weight loss and other things

[jamie829]

Hello. I am a 30 year old female



, 2 kids. In the past month or so, I have have had weight loss of about 8/9 pounds. I have not been actively trying to lose weight, but I will say I had a baby 3.5 months ago so probably should. However, the fact that it is unexplained makes me nervous. In addition to the unexplained weight loss I have had frequent bowel movements, brittle hair, have a pretty constant urge

to urinate. Have random pains in places. I was diagnosed w/ postpartum

axiety when i first had my son...but have been much better..not taking meds anymore. however, i do have a lot going on with working full time, a 16 mth old, a 3 mth old, job pay cuts

, we are trying to sell our house to move to another. could all of this be due to anxiety, or do you think there may be a deeper issue here?!?

[Neurodreamz]

Here's some tips for your bladder. The condition is called "overactive bladder". Pelvic floor exercises, or kegels, can help.I did them after mine. It may be because your pelvic muscles weakened with the two pregnancies, especially because your blood work was all ok. The kegels help with enjoying sex more too, nice side effect!!  

http://www.patient.co.uk/health/Overactive-Bladder-Syndrome.htm
http://www.nafc.org/bladder-bowel-health/what-is-incontinence/what-every-woman-should-know/

[Gio77Italy]

you're welcome! (I'm a guy)

[jamie829]

thanks ladies! this is very very helpful. i dont know why I always feel the need to urinate...sometimes its a full actual pee...but sometimes just a little bit comes out...its really weird?! i had blood tests 2 .5 months ago for a regular check up and everything came back perfect. but i will go back again. need to figure out what is going on!

[Gio77Italy]

if it was from a mental condition you wouldn't even be aware of it.

you should do all the basic blood tests to start off with, urine culture and stool test for parasites with fat stool test.
Liver function tests (Albumin, serum proteins)

brittle hair and weight loss are probably related, you're not absorbing the food you're eating and bad nutrition is starting to affect your hair.

why exactly do you think you feel constant urge to urinate is it because of pain or because you can't hold a full bladder?

you should definitely see a Doctor, avoid talking about anxiety or self-diagnosing with it just refer what the problem is, with calm...

[Neurodreamz]

Wow, you sound like you have a very full life! It does sound like stress. It can cause digestive problems and pain. Also, your body has had two pregnancies, have you considered that you're lacking in nutrients. I would start by taking a good multivitamin and concentrate on taking the time to eat well, and see how that goes. If you start to improve, then I wouldn't worry about having something serious.  The brittle breaking hair is a symptom that you're missing some nutrients.

It might be worth considering taking a break from work. Here in Canada, they let us stay home for year, the company pays some money and the government kicks in the rest. I know some women who went back at 3 months after birth, and had the same difficulties as you. It takes time for the body to recover from pregnancy, I hope you don't mind, but I personally think you are taking too much on.  I would talk it over with your husband to see how financially you can swing it to take time to focus on yourself and your kids. At some point, your health may get worse and this is going to affect both you and your family.  Anyone in your situation with two kids under 2, working full time and now moving would have anxiety. I think we're so busy and caught up in having a bigger home, two cars, expensive holidays, that we forgot the reason we're on this planet is to care about others. And to do this, we need to start taking care of ourselves so we can be healthy mothers to our children and make a difference in the world.

Take it easy, Laura