I pretty sure I have depression

[Kellielott325]

I'm 13 and I think I have depression if not there's something else rong with me my mum doesn't believe me when I say I have depression so I'm not getting any help I looked up the symptoms online and There's only 1 or 2 I don't have . I have no ambitions or interests in life or work I sometimes cry and I don't no why Infact theres not day i cant remeber i havent cryed 1i find it hard to answere even simply questions I get thoughts about harming myself I have low self astream I get iratated a lot I try to avoid friends and I find it hard to make decisions I have difficulties with family and well I dont have house for me my sis and mum we are living with my granny until we get one but I'm havering troubles there.... Please help me give me some things I can try to help myself and nothing that costs money because I have no money please !!!!!

[mishymoshymarcy]

Sorry.

[mishymoshymarcy]

This is supposed to be your question. I think i may have depression. I think you may have it too.
Good luck.

[mishymoshymarcy]

I cant seem to get out if my room though....
Im always there crying, whacking a pillow against the bed,  and thinking. I have lost every good thing in life that once kept me going, actively-wise. Dont get out at all, spend no time with family, and i am a complete mess. I need help too. Please if anyone has any other advice please, i am thinking terrible thoughts and have no motivation whatsoever. Why is it getting so hard? Also i am seeing a cousellor but onky once a week, but for some reason it is getting worse. i feel like the only explanation is that there has to be somethinf wrong with me. mentally. Am i crazy, or are these symptoms of depression??

[mishymoshymarcy]

Hello. Well we both seem to have alot in common. Everything you said in that paragraph is happening to me and causing me to feel the same way. I too dont know what my ambitions in life are, i have no direction in which i ma heading in, i am in my room all the time, have a short temper, i have extreme difficulty making decisions and doing even the simplest tasks, and lastly but not least i am 13 too. i have not been diagnosed with depression, but im starting to think i may have it. I have had terrible thoughts and am sooo scared. I live wih grandma, mums not really broke, but we have very little money.
I am glad there is someone out there who knows what the confusion and mystery in being a teen feels like.

[Aria235]

I understand what your going through. I've been through the same thing, and I was about seven years younger than you when I was diagnosed with General Anxiety Disorder and Depression, so just imagine how hard it was for me to cope with all of these feelings that adults would typically go through. That's actually a reason people might not understand, especially since you're young. Older people think to themselves, "Oh he's/she's young, what do they have to worry about?" But it really doesn't work like that. We can't help the fact that the chemicals in our brain are imbalanced and it causes us to feel depressed or causes us to panic for no reason. It just happens and we have to find a way to deal with it. Here are a couple things that have personally, really helped me.. and they still do:
1. Though I know you said you don't really like writing about sad situations, or your emotions because it brings it all to the top. Maybe that's not a good thing to do in school, but it is a good thing to do in private and I'll tell you why: Not only are you getting your feelings out, but you are also confronting them. That is an important coping skill; you have to face what is going on inside of you in order to make things better and to grow from that. Keep a journal. And in a few years you'll look back and see how much you've grown and changed for the better, not only in terms of depression but other things as well. Everything takes time, especially this, but I understand the frustration.
2. Imagine your depression as a really messy room that you know you need to clean, but every time you look at it.. you just get so overwhelmed, so you avoid it. That mess builds up over time. And there always comes a day where it is finally time to clean it all up. So there you are, locked in this messy room and you have absolutely no idea where to begin. What do you do when you don't know where to begin? Sometimes it just helps to just sit facing the mess for a while. Get to know it, and then after a while, you'll start coming up with a plan or a strategy on how to clean things up. Take one step at a time, and just work on one section. Once it's clean, go on to the next. Before you know it, the room is clean and you are no longer overwhelmed. And if it does happen to get dirty again, you'll know that you are, in fact, able to clean it. Does that make sense? Sometimes you just have to get to know your depression before you can do anything about it. This step and number one really do go hand in hand. I hope this helps. If you need anything, don't be afraid to inbox me.

[Kellielott325]

Thank you so much for the advice itmeans alot that someone replyed to me. but I have nothing to look forward to I don't have a house im living with my gran in her tiny apartment my mums in uni and is broke I don't fit in in my school and I almost weigh 11 stone Its hard to lose weight when I eat less than my sister who can eat everything she wants and won't put on weight its unfair and shes always telling me i dont eat enough. I love walking I love going out for walks and I go to the gym. I also am learning about different emotions and feelings in llw we always have to write down sad siduations and explain how u feel and how u deal with them teacher says no one will see it but then why should I write anything down it just makes me tear up. I once burst out in tears in class so my head of year took me to the councler she made me feel like i was in a rush and she put me on the spot and used a tone with me I don't like her and I just want somebody to understand me it seems like everyone around me brings me down is there anything that will work for sure and fast i will try the advice you have givin me but I have attempted most of it before it just didn't feel like it was working

[Aria235]

Are you in school? I have struggled with depression since I was very young, so I understand what's going on in your mind right now. If you have a school counselor, go see him/her and he/she will do their best to provide you with necessary coping skills so you can learn to deal with depression.
Also, a wise person once told me that the best way to rise out of your depression and to motivate yourself again is to always have something to look forward to. Even if it's a small thing such as being able to eat your favorite food for dinner, or something like that. It's good to always have something to look forward to.
Another thing that might help-- Taking vitamin D supplements every day, and taking walks. This is a good way to boost the mood. If ever you have negative thoughts, try your best to turn them in to positive ones. It's all you, hun! You can do it! :)