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My Grandma had a Hemorrhagic stroke at 93 she is now 95
I take care of my Grandmother who is 95 years old. She had her stroke at 93yrs old. After reading your post I can understand your frustrations. The doctors told me to throw in the towel. They said put her on hospice and keep her comfortable. They said the same thing about her brain being totally destroyed. That she would never eat or talk again, I just felt like they were discriminating b/c of her age. My father and I insisted that they put her on peg tube until she was able to regain some swallowing function. We just insisted on as many answers to our questions that we could get. So many folks were ready to bury her. She has expressive aphasia but can understand what you are saying. She would get really upset when the doctors dismissed her. In fact it is still a fight. She is bed bound but she is alive and did recover some speech and is able eat and drink on her own. She has a simple and quite life but she happy and it wasn't her time to go. She has excellent bld pressure and vitals. She has been bed bound for two years not 1 bed sore. She does suffer from spasms and the only thing I have found that works is Lorazapam. The truth is that we nor the doctors have any idea the potential of our brains. It takes time to heal from something like this and a lot of really good care. Don't give up. It is a hard journey but you have to fight for your loved ones in this situation b/c no else will. I can't tell you how many doctors have simply no clue what do for stroke patients. I just took my Grandma to see a neurologist, in hopes they might know of something one of the 100 other doctors didn't to give her relief for her spasms, nothing. They sat there and marveled at how good she looked for 95. I have my Grandma on fish oil and aspirin to help prevent future strokes. I have her on a great diet w/ lots of supplements and it is always a balancing act to keep her healthy and comfortable. There is hope, and where there is life there will always be hope. I wish I could go in to detail about our journey and story. It is so long and detailed I am not sure it would fit in anything but a book. However I have gained A LOT of knowledge in caring for a completely dependent person in my home and A LOT of knowledge on caring for a stroke survivor so please anything I can do to help, I am glad to pass along. As I don't want my Grandma and I's struggle to be in vein if it can make this process easier for some one else I am glad to share what I have learned.....God Bless
Thank you for sharing. My Nana had a stroke at 93 2 days ago.. I feel the same way as you do, but the Drs and my mother think its 'time'. She can't talk at the moment, and her right side is very weak. she is a big talker - so for her not to talk - she would not be happy at all about that outcome. I feel like there is alot of prejudice from Drs/nurses with the elderly. It is sad. Two years ago my Nana was living in her own home, physically mobile, chatting, walking etc. She moved into a Nursing home due to dementia (doesn't know what year it is, can't remember numbers.) but knew my family and what was happening - enough to have a decent conversation. The drs are doing a 'lets wait and see approach'. They say she is strong. I saw movement in her arms etc, and she knew who I was - so I took that as a good sign.
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Hi...My Grandmother was a total Chatty Cathy. Losing her voice was one of the worst things. However she was not ready to go. She had 2 years left to live. The Dr.’s basically wanted us to deprive her of food and water and let her die. I could not do that. It felt wrong. The problem is they don’t know what to do with them.
She slept a lot in the beginning but we had some amazing days and she needed them. She fought till she was ready to go and when she was she stopped eating and drinking. I became her voice. I wouldn’t trade that time for anything in the world, even though it was extremely difficult. I empathize with you. Trust your gut. She needs you.
She slept a lot in the beginning but we had some amazing days and she needed them. She fought till she was ready to go and when she was she stopped eating and drinking. I became her voice. I wouldn’t trade that time for anything in the world, even though it was extremely difficult. I empathize with you. Trust your gut. She needs you.
thankyou Mariasway for your comments. This 'old age' gig is very sad. You get to a very old age and your body just gives up. The drs seem to think it very unusual to be living indepedantly or mobile in your 80s/90s. For our family this was 'normal' that she was so independant. She has gone downhill fast in the nursing home. She was welllooked after and developed Diabetes at age 91! Buthigh glucose led to falls etc (but no breaks). I just feel sad she has got to such a great age, so healthy, and this stroke has now happened. Thanks for listening.
Just to clarify, the Nursing home have looked after her well- but fed her alot she got Diabetes, which led to other issues.
Just to clarify, the Nursing home have looked after her well- but fed her alot she got Diabetes, which led to other issues.
Just starting the same thing my 93 year old mom had a stoke 3 days ago. Yesterday they took her for another CT scan because she would no wake up. I woke her up a few times while visiting but she did not stay awake long. The Ritalin thing is interesting - I will bring it up before she goes to rehab if she keeps sleeping.
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