premature ejaculation

[trobb]

I ejaculate too quickly and it was not like that in my younger days.  I cannot go for the second round even after ejaculation.  My wife is not satisfied even though she does not nagg or complain.  I am forty four years old.  what is the natural remedy

[Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D.]

  Well, there are two ways to look at this, and I think you need both. First of all, is your over all love making, second the quick ejaculation.
  Intercourse is not the only, and not even the most effective way to sexually satisfy a woman. Certainly it is part of love making, but did you know that most women do not have their most intense orgasms by intercourse?  The penis does not easily touch the clitorial area directly whereas oral sex, touching a woman and using a vibrator produce much more intense feelings.  My advice to you first and foremost of all, is satisfy her first before you have intercourse. If she is ecstatic, she is not going to mind your issues-- which will take a lot of pressure off of you-- and that will be the first start with premature ejaculation. Get a few books- some of which are written for women- and you will see I am not just saying this because you said you ejaculated too quickly. I am saying this because it is true. You can read the female sexuality ' bible'  Tje Good Vibrations Guide to Sex and check out what I have said...

  As far as the problem you have presented me with - I wonder if you have tried the squeeze technique. It is natural- basically it is just puting your thumb and forefinger below the ridge of the penis when you start to feel close to ejaculating. You need firm pressure, creating a slightly uncomfortable feeling- and that will usually cause the urge to orgasm to subside. If it doesn't - try the technique earlier in your excitement and keep backing off and putting the pressure back on when you feel too close.  This technique has been used over a long time ( see Human Sexuality by Kolodney, Masters and Johnson) and very effectively. You might also get a urology check up just to see if there might be any physiological reason.

[john66]

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[AerialPainter]

You can also try more frequent masturbation to help desensitize your penis to the stimulation of intercourse.

[monkeyflower]

Rapid ejaculation is virtually always caused by anxiety. What else is going on for you right now? Are you under a lot of stress, feeling depressed, having relationship issues? If nothing else, it sounds like you're feeling worried about not pleasuring your wife, which is in itself a recipe for rapid/involuntary ejaculation.

My suggestion would be to move away from intercourse for a while. Give each other oral, use toys, hands, give each other massages. Do things that take your mind off of your genitals, and focus on pleasuring each other's entire bodies. Intercourse is only one of a zillion sexual activities. Start exploring. Once you know and feel confident that you can and do pleasure your partner in other ways, and you're feeling less anxious and pressured to perform, then I think you'll find that the rapid ejaculation isn't a problem anymore :-)