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Are you squandering your life?
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Yes.  Aren't most of us?  I mean, we'd all be like Mother Teresa if we weren't squandering it... though I guess she did not have children to raise.  But, still, if we did what she did in our own communities?  

I guess the question makes me want to do more... get more active.  Maybe in my church.  My community.  Even just trying to help passing strangers out.
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How we all suffer with this!! How severe we are towards ourselves.Regrets and if only's.

Sometimes I very bravely try to redifine SUCCESS.

Oh the pleasure in that !!!!

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Yes.. with that comes the realization of "unfulfilled dreams" and examining just what dreams we have.  It opens the door to possibilities and perhaps to give those "pats" on the back and cut ourselves some slack in some areas.

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How can we focus on "making the most of each day"?
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I think on this one alot. We get stuck in our own individual ruts, if you will. Jobs, laundry dinner and the like. Sometimes it seems that those things become to be, what we live for. We have to have money to buy food, housing, electric and even clothes. Technology today is great on one hand, providing unlimited resouces and ways of communicating with each other, however, I do believe it is a double edged sword in that it takes us even further away from the dinner table and those we live with. I think our communication in the home suffers and it is easy to replace the physical act of going to church and gathering with each other in the physical sense, with computer access instead. Each of us has a lifestyle and just the act of day to day existing can seem to be all that we get accomplished.  I do feel like sometimes, there is not enuff time in a day and as I get older, for some reason I just get busier. Whats up with that God?
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I agree with what you wrote, Teko.  I find too that as I am getting older, the days are busier.  So much left undone or what I could or should have done or would have "liked" to have done.

There are the "requirements" to be met that need to be done.  I want my attitude to be good/better in what I am doing and "click" with those moments when I meet others to be there in that moment to seeing them as they are.

I suppose at this point, that is the area I can make choices about.  Running at 100 mph it is easy to miss things, so slowing it down to a level that we have peace about.

I think fears jump in...free for all....future worries about survival---have I saved enough for retirement, etc.   Probably every generation can say that they lived in a turbulent time of chaos/change.  It is good to listen to the elders in how they coped with changes, and dealt with worries/fears....remind us that we too shall make it.

I guess for me to answer more fully if I am squandering/wasting my life would be to look at what I am doing.  Does it have meaning?  Am I being true to my beliefs and values?  Am I treating others the way I want to be treated?

Who sets me off and why?  How can I learn to control the settings?

More to examine and choose.

:-)))

Good input:-)))  I am looking forward to everyone's posts and questions that challenge me to look further and reach further or to accept what I have.........and be peaceful.
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I agree with what teko said about technology, double edged sword etc.  I know I have spent way too much time on the computer over the last few years while looking for health info. And my way of keeping up with communicating with my friends in the real world was mostly thru emails while making excuses not to be around them - due to the meds I was taking - makes some want to isolate themselves, and I had that side effect.

But even before becoming ill, answering emails from friends I felt was becoming a part time job and driving me buggy. I am so tired of opening those forwards that say send this back to the sender and to 5 other people.

If I stay away from my emails for 3 days or so, by the time I open them, I have 75 - 100 waiting for me and I am sure you know what I mean.  Its out of hand at this point.

And it does take too much time out of my life - a lot of it wasted time that I feel that could be used for more productive things.

Some of my friends, we are in touch on a weekly basis or bi- weekly. And others, just when I can see them, I do. I have now recently started to tell them one by one, in a nice way, to please not send me any forwards no matter how cute they are. It has helped. I see a difference already.

I would rather people leave me a voice mail than an email because its just too easy for someone to type something and hit "send," but they never take into consideration that the person that receives this might have a ton of those to answer from their other friends too.

I saw that this "wasting of time" could get even worse when people started getting into sending people text messages. That would be something else that would consume a person time.  

I really feel I made the correct decision in telling people do not text message me - I looked at that as something that would eventually turn out to be like the emails, taking up my time answering. I am probably the only person on the planet that has never text messaged besides my husband, he doesn't either. Maybe its good for mothers to contact their kids, but other than mothers, I just never understood why someone would text when you could call instead while the phone was in their hand. I guess I am set in my ways and don't like change as much as others do.

But anyhow, I find that shutting off the computer and just looking in now and then, plus telling my friends to lay off with the emails has made me feel a lot better as to be able to
do things more constructive with my time.

But, I had bad news the other night when I came home, my husband had had a biopsy and it came back he has cancer which has added to this bad dream that I have been stuck in for the last few years, so now again,I will be having to read more health forums, which I wanted to get away from, but I have no choice because he is the type to just leave everything to the doctor and those of us that are here know that much of what we have learned about our own health came thru members posting and sharing knowledge and experience.

I'm spinning in circles again. So anyhow, now its time to shut this computer down and get some things done.  
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:-/  MyOwn....we will keep you in thought/prayer/our own ways of caring that things turn out good for you & your family.  I think what helps me with the internet is realizing that relationships are free and a gift.  No one owes any one any contact.  So if it takes a while to answer something, it is ok as it is not an emergency.

We can share when we want to.  I like coming in because I learn from others and I can appreciate their presence in this way.  That doesn' t mean it becomes a substitute for relationships in the community around me physically.  I don't text either.  In fact, only my youngest daughter has that feature & it costs more for it of course...lol!  

Relationships shouldn't become a "chore"....or a "burden" to keep up with.

Squandering can mean lots of things.  Any thing out of balance....

I should look up the definition, excuse me ...lol!

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Ok...that was quick :-))

squan·der  (skwndr)
tr.v. squan·dered, squan·der·ing, squan·ders
1. To spend wastefully or extravagantly; dissipate. See Synonyms at waste.
2. To fail to take advantage of; lose a chance for: squandered an opportunity to go to college.
3. Obsolete To scatter.

I wanted to touch base with the literal meaning as it is easy over time to develop our own bias as to meanings.

I was thinking of "wasting".  Which I thinking of when we over eat....we don't need the excess food as our bodies cannot use it properly and it goes to waste or we get fatter......which brings its own woes.

Another question comes up, now that I want to post separately and will be one I am going to meditate on.

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