My husband has this issue and I'm not sure I'm going to stay with him. I love him but this is making me depressed and making me feel bad about myself and guys look at me all the time. I love him but I need more.
Wow, that is some cold blooded sh1t. You would leave your husband over a medical condition? For one thing, you don't necessarily need an erection to satisfy a woman. Maybe your husband's low sex drive is the result of being married to someone who is so unsupportive, emasculating, and selfish. I guess you thought the whole "in sickness and in health, till death do us part" was merely a suggestion. But I bet if you ever ended up chronically ill, you would definitely expect him to stay by your side! Your actions and lack of support will simply dig him deeper into his hole. You are a weak and selfish woman, and never should have taken those marriage vows.
Your wedding vows most likely said: For better or for worse"
A hard **** is hardly a comprehensible reason. If that is all that you are after, I hope that the tables will be turned some time. However I don't know if simmilar situations with women.
I have a few chosen words for you. Please leave me an email where I can contact you at?
I'm sure blessed that my wife has stuck with me after having experienced many urological problems. Guess what I have not been able to get an erection or have sex for shortly over 4 years now. My wife married me, not just a penis.
What a sad excuse of a (wife?) you are. I put Wife in between breakets as I feel that you are not worth of that title.
I do understand your concern, especially if you have a high sex drive...but...as the men have stated to you already, if you have based your marriage on Sex, then you are domed to failure. Many women do and that is what kills realtionships. I had a problem for the last year but i sure took care of her in ways she could not believe. It is not that I did not get an erection, it is that I was not staying hard for more than 20 to 30 minutes. I was use to 1 hour. I am 62 but in great shape. I just had my testosterone level checked and it came in around 350. I am seeing a doctor next week to see my options and see if he recommends a boost. If you have a good man, and they are rare, then you better think twice. As they have told you before, what if it were you that had the problem?
I can't believe that you would be so selfish as to not support your husband during this difficult time for him. Both my husband and I have gone through issues with low testosterone and we have stood by each other through thick and thin. It started with me first after my hysterectomy, my husband didn't quite understand that medically there was a reason for my not wanting sex as much as I used to and it did cause a lot of marital problems, in fact, he started talking to another woman for awhile. I found out and forgave him and we went to marriage counseling. I also found a Dr that finally understood what my medical problems were and began treatment to raise my testosterone (and other hormone levels) to where I now have a healthy sexual appetite (although it did take several months to get there), unfortunately my husband started to suffer the same problems but was in denial (this is common for men because so much of their lives revolves around their masculinity), in fact, he somewhat blamed me on his lack of desire until I convinced him to have his levels tested. He only agreed to do this when his levels got so low that it wasn't just affecting his erections but his whole life including severe depression and fatigue. He was tested and did in fact have very, very low T and is now on hormone therapy to replace what he's lost. He is in the early stages of treatment and right now still has no sexual desire but we both know that it will get better, I am living proof of that. I get aroused all the time now and would love nothing more than to be intimate with him again, but I am patient because of what he is going through, that's what a true loving wife does. For you to bail out on your man at this time is beyond selfish and cruel. But I say do him a favor and leave, that way maybe he can find a good woman to share the rest of his life with.