Orgasm is a bit like sexuality itself: there is a spectrum, ranging from the feeling of wonderful flushing-out which is also, paradoxically, a feeling of fulfilment to the feeling of "is that it, is that all ?" I have experienced both of these, and conclude that a lot depends on physical situation and on the quality of passion.
A quick coupling against a wall is unlikely to produce any feeling of numinous fulfilment, but a long afternoon and evening involving music and eating and voluptuousness, maybe oils and incense - a shared creative experience - is very likely to enhance the liquid results.
As with many things, the more you put in and are permitted, encouraged to put in, the more you are likely to get out of it.
But it is also a mistake to expect too much from it.
Masturbation is horribly underrated, demeaned as a dreary substitute for shared sensual sex. But it too can be upgraded and dignified by ceremony, 'set', and self-celebration.
For some people ceremony is enacted through role-play, fetishism, or special scenario.
All sex should be ceremonial and playful - but unfortunately, it too easily descends to smash-and-grab. Consider foreplay (even with yourself) as of utmost importance, and the legendary feeling of transfiguration as a possible bonus rather than the emptying of a one-armed bandit.
In my case I’ve been taking a VERY small dose of Alprazolam (Xanax in the US) for like 6-7 years.
2 months ago I decided to cut the pills off and I did it cold turkey.
In the second day (I was still with withdrawal symptoms) I masturbated and I didn’t feel anything while I was having the typical orgasm spams. I was like: what is this?
In my case it is clearly related to the fact that I stopped taking these pills. It could be nerve damage (cold turkey), an hormonal problem, etc but I drastically laugh at the theory that it is something psychological. You can feel less if you are less motivated or stressed or sad or anything, but if you don’t feel nothing and you feel it is something physical it probably is :/ I will wait some more months until may chemicals are balanced again, if the orgasm sensation does not come back it will be a very boring rest of my life at 35. Please keep posting, this problem deserves more visibility in my opinion...
This is also known as "sexual anhedonia" - look it up on wikipedia and there's a lot of info in it....My neurologist thinks it's because I have Parkinson's Disease, which kills dopamine cells....I'm on carbodopa/levodopa and Amantadine to help control the tremors ...Now I'm getting on the generic brand of Requip which is a dopamine agonist - I hope this combination of things will help....It's so frustrating being horny in your head, jerking off, having an ejaculation with no feeling....It's like a bad joke. Good luck, guys!!
This Q&A is the first thing that comes up in a google search on the subject of orgasm with no feeling, it seems there are quite a few people searching for answers to this problem (and I'm not talking about masturbating too much). There are some ideas here, but here's my two cents attempt to help as well. This same problem happened to me for the first time ever in my life not that long ago. It really made me feel sad. I still wanted sex, had no trouble performing, and I even enjoyed it, but no climax, just ejaculating with almost no feeling - it was like being robbed of one of life's greatest pleasures and gifts. This went on for almost 2 months with no relief, happened every time. But I'm happy to report that the problem also went away, it has now been several weeks were everything is completely back to normal again so I feel pretty confident the issue is resolved. I'm really not sure what, of all the things I tried, solved the problem, but here's a list of ideas other's might want to look into:
1) Someone already mentioned in this thread, that anxiety can trigger this problem. I had been under a TREMENDOUS amount of stress/anxiety just preceding this period in my life, I was hit be many things all at once, financial loss, layoffs at work, job pressure, death in the family, some small aches and pains I was worried about. It is possible this is what triggered everything, not really sure. Since that time, my stress and anxiety levels have greatly diminished, which is perhaps why I'm back to normal.
2) I was thinking perhaps for some reason my hormone levels were out of whack, like low testosterone. I never had this checked, but I googled 'Proven Ways to Increase Testosterone Levels Naturally" and found some excellent information. I pretty much did everything from the suggestions I found online. I started exercising, and especially concentrating on resistance exercise and high intensity interval training (there's even an app for this now), building muscle, flexing, etc. I ate more protein, quality salmon, nuts, beans, and some eggs (normally I eat a mostly plant based diet). I started getting as much sun as possible, I would go out, even when very cold, and sit in the sun with no shirt on (I'm still doing this on every sunny day). I also took some vitamin D supplements. I focused on getting more sleep. I ate garlic and red onions and dark chocolate (all foods associated with better sexual health/function). I think all of these things, especially the exercise, sun, and sleep helped lower my anxiety levels in addition to whatever else they were doing for me (possibly boosting testosterone).
Good luck guys, I hope you can get back to normal again soon too.
I believe i may no the reason to this. I also have this issue. It is not like i dont feel at all just dont think i am feeling the right level of orgasm. The build up is there and when i release there is some pleasurable feeling but does not last through out the duration of the ejaculation which can be frustrating.
I had hypospadias surgery as a child and i believe there must have been some nerve damage. Anyone experiencing something similar should investigate if they had hypospadias surgery as a child. This would no doubt involve nerve damage which could mean a disconnect. I have sex drive, erection, ejaculation but the orgasm is not full seems like its like 30% - 40% of the required intensity.
My question is can nerve damage be repaired? Also i fear the lack of powerful orgasm may make me get tired of sex and affect my relationship. Can anyone relate?
haha okay thanks for the advice I am stopping for two weeks now. This will be tough.
Hey. How are you now? Can you orgasm now?
I've only ever experienced this "loss of sensation feeling during climax" twice so far, but it was 2 days in a row now! Even though that probably doesn't very concerning I'm already feeling frustrated about it... I hope this won't be permanent.
I'm 22, male. I take vitamin supplies (D and A) but no vitamin B6 or B12 which can cause nerve damage, according to some comments and articles I've read online. I also take a iron capsule once every 2 days (doctor told me to do so after doing a blood test).
I don't have any other, non-sexual related issues. And I'm wondering whether taking all these vitamins indeed causes this side-effect or if the culprit is something entirely different.
Like @trickname said; I personally didn't notice my heart racing faster, my breath accelerating and I didn't even start to sweat in the slightest (even tho it's summer and my apartment is hot as hell).
I'll try some of the suggestions the people on here made and hope that next time will be a satisfactory experience.
In case anyone reads this:
Can it be harmful to abuse self-pleasure to relieve every day stress situations or to just to be able to fall asleep at night? I don't feel "forced" to do it, by the time I masturbate I really want to. But thinking about it now makes me wonder whether I overuse that "magic spell".
I am 14 years old and I'm having the same problem.
It started like 3 months ago and since then I had no feeling when I ejaculate I even tried not faping for a week but It didn't help.
It also started to affect me emotionly I started feeling less emotions and found it more difficult to talk to people even my family! I did have anxiety and social problems before but now I don't feel anything
I feel numb when I talk to people like I'm emotionless or something
I don't know if it's depression or something else. I talked to my mom about it and she signed me up to a psycholigist but I don't known if that will help.
I think one sort of reason could for ejaculation without orgasm be that body isn't actually turned up enough, there's no the normal physiological reactions, or even psychological reactions. Do the heart start to race faster? Do you sweat? Do the breath really accelerates? Do you really feel horny after all? If no, i doubt you could achieve the orgasm. Probably sort of premature ejaculation, happen before rest of the body is triggered to orgasm. Something interference the overall process, what could it be? Probably multiple options. Perhaps one could be just anxious/stressed/tensed. Try to relax and enjoy, "follow the pleasure and the pleasure will come". Don't think too much. However. If there's no pleasure to follow, it's then problematic. Could be also hormonal problem for reason or another.
hi guys. I'm a 59 year old male and I have had this for many years. its very depressing and doctors cant get it into their head that climax and ejaculation are not the same thing. I get no pleasure from ejaculating. more feeling when I pee probably. I do have anxiety and self confidence issues but I really want to get the old pleasure back. any one with any ideas please help. ive tried many things all with no success. vitamins, treatments, examinations, acupuncture, chiropractor, . I also have proctalgia fugax which the so called experts think is not related. I'm currently seeing a psychotherapist who believes its just about ''letting go'' during sex. well I can tell you there isn't much I haven't tried, in order to get a fulfilling orgasm. I miss it terribly and it is making me ever more sad and depressed
I have the same problem, and I'm now 40, was on pain killers for yrs but have been taking suboxin for the last yr and had no problems with it and been taking Cymbalta now for yrs and it never gave me a problem ether. The pain killers did mess with my sex drive a lot but have been off them for a yr now. However this is a new problem for me . never had a problem jacking off before but the last couple of weeks - I start cuming before I'm done and no orgasm , tonight we just had sex and same thing. I just started taking vitamin B12 a couple of weeks ago and I take hair vitamins also never thought something like that could cause it so I was glad to read that other answer ! I guess I will quite taking them and see. As for my sex drive in general I wish there was more they could do. And I now take 1 ml of testosterone every two weeks but it doesn't seem to help much, my biggest problem is staying hard and I am a heavy smoker since 14 yrs of age which I think has a lot to do with some of my problems.I'm hoaping to quit soon.anyway as for the one issue your talking about, I'm not sure why it's happening but I think I will try to stop taking my vitamins and see and then again it could just be stress cause I have had a lot on my mind for quite a while now, if anyone has any ideas let me know. PS I've never heard of that Chinese thing that other guy was talking about.
The key is blood flow. There is an Asian custom called milking which causes more blood to flow to the tip. By holding its shape the nerves won't;t get pinched. You see ladies in films smacking their clits for the same reason. You can 'hold your stay' by engaging the **** sensation while you feel ejaculation coming on. Kegel muscle relaxing and tensing can bring on the buildup of sensation back, while you hone the experience.
There may be hope!!
I saw this thread a few months ago when I was exhibiting similar symptoms and felt I owe a response. At the time of reading this, I was having sex or masturbating (well, not literally while reading, but you get my point) and it felt good (not sure it felt as good as usual) and then when I ejaculated there was no pleasure at all. It was not only anti-climactic in the figurative sense, but in the literal as well. What's more, and worse, is that it started to make me quite depressed, and I began to lack even the desire to get aroused. It honestly felt pointless, and since I love sex and all things related to it, and think I am too young to lose that, it was on top of everything else causing me to panic more than I think I would if I were told I had a terminal disease.
But, there's good news! While fishing around for any information I could find -- and there's not much aside from people asking about it who feel the same thing, or else seemingly unrelated problems -- I found something that I thought might be the ticket. It mentioned that overdose of vitamins could be the cause (likely taking too many). I wish I had the link because I can't find it now, but I started to think about it and on top of taking the multi-vitamin a day, I was taking at the time vitamin b-2 and b-6 as additional supplements at the recommendation of a dermatologist for a minor skin irritation on one of my cheeks. I thought more deeply, and it was sure enough just about the time I started taking the additional vitamins that the pleasure stopped. Checked the article again and -- BOOM! -- it specifically stated that a vitamin B-6 overdose may be a reason for the problem. Stopped taking it right away (and the multi-vitamins since my diet is not bad to begin with), and before long (not sure if right away), it was back to feeling great again and being more than worth it.
So, while I cannot say for certain that this is the cause -- it may well have been something psychological -- I'm willing to bet that some of you on here who are suffering the same thing drink a lot of sports drinks and take supplements for one reason or another. Start by stopping those and see if it helps. If it does not, then it is obviously unrelated and I just got lucky. But for me those vitamins are linked to the problem and I have not touched them since, and have not suffered the lack of pleasure that truly scared me. Good luck, boys!
I have this problem too...
started 2 weeks ago.
How i see this is huge problem...
I'm very sad. how i understand, i can't solve this problem by medicine or otherwise.
I hope i misunderstand...
I have the same problem - ejaculation without orgasm...my bf is not happy about it and neither am i, obviously...I am on antidepressants but when i went off them it didn't help - I only lasted about 3 weeks off of medicine, though...I hope more than anything (except for world peace) to be able to orgasm again..good luck, everyone!
I'm glad I came across this topic. I thought that I was the only one with this situation - ejaculation without pleasure. I know what it should feel like. I experienced it about 3 times in my life when I wasn't expecting it. Especially the first few times I came and then never again for over 40 years. I do believe it has a lot to do with the brain or in my case too much stress or responsibility and not letting things go.
spot on answer, I have this too after many years of self analysis I came to the same conclusion, masturbation can become a habitual nightmare, I used to do it so i would sleep easier.
I took more than just antidepressants after an accident with brain trauma and I truly mean a long list of different drugs including Prozac, Oxycontin, etc, heavy pain killers, anti psychotic drugs, sleeping pills, anti anxiety pills for 12 years. When I stopped taking all these drugs because I got fed up with taking pills to live on I had your same problem. These drugs mess with the chemicals in your brain. Finally after 3 years my brain chemistry went back to normal and I have no more problems with orgasm. It takes a while before your brain gets back to functioning like it should. I stress the fact be careful in the future for anyone that even though these drugs prescribed by the medical professionals are to relieve symptoms they also lead to many other problems. Ask any doctor and he will tell you that there is always side effects to any prescribed drug and even over the counter drugs. The biggest fear after not having an orgasm is if it will happen again. Don't even think about an orgasm, just think about what enjoyment you are having with sex, whether masturbation or not. I know it is hard for some people to step out of the box of thinking negative thoughts but if I did it anyone can do it. Use your imagination and focus on a fantasy of your own and you will receive that wonderful orgasm and just keep doing this over and over again and your brains chemistry will automatically respond to your feelings. Your brains chemistry releases many hormones in your entire body and some of these hormones trigger ejaculation and orgasms. I hope this helps to the many people that think there is something wrong with them.
Im 32 never been too a doc with this coz im shy. I dnt feel anthing when i hve sex i dnt feel orgasm bt i do hve a 5yr old please wht is this
Hi Jocko25. You actually posted your question on my birthday back in 2014 haha.
Please read my post at the bottom. It sounds like you're issue is more prolonged than mine. Not sure about your particular case, but mine did resolve after a few years.
Good luck!
Maybe the urologist is "technically" correct. However an orgasm at only 5% sensation of it's maximum does not really count as an orgasm if you ask me.
Go see someone else.
"I can feel all of the pleasure of masturbation up until ejaculation where feeling stops and I don't feel an orgasm at all but I still ejaculate"
I want to throw my hat the ring here. This was something I experienced frequently during my early-to-mid 20's for several years. It was concerning me so much I took my concern to a urologist for his thoughts. I even went through a period where I sometimes was firing blanks. It largely resolved itself in my late 20's thankfully.
There are many factors to it...
1. The largest sex organ in the body is the brain:
If you're stressed about life, possibly experiencing some symptoms of depression (I ticked both boxes there) then that will have a direct affect on your minds ability to express pleasure too you ( because after all, it is the brain that provides the illusion that is all our senses. What we feel, touch, smell, taste etc. Our different body parts feed the brain with this information and it is the brain that then interprets them into what we believe are the sensations we experience (e.g. hot, cold, sweet, bitter etc).
It probably has something to do with creating a chemical imbalance in some areas of the brain, maybe due to a lack of endorphins this results in areas of the brain not being stimulated to their full extent.
Something to think about.....It's worth trying masturbating without watching a porn video but to instead lie down and fantasise in your mind! This alone will activate your brain more and reduce worldly distraction which can also be beneficial. Also try a few different lubes.
2. Penile sensitivity:
Pretty simple stuff, just touch your bits less and they'll become more sensitive the next time you do.
3. Fluid level:
I probably should have asked the urologist some more questions (was a little shy at the time) but he seemed to be of the opinion that there is also a correlation between intensity of orgasm and quantity of ejaculate (I think). Anyhow, I do know personally that when I have an incredible orgasm (sadly rare) my level of ejaculatory fluid is much higher than usual. So similar to penile sensitivity, if you give yourself a longer period between ejaculations you will have more fluids stored and this may also help.
4. Just listen to your body:
We're organic beings, not machines. We have ups and downs. Sometimes you will be on, sometimes you won't. And sometimes the brain will be horny but the penis will not (that one's a mystery to me, but sometimes my mind is craving being inside a woman, but my penis is all like "don't touch me!". I don't get it)
I hope my contribution here may help in some way to anyone out there who has or is experiencing a similar problem.
Stay positive !!
My new boyfriend is incredibly skilled at making me *** and seems to enjoy every moment of our time together, yet he is having problems maintaining erection and cumming himself. Today, he totally ejaculacted but he had no orgasm (no moaning/talk-out-loud release as my prior BFs had). (Ironic since I hardly ever used to orgasm with my prior relationships. I am now experiencing the flipside).
I always thought they (ejaculation of fluid and orgasmic feelings) were linked. He seems 100% turned on and engaged in our lovemaking AND I want to see him enjoy himself fully. I don't want to over analyze this, but I do want to see him experience pleasure. His pleasure is important to me. We are in our late 40s/early 50s so low T might be an issue which he is awaiting test results on.
Any clues into this are welcomed. I have not had sex in many years so perhaps some of this is mid-life stuff that I simply am not privy to. All I know is that I wish to give him as much pleasure as he gives me.