Stressed about my boyfriend's drinking?

[ashley12342234]

Hello, i'm 14 and my boyfriend is 13 (same grade), so my boyfriend suffers from depression, and because of his depression, he drinks... Not a lot, but when he gets really stressed he does. He's drunken alcohol about 3 times alone to relieve his depression and has come to school drunk twice. I'm scared he's going to do this again... I know the consequences of underage drinking and that it can start a lifelong addiction to alcohol and I am also aware that it is a depressant. I'm really worried about him and that he might do it again. The worst part is that I won't know because he said if he did it again, he wouldn't tell anyone. How can I help him?? I'm really truly genuinely scared and all I want to do is to bring him out of drinking and depression...

[specialmom]

Ah, you sound like a really smart 14 year old.  I have two kids, 14 and 13.  Depression in boys of this age is dangerous.  It can be deadly.  Suicide rates for boys are high because they are impulsive.  They get the idea, don't think and just act on the idea right away.  Girls think more which gives more time to intervene.  So, this is your time to intervene.  Forget the "he's my boyfriend' thing.  That's not important here. This is a boy in crisis.  Depression is treatable.  His drinking is exactly HOW addiction comes to be as he is using it to mask pain.  He needs immediate help.  He will be mad at you.  It could end your relationship.  But, it could save his life.  You need to tell your parents who need to tell his parents.  And you need to tell a school counselor where you two attend school.  Yes, this could have consequences for him and he may blame you.  But there is a bigger picture here that he needs help.  

So be brave.  I know you can do it.  Do it today.  good luck

[ashley12342234]

Thank you, he has booked a doctor's appointment already. I am still mildly worried sometimes, but he's promised not to drink again and he swore on it. I know I might be naive to believe this but I really DO believe him. He just won't talk to any counsellor or any stranger because he's not comfortable so I'll play that role I guess.  

[YardBull]

Has your boyfriend been diagnosed with depression?  He needs to get help with professional counseling.  He might start with his family doctor for diagnosis or referral to a counselor.  His situation can be helped.  He does not need to suffer.  His future health and success may depend upon facing up to his issues now.