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Can her parents call rape?

My girlfriend is 15 almost 16 in a month. I'm 17 almost 18 in a couple of months.  and we decided to have sex and we have sex constantally.. She says she wants a baby... Which I think is a young age but I said ok to it... My concern is her parents because she explained to me that if her parents found out that if she was pregnant that they would kick her out of her house. But my main concern is if they kick her out of the house can they still call rape charges on me?
Noting that they will kick her out of the house at an early age, can they still press charges on me if they kick her out of her house?
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1194973 tn?1385503904
I know someone who was charged with it as well. He can't go to movies, can't live near school, parks, or go to any function where children might be. He also spent either 6 months or a year in jail. (I can't remember) You're playing with dangerous, dangerous fire here and have a lot to think about.
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134578 tn?1693250592
I'm afraid that one does have to register as a sex offender if convicted of rape, even statutory rape.  I knew someone who did, and it was a similar thing, where he had sex with someone younger than himself when they were both teenagers.  It came up years later when he and his wife tried to adopt.  No adoption.
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A lot of people have answered your question. Are all of us going to waste our time looking up laws for YOU?

No. But Annie was nice enough to do that.

As people have stated, YES you can be charged with statutory rape.

The "rampage" is basic things you will need to know when the baby comes along, if she's pregnant. The child will be YOUR responsibility as well. YOU will have to help pay for all of the above mentioned. Not only do you have to worry about being labeled a sexual predator, which I'm fairly certain you would have to register as a sex offender if they do press charges and you're convicted, you will have to worry about how to take care of the child.

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Like to above poster just stated your question has been answered...So maybe you should take the time and read everything that everyone has clearly wasted there time trying to tell you and you would have seen that...It's odd how the only thing you seem to be worried about is weather you are going to go to jail for rape, not what am I going to do if that happens and I end up having a baby with this girl...How are you going to help a 15year old little girl raise a baby if you are sitting behind bars? Better yet once you get out and have to pay child support where are you going to get a job with that on your record...I know it's not easy here in Canada and i'm thinking it can't be much different in the States...So stop and look at your life, and realize just what it is that both of you "children" are doing...
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1194973 tn?1385503904
Actually your question was answered. By Anniebrooke in fact. But if you want a recap--

Age of consent in your state is 16, so YES you can be charged for statutory rape even if she's kicked out.
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Notice you guys are reading... and notice you guys aren't answering the question i asked... please reread and stop going on a rampage... it gets annoying when people don't answer the question i've asked. thank you
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And child support isn't cheap.

He paid $800 / month for 16 years for me and still has 2 more years of $1600/month ($800 / child) to my twin brothers mother. (His second wife). Yes...at one point my father was paying over $2000/month in child support to my mother and his second wife. (He was married to my mom for over 10 years...had me in the last  2 years of their marriage, married to his second wife for 9 years,)

Say you only have one child, they decide to not press charges against you...and they make you pay child support, which I can almost guarantee, do you really want to pay $800/month for the next 18 years? And that's NOT including extra things you buy, such as birthday gifts, christmas, when the child starts school, a bedroom for them at wherever you live....My dad bought me extra things all the time. Clothes, shoes, toys, plus my bedroom at his house. Kids aren't cheap.

My dh and I are married with twin boys. It's really not cheap. Diapers alone cost us over $100/month. We go through a case/week (we have 2 boys in pull-ups). We buy ours off Amazon which is slightly cheaper...still over $100/month. Then you factor in food, clothing (which kids out grow their clothes VERY fast, we bought our boys all new clothes 3 months ago...they've already out grown it all. Which means we have to go shopping again), toys, bedroom accessories (bed, bedding, dressers, window coverings, dressing table, trash can, so on and so forth), bath things, formula. This all adds up.

Then you need to think about health insurance. It's not cheap. For my family to have health insurance we pay $500/month. Then you need car insurance, a vehicle and carseat. Not cheap.

Then your own house. You can't live with your parents forever. Factor in rent (unless you have amazing credit at 17 you won't be able to get a loan for a house.), utilities, groceries, furniture, and extras if you want (such as tv, internet, phone...average around $100 for all 3/ month).

Life isn't cheap when you have no kids, throw in kids and it skyrockets. Can you really handle all of this responsibility at 17?

Oh yeah, and your nights out, hanging out with friends, chillin and staying up as late as you want...nope you can cut that out. When you turn 21, there will be no clubbing, bar hopping and partying till wee hours of the morning. I don't even stay up past 10 pm anymore. Why? When the child wakes up, YOU wake up. And babies wake up every 2-4 hours every night.

Good luck.
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134578 tn?1693250592
In New Hampshire, there is a single age of consent, 16 for heterosexual sex and 18 for gay sex.  A single age of consent means that a person who is 16 [or more] years old cannot have sex with a person who is 15, even if they are going to turn 16 in one day.  In some other states, there is an allowance for someone who is close in age to their partner, but not in New Hampshire.  So, you could certainly be prosecuted for statutory rape, since your girlfriend is not yet 16.  

Bad news as that is, the rape laws are not the worst of your worries.  It is idiotic to try to have a baby without being married, experienced with each other and life together, in a good job, solid in your place where you live (house or apartment in your name), and having some money saved.  To even consider this is unrealistic to the point of ludicrious.  (But what am I saying, why would this be surprising?  You're both not yet at the age of rational thinking, especially your girlfriend.)  True story -- I know a guy who got his girlfriend pregnant when he was 16, and he had to pay child support for 21 years.  Is that part of your plan when you're hopping in bed?  To make a big payment every month until you are 38?  Time to think.  
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You have gotten some good advice that I do hope you really think about and look over. You need to look at the state laws for where you live and recognize that having a baby is a major life change. It's not easy. Do some of your own research on what it takes to be a parent and really sit down and think through your decisions. Your actions will have consequences, so be prepared for what is to come.
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For one you need to look up state laws for where ever you live...Two ... Like an above poster started you are only 15 and 17 why would you to not want to enjoy your lives, go off to college and see the world before having children? I am only 22 with almost 3 children my 3rd is due in 7weeks, and by all means it's not easy...I love my children dearly and I wouldn't trade them for the world but there are times when I wonder what my life would have been like had I not had my children so young...How are you going to pay your bills? if her parents kick her out where is she going to live? Who is going to support her? What are your parents going to think? How are you going to raise a child if neither of you have support? These are all honest questions that you need to ask yourself...I'm not trying to be rude but I was a 17 year old mother...What kind of jobs are you going to get with no eduction? I'm a stay at home mom but I got lucky that my fiancée has a job and on top went back to college to further is eduction...You both really need to slow down and think about life just a little bit before you decide that at 15 and 17 your old enough and mature enough to bring a baby into the world...Good luck but I recommend that you stop having sex with a 15 year old girl and talk to her about getting on some birth control...Until you are both mature enough to actually be adults...Because honestly again it's not a walk in the park, and i'm sure that if her parents can press charges by that time you are going to want to hope she's not pregnant...So again stop and think...Not trying to be rude but I was a teen parent it's not easy!
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It depends on what your state laws are.

If the age of consent is 16...yes, they can.
If the age of consent is 18...yes, they can.
If  the age of consent is 15...no.

Look up the laws and it would be wise to stop having sex.
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1634874 tn?1304530587
honestly i don't think they can what you need to do is wait till she is at an older age if tht would happen  thts nt  a good idea to try to get her preg
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480448 tn?1426948538
Listen, you may not want to hear this, but I'm being sincere and hope what I say registers with you.

Your GF is 15 and you are 17...not only are you both young and have your entire lives ahead of you to start a fanily, but you already fear serious repercussions from her family if she indeed ends up pregnant.  Why would either of you pruposely WANT to put yourselves in such an impossible situation?

I'm 39 with two children and let me tell you, that even as an adult (was 26 when I had my 1st child)...it is HARD.  It never stops being hard.  Being a good parent requires maturity, proper financial means to meet all of the needs of a baby (which is expensive) and security.  If indeed your GF's parents would kick her out if she was pregnant...what would you guys do?  Have her in a homeless shelter or on the street?  Move in with you?  None of that is a good situation.

Hopefully it is not too late and she isn't pregnant already, but I STRONGLY recommend you guys think long and hard about this.  It won't bring you closer, if anything, it will probably destroy your young and fragile relationship.  Also, it will change YOUR life as you know it forever.  To purposely bring a child in this world, you better be ready to meet ALL of that child's needs, which means sacrificing everything about life as you know it.  You never stop being a parent once you become one...never.  

If it's meant to be...you have plenty of time to start a family.  Please please please rethink this...it just honestly is not an optimal situation and a baby deserves the best, not an impulsive decision by two teenagers thinking this is a good idea.  So much at stake here that this should be the farthest thing from BOTH of your minds.  Enjoy your childhood, you have plenty of time to be a grown-up.
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