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When you hurt
In one way or another, we are all hurting. Everybody is in the same boat. Even the laughing, happy-go-lucky crowd is hurting. They try to hide their hurt by drinking and joking - but it won't go away.
Who hurts? The parents of a prodigal son or daughter. Millions of parents have been deeply wounded by a child who has rejected their counsel. Those loving parents grieve over the deception and delinquency of a child who was once tender and good.
The victims of broken homes are hurting. The abandoned wife who was rejected by her husband for another woman. The husband who lost the love of a wife. The children who lost their security.
Others suffer illness. Cancer, heart problems and a myriad of other human diseases. To be told by a doctor, "You have cancer - you may die!" has to be terrifying. Yet many reading this message have experienced such pain and agony.
Lovers break up. A boyfriend or girlfriend walks away, trampling on what was once a beautiful relationship. All that is left is a broken, wounded heart.
And what about the unemployed? The despondent ones whose dreams have collapsed? The shut-ins? The prisoner? The homosexual? The alcoholic?
It's true! In one way or another - we are all hurting. Every person on earth carries his own burden of pain and hurt.
There Is No Physical Cure
When you are deeply hurt - no person on this earth can shut down the inner fears and deepest agonies. Not the best of friends can really understand the battle you are going through or the wounds inflicted on you.
Only God can shut down the waves of depression and feelings of loneliness and failure that come over you. Faith in God's love alone can salvage the hurt mind. The bruised and broken heart that suffers in silence can be healed only by a supernatural work of the Holy Spirit - and nothing short of divine intervention really works.
God has to step in and take over. He has to intercept our lives at the breaking point and stretch forth His loving arms and bring that hurting body and mind under His protection and care. God must come forth as a caring Father and demonstrate that He is there, making things turn out for the good. He must, by His own power, dispel the storm clouds - chase away the despair and gloom - wipe away the tears - and replace the sorrow with peace of mind.
Why Me - Lord?
What hurts most is that you know your love for God is strong - yet, you can't seem to understand what He is trying to work out in your life. You could understand why prayers go unanswered, if you were cold toward His love. If you were running from God, you could probably understand why the testings and severe trials keep coming on. If you were a down-and-out sinner who despised the things of God, you could bring yourself to believe you deserved to be hurt badly. But you are not running - you are not rejecting Him in any way. You long to do His perfect will. You yearn to serve Him with all that is in you. And that is why your hurting is so debilitating. It makes you feel there is something terribly wrong with yourself. You question your spiritual depth; and at times, you even question your sanity. From somewhere deep inside you, a voice whispers, "Maybe I'm defective somehow! Maybe I'm being hurt so deeply because God can't see much good in me! I must be so out of His will, He has to discipline me to make me obedient."
Friends Try So Hard To Help
A bruised or broken heart causes the most excruciating pain known to mankind. Most other human hurts are only physical. But a heart that is wounded must carry a pain that is both physical and spiritual. Friends and loved ones can help soothe the physical pain of a broken heart. When they are there, laughing, loving and caring, the physical pain eases and there is temporary relief. But night falls, and with it comes the terror of spiritual agony. Pain is always worse in the night. Loneliness falls like a cloud when the sun disappears. The hurting explodes when you are all alone, trying to understand how to cope with the inner voices and fears that keep surfacing.
Your friends who really don't understand what you are going through offer all kinds of easy solutions. They get impatient with you. They are mostly happy and carefree at the time, and they can't understand why you won't simply "snap out of it." They suspicion that you are indulging in self-pity. They remind you that the world is filled with heartbroken, hurting people who have survived. More often, they want to pray that "one-time, cure-all, solve-everything" prayer. You are told to "release your faith, claim a promise, confess a cure, and walk away from your despair."
That's all well and good, but it's preaching that usually comes from Christians who have never known much suffering in their own lives. They are like Job's "baby sitters," who knew all the answers - but who could not relieve his pain. Job said of them, "Ye are all physicians of no value." Thank God for well-meaning friends, but if they could experience your agony for even one hour, they would be changing their tunes. Put them in your place just once, feeling what you feel, experiencing the inner pain you carry, and they would be saying to you, "How in the world can you take it? I couldn't handle what your are going through."
Time Heals Nothing!
Then, there is that age old cliché, "Time heals everything." You are told to hang in there, put on a smile, and wait for time to anesthetize your pain. But I suspect that all the rules and clichés about loneliness are coined by happy, unhurt people. It sounds good - but it is not true. Time heals nothing - only God does.
When you are hurting, time only magnifies the pain. Days and weeks go by and the agony hangs on. The hurting won't go away, no matter what the calendar says. Time may push the pain deeper into the mind, but one tiny memory can bring it to the surface.
Truthfully, it doesn't help much either to know that Christians have suffered before you - down through the ages. You can identify with the suffering of Bible characters who survived tremendous ordeals of pain. But knowing that others have gone through great battles doesn't calm the hurt in your own bosom. When you read how they came out of their battles victorious - and you still haven't - it only adds to your hurt. It makes you feel as though they were very close to God to receive such answers to their prayers. But it makes you feel unworthy of the Lord, because your problem lingers on - in spite of all your spiritual efforts.
http://www.tscpulpitseries.org/english/undated/tshurt.html
Who hurts? The parents of a prodigal son or daughter. Millions of parents have been deeply wounded by a child who has rejected their counsel. Those loving parents grieve over the deception and delinquency of a child who was once tender and good.
The victims of broken homes are hurting. The abandoned wife who was rejected by her husband for another woman. The husband who lost the love of a wife. The children who lost their security.
Others suffer illness. Cancer, heart problems and a myriad of other human diseases. To be told by a doctor, "You have cancer - you may die!" has to be terrifying. Yet many reading this message have experienced such pain and agony.
Lovers break up. A boyfriend or girlfriend walks away, trampling on what was once a beautiful relationship. All that is left is a broken, wounded heart.
And what about the unemployed? The despondent ones whose dreams have collapsed? The shut-ins? The prisoner? The homosexual? The alcoholic?
It's true! In one way or another - we are all hurting. Every person on earth carries his own burden of pain and hurt.
There Is No Physical Cure
When you are deeply hurt - no person on this earth can shut down the inner fears and deepest agonies. Not the best of friends can really understand the battle you are going through or the wounds inflicted on you.
Only God can shut down the waves of depression and feelings of loneliness and failure that come over you. Faith in God's love alone can salvage the hurt mind. The bruised and broken heart that suffers in silence can be healed only by a supernatural work of the Holy Spirit - and nothing short of divine intervention really works.
God has to step in and take over. He has to intercept our lives at the breaking point and stretch forth His loving arms and bring that hurting body and mind under His protection and care. God must come forth as a caring Father and demonstrate that He is there, making things turn out for the good. He must, by His own power, dispel the storm clouds - chase away the despair and gloom - wipe away the tears - and replace the sorrow with peace of mind.
Why Me - Lord?
What hurts most is that you know your love for God is strong - yet, you can't seem to understand what He is trying to work out in your life. You could understand why prayers go unanswered, if you were cold toward His love. If you were running from God, you could probably understand why the testings and severe trials keep coming on. If you were a down-and-out sinner who despised the things of God, you could bring yourself to believe you deserved to be hurt badly. But you are not running - you are not rejecting Him in any way. You long to do His perfect will. You yearn to serve Him with all that is in you. And that is why your hurting is so debilitating. It makes you feel there is something terribly wrong with yourself. You question your spiritual depth; and at times, you even question your sanity. From somewhere deep inside you, a voice whispers, "Maybe I'm defective somehow! Maybe I'm being hurt so deeply because God can't see much good in me! I must be so out of His will, He has to discipline me to make me obedient."
Friends Try So Hard To Help
A bruised or broken heart causes the most excruciating pain known to mankind. Most other human hurts are only physical. But a heart that is wounded must carry a pain that is both physical and spiritual. Friends and loved ones can help soothe the physical pain of a broken heart. When they are there, laughing, loving and caring, the physical pain eases and there is temporary relief. But night falls, and with it comes the terror of spiritual agony. Pain is always worse in the night. Loneliness falls like a cloud when the sun disappears. The hurting explodes when you are all alone, trying to understand how to cope with the inner voices and fears that keep surfacing.
Your friends who really don't understand what you are going through offer all kinds of easy solutions. They get impatient with you. They are mostly happy and carefree at the time, and they can't understand why you won't simply "snap out of it." They suspicion that you are indulging in self-pity. They remind you that the world is filled with heartbroken, hurting people who have survived. More often, they want to pray that "one-time, cure-all, solve-everything" prayer. You are told to "release your faith, claim a promise, confess a cure, and walk away from your despair."
That's all well and good, but it's preaching that usually comes from Christians who have never known much suffering in their own lives. They are like Job's "baby sitters," who knew all the answers - but who could not relieve his pain. Job said of them, "Ye are all physicians of no value." Thank God for well-meaning friends, but if they could experience your agony for even one hour, they would be changing their tunes. Put them in your place just once, feeling what you feel, experiencing the inner pain you carry, and they would be saying to you, "How in the world can you take it? I couldn't handle what your are going through."
Time Heals Nothing!
Then, there is that age old cliché, "Time heals everything." You are told to hang in there, put on a smile, and wait for time to anesthetize your pain. But I suspect that all the rules and clichés about loneliness are coined by happy, unhurt people. It sounds good - but it is not true. Time heals nothing - only God does.
When you are hurting, time only magnifies the pain. Days and weeks go by and the agony hangs on. The hurting won't go away, no matter what the calendar says. Time may push the pain deeper into the mind, but one tiny memory can bring it to the surface.
Truthfully, it doesn't help much either to know that Christians have suffered before you - down through the ages. You can identify with the suffering of Bible characters who survived tremendous ordeals of pain. But knowing that others have gone through great battles doesn't calm the hurt in your own bosom. When you read how they came out of their battles victorious - and you still haven't - it only adds to your hurt. It makes you feel as though they were very close to God to receive such answers to their prayers. But it makes you feel unworthy of the Lord, because your problem lingers on - in spite of all your spiritual efforts.
http://www.tscpulpitseries.org/english/undated/tshurt.html
Excellent.
Many things in my life today are less painful because I am blessed to be able to accept them as God's will for me today. Self pity is one of my greatest shortcomings and ties into so many other things. That in itself amplifies pain and seems to cause it to stick around so much longer. I've also found that being of service or comfort to others helps heal pain. I recently went to a funeral for a friend. During the funeral my wife had gotten upset. When I sat and focused on being there for her the pain I had been feeling was removed and replaced with love. God's will is not for questioning it is for accepting. Have a Good One!
lol a Rem song
This was a good read so thank-you for sharing it. I'm not always sure what to say to things in debate or in relation mainly because im just a confused mess of a spirit. I want to believe in god but which one or all of them. I just try to follow the golden rule and hope it all turns out right.
Tha pain may be different in orgin but pain is pain and is judge by our concept of whats good. The more deeper in the pain the more the good times seemed good and the better your good times the more it seems to hurt.
This was a good read so thank-you for sharing it. I'm not always sure what to say to things in debate or in relation mainly because im just a confused mess of a spirit. I want to believe in god but which one or all of them. I just try to follow the golden rule and hope it all turns out right.
Tha pain may be different in orgin but pain is pain and is judge by our concept of whats good. The more deeper in the pain the more the good times seemed good and the better your good times the more it seems to hurt.
This song reminds us that everybody hurts sometimes, but 'hold on, don't let go.' When I started reading your post, this song came to mind. I love this song.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijZRCIrTgQc&ob=av2e
As usual, I enjoyed reading this. I read each word so that i got the full meaning of what was being said!
Awesome! And so very true. I especially like the paragraph in reference to
"Friends Try so Hard to Help"
;)
~Tonya
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