A therapist has diagnosed me with chronic depression, one I've had for more than 20 years. I was aware of this when the diagnosis came. I have blocked out the first 7 years of my life, and symptoms suggest something terrible happened during those 7 years that I can't sleep at night, I sleep with the door locked and have been always shy and had a poor image of myself.
I managed to put that depression to sleep a couple of years ago, but my mother's passing brought it all back, and I am working with a therapist to not put this depression to sleep anymore, but to deal with it. The problem is I have no interest in sex. I have never had a super sex life to begin with, I usually have painful intercourses and no orgasms (I have no problem getting an orgasm by myself, the problem is with other people) and due to this depression, the sole thought of sex disgusts me and this is putting a lot of strain on my relationship, as we have not made love for 5 months now. My partner is so upset he won't even kiss me goodnight anymore or hold my hand.
How can I make him understand that my lack of sex drive is not due to him doing something wrong, that the problem is me?
I only started counseling 1 month ago, and I am sure it will take longer than that. I am not sure my relationship will survive that long though.