Anxiety is the negative effect of imagination and can occur spontaneously, and against our will. We are aroused by only two sensations, pain and pleasure. We all want to avoid pain and pursue pleasure. The emotional cycle which leads to anxiety begins in the present with our initial experience of pain or pleasure, and ends up with complex feelings which are "remembered" exclusively in the past.
"Hurt" is stored because the body retains a primitive subconscious ability to remember every incident that it experiences. If we encounter an incident which hurts us, and if we are unable to adequately understand, resolve or communicate our feelings about this incident, then it is automatically stored in the subconscious mind. If we then encounter the same or a similar incident at a later date, this "hurt" is automatically "recalled" by our subconscious mind.
Three skills must be learnt to overcome anxiety:
Firstly, a method of releasing or handling the subconscious "hurt memories" which have been stored.
Secondly, developing self-confidence to deal with the actual situation which triggers the anxiety.
Thirdly, developing new responses to express the emotions that are felt when the situation recurs.
sorry guys. i meant to say i dont understand why i stress so much