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why a 12 year old sleeps with his parents?

ok i recently had to move in with my uncle because of court issues. im 14. and i share room with my cousin that is 12 and we get along well. in the first month of me living here everything was well. but as soon as school started he started sleeping with in his sisters room that is 10 because his gramma was sleeping there as well since she came for vacations. after about 3 months of the crap his gramma went back home and now hes sleeping in the same room as his parents. i realy would like to prove him that its daem wierd and gay. Hes a very smart kid, cocky, clumsy, and brags alot. i dont think there is nothing wrong with him. BUT COME ON A 12 YEAR OLD SLEEPING IN THE SAME ROOM AS BOTH HIS PARENTS!??!?!?!?! he just as tall as me, very tall for his age.and i just wanted to post his stupid problem on the internet to show him how wierd everyone will think it is. even if he denies it so can anyone try to explain this to him?
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1355118 tn?1298564879
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Hi, welcome to the forum, children’s should not sleep with there parents when they are more than 5 years. But this depends on the family setting, cultural norms, medical conditions and behavior.

It is the duty of parents to say them and make them understand that they are old and they need separate room, shelf etc. But there seems nothing wrong in him. He needs a behavioral therapy from the doctor. Take care and regards.
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1238554 tn?1339420116
Like JMcKale said, he very well could have night anxiety. Not everyone with anxiety is nervous all the time, and in fact most people with anxiety will try very hard not to show it. The fact that he's fine at school doesn't prove anything, night anxiety is called that because it happens at NIGHT, and so the anxiety may not manifest during the day. Sleep disorders are incredibly common but can be hard to get over. He is not weird, nor is he "gay", which if you're using that as an insult you really should stop, he just needs to sit down and talk to his parents to find out why he feels the need to sleep in the same room as other people.
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He possibly needs some therapy to be able to sleep on his own. His parents should be the one wanting this to end and enforce his sleeping habits. But if they are allowing him to sleep with them there might be some other issues that you don't know.
Because if his parents really thought he should sleep away they will reinforce it until he does. it will take time and patience to get over this problem...ridiculing him will not work.  
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umm not really his parents dont let him but he ******* enough to convince them his dad even gets mad an tell him he might as well trow away his bed if hes not gona sleep on it. His only excuse is that he gets NERVOUSE from school. but in school hes always happy, playing around and not showing the smalled sign of nervousness.
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He probably has night anxiety. This can be for a variety of reasons, ranging from nightmares to sleep disorders that cause things like sleep paralysis and hallucinations.

If his parents are allowing him to sleep with them then I'm sure this is something he has struggled with for a while and I don't think you should ridicule or harass him for it.

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