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sex desire in women
i have a severe sex trouble that i have a strong sex desire but when i start intercourse with my partner she is not getting excited for sex due to that i am satisfy with sex. So please tell me how to increase sexual urge in my partner.pl tell me fast otherwise i will loose my relation.
regards
Anand
regards
Anand
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hello.
I'm not sure what you are describing.
I’m going to guess that you think you’re not lasting long enough during your sexual encounters. Congratulations, you’re not alone. Many men are convinced they need to last longer. The fact is that during their early self-pleasuring experiments, many men learn a very quick orgasm pattern in order to avoid detection—like in the bathroom (“You’ve been in there for hours! What are you doing?”) Learning to come quickly with a partner can also set up this pattern. In addition, guilt, anxiety and relationship conflict may create a situation where some men just want to get it over with quickly so they won’t have to deal with any of those feelings. And, of course, if you’re focused on “performing,” rather than just enjoying yourself, your penis can become incredibly stubborn and uncooperative.
A lot of this anxiety about “premature” ejaculation is based on the erroneous idea that it’s somehow ideal to have erections last way longer than they tend to realistically for most men, most of the time. Sure, sometimes a man might last 15 minutes, 30 minutes, even an hour, but 75% of all males have an orgasm within 2 minutes of beginning penis-vagina (p-v) sex . I wonder if you’ve asked your partner whether she also wants you to last longer and if so, why?
If you’re truly dissatisfied and want to learn to last longer, here are some techniques to try:
First, slow down during self-pleasuring and unlearn that old pattern of quick orgasm. Try teasing yourself by stimulating yourself just to the point where you feel you’re about to orgasm, then backing off and relaxing, and then beginning again. This will give you a sense of control as well as teach you to recognize your own point of no return (when you know you're about to have an orgasm, no matter what). Another thing to try is when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, relax, breathe deeply, and cease movement. Some men also find they last longer if they have an orgasm on their own awhile before beginning partner sex. This tends to take the edge off, if you will.
Once you feel in control of your orgasm, you can also examine whether you have any feelings of discomfort with being sexual—either with yourself or with a partner. These feelings of discomfort can create extreme conflict and cause you to feel the need to get it over with quickly. If you look at sex as something to finish quickly—get it up, get it in, get it off—you’ll need to let go of that old mentality. And naturally, any relationship conflicts can also contribute.
So the bottom line is: first, look at your own attitudes and beliefs; second, relax and slow down; and third, replace those old behaviors that aren’t feeling good to you. If none of this works, you may benefit from seeing someone who can help you gain insight into your attitudes and behaviors; consult a therapist who specializes in sexual concerns. Dr. J
I'm not sure what you are describing.
I’m going to guess that you think you’re not lasting long enough during your sexual encounters. Congratulations, you’re not alone. Many men are convinced they need to last longer. The fact is that during their early self-pleasuring experiments, many men learn a very quick orgasm pattern in order to avoid detection—like in the bathroom (“You’ve been in there for hours! What are you doing?”) Learning to come quickly with a partner can also set up this pattern. In addition, guilt, anxiety and relationship conflict may create a situation where some men just want to get it over with quickly so they won’t have to deal with any of those feelings. And, of course, if you’re focused on “performing,” rather than just enjoying yourself, your penis can become incredibly stubborn and uncooperative.
A lot of this anxiety about “premature” ejaculation is based on the erroneous idea that it’s somehow ideal to have erections last way longer than they tend to realistically for most men, most of the time. Sure, sometimes a man might last 15 minutes, 30 minutes, even an hour, but 75% of all males have an orgasm within 2 minutes of beginning penis-vagina (p-v) sex . I wonder if you’ve asked your partner whether she also wants you to last longer and if so, why?
If you’re truly dissatisfied and want to learn to last longer, here are some techniques to try:
First, slow down during self-pleasuring and unlearn that old pattern of quick orgasm. Try teasing yourself by stimulating yourself just to the point where you feel you’re about to orgasm, then backing off and relaxing, and then beginning again. This will give you a sense of control as well as teach you to recognize your own point of no return (when you know you're about to have an orgasm, no matter what). Another thing to try is when you feel yourself getting close to orgasm, relax, breathe deeply, and cease movement. Some men also find they last longer if they have an orgasm on their own awhile before beginning partner sex. This tends to take the edge off, if you will.
Once you feel in control of your orgasm, you can also examine whether you have any feelings of discomfort with being sexual—either with yourself or with a partner. These feelings of discomfort can create extreme conflict and cause you to feel the need to get it over with quickly. If you look at sex as something to finish quickly—get it up, get it in, get it off—you’ll need to let go of that old mentality. And naturally, any relationship conflicts can also contribute.
So the bottom line is: first, look at your own attitudes and beliefs; second, relax and slow down; and third, replace those old behaviors that aren’t feeling good to you. If none of this works, you may benefit from seeing someone who can help you gain insight into your attitudes and behaviors; consult a therapist who specializes in sexual concerns. Dr. J
So are you finishing (orgasm) before her? Try some foreplay, explore her body and discover what she likes. Ask her what she likes. Make sure she is getting off before you are.
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