Must be love?

[StressedInsomniac]

Right about 2 months ago i met this gorgeous girl called Tyler, she was the best thing that had happend to me in years, i had been suffering from depression (Although never diagnosed) i was for once happy, i thought i would introduce her to my mum since she had introduced me to all her family. Well it went well my mum said shes a great girl and we are good together. When we were together (although we were never alone) we would fool around kiss tickle cuddle etc etc... We decided to go for a walk while we were walking she look at me and said she loved me & doesn't want to loose me. Well my friend who i must say we had fallen out and i knew he wanted to be friends again for ages. I just had trust issues but being with her made them go in a way.

Well i said we can be friends as long as he doesn't do what he did before (Hang around with older brother instead of me) well he saw how me and Tyler were together, and said we make a great couple...
Well a couple days after i was speaking to Tyler on MSN and she asked me to come round, as she was lonely and no one was there. I said joking around "i would fall asleep, then what would your mum say ;)" she replied: "She doesnt mind if you sleep round." Well i said i cant im ready for bed and i keep falling asleep so she said ok then, then we said our good byes and i said i will walk her to school in the morning. Well after that night everything went downhill. She told my best mate Daniella to tell me she didnt have feelings for me no more. When i got told this i lost it i smashed a wall (luckily didn't break my knuckles) then went for a walk on my own, which i had a little moment where i cried, then full of anger toward myself for not going that night!

Well recently she's been around my best mates Matthew  alot which upset me because when she first saw him she said he is effing ugly. And now she bought condoms last Sunday which can only mean one thing she is going to have sex with him!

Despite the other rumours i have meen hearing about her, it doesn't change the way i feel about her my so called best friend Daniella is keep saying she's slept with one of her boyfriends 12 times in one day and im like i couldn't give a F*** i love her for her not how easy she is to get into bed! Now all my friends are telling me to ignore her and i keep telling them over and over again that i cannot forget her i love her too much!!

I also asked yesterday did she mean it when she said she loved me she replied "Yes i really loved you"

Just thought i would get this of my chest as its bugging me :)

Thanks,
Ben

[StressedInsomniac]

Thanks for the replies, well last night proved she doesnt want s**t all to do with me, we was joking around calling her blonde and well she kicked me in the balls and i choked. I asked her why she did it she said "Because i told you to stop it" and i was like take a chill pill its a damn joke!
Well earlier i said to her, bite me then she said no i don't know where you been, i was like ask Helen (her mum) joking around she said she don't do little boys then i said to her "Your a fine one to talk" (Meaning Matthew who is younger then her) and she told me to go F*** myself then i said already did and she blocked me!!

In a way i really couldn't give a toss what happens to he no more.
She has just missed out to be with someone who loves her for her and not her body!
Its hard to talk about her in this way but if she is trying to screw my life up shes not being given the opportunity to do it to me!

Thank you all for your replies!!

Ben

Oh and Elspeth, i do think she's playin' him now haha what a sucker (So a)

[Sparkling]

Yeah .. Its Hard When You Have That Connecting Moment. Where You Feel You Just Fit Together Like A Puzzle. But,, Babe ,, If Shes Not Interested You Have To Move On. I'm Not Saying It Will Be Easy. Personally (No Offence Meant) She Sounds Like A Bit Of A "Player" To Me Hun.

You Sound Like A Nice Guy And If She Isn't Going To Respect That By Childishly Going To Sleep With Someone Else Then .. Thats Just Something You Don't Deserve. Believe You Deserve Better. I Believe You Do.. And So Should You.

Everything Will Get Better.
When I Have The Worst Day Ever .. I Know It Has To Get Better.

"The Only Thing A Person Should Chase,
                                          Is Their Dreams."

TakeCare.
KeepInTouch.

Love.
Elspeth. xx.

[banter]

"i felt i could trust her with my life. Proves i cant..."

You are on the right track here.  if somebody is REALLY falling in love, I don't think it is a thing that happens over a week and then is gone over a night.  

I mean, if you had cussed at her on the phone or something, then fine - I could see that breaking up a serious relationship.  But telling her you had already gotten ready for bed and falling asleep?  If that is a cause for a breakup, then she was never serious with you in the first place.  I think she felt that if she SAID she loved you, then she knew that she had you in the palm of her hand and go do anything with you she wanted.  She probably has learned that she can do that with ANY boy - tell them she loves them and she has them hooked.


"Well i am going round there this week sometime and might ask her, would we ever have a chance together or not, as if i say that its going to make me feel better and easier to get over her!"

Since I think you were being used, I don't think she is going to tell you the truth.  I don't think she was telling you the truth before.  She only said what she did in order to manipulate you.  So I don't think she is going to start telling you the truth now.  

She may even decide to tell you something to hurt you more.  You don't want that, trust me.  I would be done with this girl and treat it as a lesson learned.

[StressedInsomniac]

Yeah must of been alot harder, the thing is i had real bad trust issues and when i met her they well went i felt i could trust everyone i met. Proves i couldn't eh..

Hope you feel better mate

Much love,
Ben

[StressedInsomniac]

Thanks for replying, I will take all that into mind.

Thing is when we first met thru my mate Daniella, she was really shy and wouldnt talk to me. Then when we got chatting we just connected and that night she slept round my mate daniella and told her that she thought i was cute, and that she really liked me! Well my friend Daniella who has had this weird crush on me for like 4 years was going to ask me out and Tyler said not to as she liked me. Well when i went round there tyler was really flirty and started hugging me tell me she really like me i was like i really like you too. Week later we started kissing touching etc etc. And i just felt on top of the world!

Thing is i hadn't been in a relationship for 2 years due to getting hurt badly... and when i met her i felt, well i felt i could trust her with my life. Proves i cant...
Well i am going round there this week sometime and might ask her, would we ever have a chance together or not, as if i say that its going to make me feel better and easier to get over her!

Thank you Elspeth,

Much love,
Ben

[NoHopeOrLove]

the same thing kinda happened to me i was with this girl name mikayla and we were together for a year happy as ever and 6 days before our anniversary i read her phone and found out she's been texting another guy...i always checked her phone never thought to find anything... i was crushed and still am and im still crying everytime i think of it... we've been through soo much...
    idk wat to say except let time heal that's all the help im getting i feel a little better everyday... i feel the same way dude i've been crying writing this response..bye and try to let time heal...

[Sparkling]

Well As You Helped Me.. Its My Turn To Return The Favor.

Its Tough. I Know How You Feel. I Loved Someone Just The Way You Loved Tyler. He Told Me He Loved Me. Couldn't Imagine His World Without Me.. Well After Being Together For Over A Year He Told Me.. I Was Too Insecure And High Maintenance And He Didn't Love Me. My Whole World Fell Apart. Everyone Was Like Just Get Over Him You Stupid *****. I Didn't Want To Have To Get Over Him. I Loved Him With Everything I Had Inside Me. Turns Out A Day Later He Slept With My Best Mate.

But .. It Got Easier With Time.. When He Came Groveling Back As Much As I Still Loved Him. I Politely Told Him Where To Stick It. I Felt Better After That. He Though He Could Walk All Over Me. Well He ******* Can't And Never Will. And Here I Am With Someone Else .. And I Wouldn't Swap Him For The World. <3.

Broken Hearts Take Time To Mend Baabe. But Spend Time With Your True Friends And Maybe Stay Single For A While. I Always Try Not To Fall In Love Too Quickly. But It Can Be Difficult. But In The Long Run .. Its Better.

Youu'll Be Fine Baabe.
Dont Worry ;][K]

Elspeth. xx.