everything from "she doesn't want to have when I do" to "he's not interested in sex with anyone, even himself" and everything in between. In other words, it's possible that your wife is still turned on and interested in sex, but is avoiding it because it's painful. It's also possible that she's no longer interested at all, and so she's using pain as an excuse. Or it's possible that there's a combination of the two. It's fruitless to speculate. There's only one way to find out, and that's to talk with her about this. Realize that many women feel less attractive after menopause--and with good reason. All the images we're bombarded with show women as sexy only when they're young. It's difficult for many of us to feel sexy when everything around us tells us we shouldn't.
So there's a conversation you need to have with your wife. She needs to hear that you find her sexy and attractive and that you always will.
2) The second part of your question deals with medications, and the short answer is: I don't know. In order to determine whether your wife has any hormonal imbalance which affects her lubrication, she'd need to see her gynecologist. If she's motivated to do that, I'd encourage her. Don't be fooled by over-the-counter remedies that purport to increase female desire. None has been found to be effective, and they're simply designed to part you with your money.
However, there ARE some good lubricants which may help your wife. I recommend Replens, because it's the product that most resembles a woman's natural lubrication. However, there are many others on the market, and I encourage you and your wife to experiment with several to determine which works best for you. Best of luck to you both. Dr. J
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