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underdeveloped genitalia
hi everyone! i am a 36 year old male who has underdeveloped genitalia! when i was growing up i was watching all my friends around me changing into young men and thought i would aswell but i didn't!! and i was short for my age aswell!not so short now in height 5.8ft so i grew in height but not in the genitalia area i had no pubic hair until i was about 23 and that was very little and maybe that was there due to me shaving down there to try and make the hair grow i was very thin and with a sqeeky vioce.i am 36 now i do have pubic hair and facial hair and sometimes my balls ache but still no growth to my genitals!! it does my head in i feel suicidal sometimes as i dont live a normal life it stops me from doing everything using public tiolets,getting a job,gym,swimming,buying clothes,going out meeting people, i have no confidence, i carn't talk to women, i isolate myself from the real world and all i want to do is live a normal life!
I had been to my doctor (i plucked up the courage)i showed him my penis and testicals he said they were small.he tested my testosterone levels and they were very low just inside the lowest bracket he got me to see a urologyst who said he had seen smaller genatalia( he's trying to make me feel better)but that does'nt help me at all.he then said i could see someone at one of the major hospitals and made me an appointment which i did not keep due to the ordeal i had just been through with showing my doctor an urologyst my problem and still no wiser its a very difficult thing to share!
also i try to build myself up by doing weight training but hardly get any results due to lack of testosterone and have learnt that all bodybuilders must have high testosterone for growth!
i have checked out the symptoms of hypogonadism and i have most of them!
do you think i should go back to the doctor and get refered to the major hospital?or
ask my doctor to put me on testosteronre therepy?or
ask to be refered to an endocrinologist?
what do you think as im sure i have hypogonadism.
is there anyone else out there with this problem?if so what did you do about it?how did you go about it?did you get treatment?did your genitals grow to the proper size??
any feed back from serious people would be great!
many thanks.leevan
I had been to my doctor (i plucked up the courage)i showed him my penis and testicals he said they were small.he tested my testosterone levels and they were very low just inside the lowest bracket he got me to see a urologyst who said he had seen smaller genatalia( he's trying to make me feel better)but that does'nt help me at all.he then said i could see someone at one of the major hospitals and made me an appointment which i did not keep due to the ordeal i had just been through with showing my doctor an urologyst my problem and still no wiser its a very difficult thing to share!
also i try to build myself up by doing weight training but hardly get any results due to lack of testosterone and have learnt that all bodybuilders must have high testosterone for growth!
i have checked out the symptoms of hypogonadism and i have most of them!
do you think i should go back to the doctor and get refered to the major hospital?or
ask my doctor to put me on testosteronre therepy?or
ask to be refered to an endocrinologist?
what do you think as im sure i have hypogonadism.
is there anyone else out there with this problem?if so what did you do about it?how did you go about it?did you get treatment?did your genitals grow to the proper size??
any feed back from serious people would be great!
many thanks.leevan
Hi levan ,
I share your story. I am 65 married and have two sons.
I also have hypogonadism due to a removed right festival when I was three years old. My penis never developed. Throughout my life I was embarrassed to be naked in front of anyone including my wife. I avoid public uriinals that doesn't have partitions. My Service experience oddly didn't produce any ridicule while showering with other men but I felt ashamed of my micro size penis.
With testosterone therapy since childhood my sex life is great. I have learned how to become a lover that satisfies a woman. Size doesn't matter to most women. Love of your whole persona is what counts for both of you. See a specialist who you can get comfortable with. There is help available. If a nurse present bothers you ask for a private exam. That's what I do to this day.
Self esteem is very important .try to love yourself enough to get help.
I share your story. I am 65 married and have two sons.
I also have hypogonadism due to a removed right festival when I was three years old. My penis never developed. Throughout my life I was embarrassed to be naked in front of anyone including my wife. I avoid public uriinals that doesn't have partitions. My Service experience oddly didn't produce any ridicule while showering with other men but I felt ashamed of my micro size penis.
With testosterone therapy since childhood my sex life is great. I have learned how to become a lover that satisfies a woman. Size doesn't matter to most women. Love of your whole persona is what counts for both of you. See a specialist who you can get comfortable with. There is help available. If a nurse present bothers you ask for a private exam. That's what I do to this day.
Self esteem is very important .try to love yourself enough to get help.
STOP THE CRAZY LAZY DOCTORS! THERE IS PLENTY THAT CAN BE DONE TO HELP YOU. I am a nurse of 20 years, the arrogance and stupidity of some punk doctors, has never ceased to amaze me and the laziness of others has also not failed to aggravate me. You do not listen to that lazy-junk-science, you just have to find the right doctors, DO NOT give those STUPID doctors any more of your time or money. First of all, if your testosterone is on the low end of the scale, it may not be enough for you, also they can place a device in there, a very small and natural feeling device, it is called 'penile enlargement'. My goodness, they build fake ones for transvestites and they told you they could not help you, a real man, what is wrong with idiots like that? THEY ARE CRAZY AND LAZY, GO TO ANOTHER DOCTOR, ONE THAT DESERVES YOU ! KEEP GOING TIL YOU FIND THE RIGHT ONE. Go to a urologist that specializes in reproduction, not just any old urologist, then let (that) doctor do blood work, then go see a plastic surgeon, one that does penile enlargements. bless your heart, you have been through a lot, don't quit now you are still young enough to have a life, don't let incompetent doctors, discourage you. have had to search for the right doctor for my kids problems, after being told it was 'in their heads' that is code for- "I am too stupid and lay to find your problem, so its in your head'. Don't give up, there is help. Just find a urologist - board certified in reproductive health and a board certified plastic surgeon that does penile enlargement, better yet, you my find a urologist that is cross certified.
Hi,
I can understand your reluctance in seeying doctors about this problem.
As a child I had many trips to out family doctor due to having been born with undescended testes. My left came down before I turned on but the right not untill 12-13.
A check up on the left undescended testicle involved the doctor pushing in the inguinal region and pushing the testicle towards the scrotum. He was under the impression that manipulation would result in the testicle coming down which it eventually did. I went in every four months with the same routine. The ordeal was painfull at times.
Surpisingly I entered puberty early, however I did not put on any body mass or muscle for that matter.
I can understand that you lost your nerve when having been seen by this urologist. He might have wanted to break the ice by the comment that he made, but might have made the matter even more difficult to bring out in the open. Dr. Lacuesca has given you some good advice.
A few years ago I was given a chance to see a urologist as part of a clinical session for rehabilitation as part of sexual health. Even though I have gotten married and had fathered children there were some issues that made me wonder about certain things.
Genital development was within the norm, but seemed to have stopped by the time that I reached the age of 14. Over the years I ended up with ED and other urologists had tried me on Viagra and Cialis with no success.
This new urologist had me go for blood tests and determined that my testosterone level was well below normal. He then went on to explain that his might have been the cause of my genitals to stop growing at the age of 14. It could have been very likely that the right testicle was not functioning as well as it should be.
I was prescribed monthly testosterone injections, but it did little for sexual function and he had allready told me that it woul d not cause my genitals to grow further.
At the age of 36, I believe that very little can be done to increase the size of your genitals. This said, it is possible that doctors might be able to help you in some way or form.
As hard as it may be, you are in control over your body, the way that you feel and your emotions. If you feel good about yourself than others will only know about the way that you feel. Meaning that if you are possitive, that same attitude is returned.
I have been seen by many different urologists for urological issues. I have had some really good doctors, but I also have met my share of jerks. One urologist who is very good, has very poor manners. I was in for a follow up and my wife was in with me. The urologist came in got me to get up from my chair and stand in front of him. He then told me "drop them" meaning to remove my pants and underwear. I was sort of surprised by the way he requested this.
If you decide to go for further medical help, I can asure you that you will meet someone who is genuinely willing to help you.
You have a problem that is not easily discussed or brought to the attention of a doctor.
As for getting a partner, you can meet someone who is interested in you and not just your genitals, penis.
When I started courting my wife, sex was the furtest thing from my or her's mind. Just days prior to the wedding did I muster the courage to ask her some some questions regarding my genitals. I wanted her to know that I might have some problems with fertility due to undescended testicles. Having grown up in Europe and my wife being Canadian with the tradition of males being circumcised, I asked her if she would be Ok with me being uncircumcised or if she wanted me to get circumcised. None of these things mattered to her. She was interested in me just in the way that I was.
Both of us believing in Christ, also believed in not having sexual relations before getting married. The very first time that we saw each other nude was on the night after our wedding. I must admit that my wife was the first one to get undressed, I was very nervous about her possibly not being satisfied with my penis in any way or form. Again I was wrong, she just accepted me as I was.
The hardest thing came for me a view days later with a fact that I even had kept hidden from my parents since I was 8 years old.
On an occasion when I went swiming, I went into a private cahnging cubicle instead of the big dressing room. I had seen some bullies enter the dressing room and therefore went to the private one. As I had removed my swimming trunks I noticed the door opening and a older male (most likely late teens early 20's) came in. He put his hand over my mouth and produced a pocket knive. He placed the knive against my penis and told me that he would cut if off if I made any noise. Over the next following minutes, I was sexually assaulted. He forced his penis inside me both oraly and analy.
My wife had noticed that I seemed to pull back with certain touching. I had to give her the reason why I did this.
To this day I have not told my parents and will not as I believe that it will cause them hurt in not having been able to help me.
I have a wonderful wife who loves me for who I am, just the way I am. Besides God she is my best friend.
You will have to build on your self esteem. No doctor will realy be able to help you with that. You can spend time with a psychologist and they might help you with certain aspects, but the drive will have to come from with inside of you.
I sincerely hope that you will be able to find the medical help that you need. the doctor here has given you good advice. Go and see the urologist in a larger hospital. They might be able to help you. I'm just a guy who has had some issues of his own and still do.
I have ongoing urological problems. Again my wife is my biggest support.
If you would like to talk or need someone to share your emotions with, send me a private message and I'll give you my personal email address. I hope that I did not make you feel worse. I would like to be of help to you. Let me know
God bless,
Ron
Ron
I can understand your reluctance in seeying doctors about this problem.
As a child I had many trips to out family doctor due to having been born with undescended testes. My left came down before I turned on but the right not untill 12-13.
A check up on the left undescended testicle involved the doctor pushing in the inguinal region and pushing the testicle towards the scrotum. He was under the impression that manipulation would result in the testicle coming down which it eventually did. I went in every four months with the same routine. The ordeal was painfull at times.
Surpisingly I entered puberty early, however I did not put on any body mass or muscle for that matter.
I can understand that you lost your nerve when having been seen by this urologist. He might have wanted to break the ice by the comment that he made, but might have made the matter even more difficult to bring out in the open. Dr. Lacuesca has given you some good advice.
A few years ago I was given a chance to see a urologist as part of a clinical session for rehabilitation as part of sexual health. Even though I have gotten married and had fathered children there were some issues that made me wonder about certain things.
Genital development was within the norm, but seemed to have stopped by the time that I reached the age of 14. Over the years I ended up with ED and other urologists had tried me on Viagra and Cialis with no success.
This new urologist had me go for blood tests and determined that my testosterone level was well below normal. He then went on to explain that his might have been the cause of my genitals to stop growing at the age of 14. It could have been very likely that the right testicle was not functioning as well as it should be.
I was prescribed monthly testosterone injections, but it did little for sexual function and he had allready told me that it woul d not cause my genitals to grow further.
At the age of 36, I believe that very little can be done to increase the size of your genitals. This said, it is possible that doctors might be able to help you in some way or form.
As hard as it may be, you are in control over your body, the way that you feel and your emotions. If you feel good about yourself than others will only know about the way that you feel. Meaning that if you are possitive, that same attitude is returned.
I have been seen by many different urologists for urological issues. I have had some really good doctors, but I also have met my share of jerks. One urologist who is very good, has very poor manners. I was in for a follow up and my wife was in with me. The urologist came in got me to get up from my chair and stand in front of him. He then told me "drop them" meaning to remove my pants and underwear. I was sort of surprised by the way he requested this.
If you decide to go for further medical help, I can asure you that you will meet someone who is genuinely willing to help you.
You have a problem that is not easily discussed or brought to the attention of a doctor.
As for getting a partner, you can meet someone who is interested in you and not just your genitals, penis.
When I started courting my wife, sex was the furtest thing from my or her's mind. Just days prior to the wedding did I muster the courage to ask her some some questions regarding my genitals. I wanted her to know that I might have some problems with fertility due to undescended testicles. Having grown up in Europe and my wife being Canadian with the tradition of males being circumcised, I asked her if she would be Ok with me being uncircumcised or if she wanted me to get circumcised. None of these things mattered to her. She was interested in me just in the way that I was.
Both of us believing in Christ, also believed in not having sexual relations before getting married. The very first time that we saw each other nude was on the night after our wedding. I must admit that my wife was the first one to get undressed, I was very nervous about her possibly not being satisfied with my penis in any way or form. Again I was wrong, she just accepted me as I was.
The hardest thing came for me a view days later with a fact that I even had kept hidden from my parents since I was 8 years old.
On an occasion when I went swiming, I went into a private cahnging cubicle instead of the big dressing room. I had seen some bullies enter the dressing room and therefore went to the private one. As I had removed my swimming trunks I noticed the door opening and a older male (most likely late teens early 20's) came in. He put his hand over my mouth and produced a pocket knive. He placed the knive against my penis and told me that he would cut if off if I made any noise. Over the next following minutes, I was sexually assaulted. He forced his penis inside me both oraly and analy.
My wife had noticed that I seemed to pull back with certain touching. I had to give her the reason why I did this.
To this day I have not told my parents and will not as I believe that it will cause them hurt in not having been able to help me.
I have a wonderful wife who loves me for who I am, just the way I am. Besides God she is my best friend.
You will have to build on your self esteem. No doctor will realy be able to help you with that. You can spend time with a psychologist and they might help you with certain aspects, but the drive will have to come from with inside of you.
I sincerely hope that you will be able to find the medical help that you need. the doctor here has given you good advice. Go and see the urologist in a larger hospital. They might be able to help you. I'm just a guy who has had some issues of his own and still do.
I have ongoing urological problems. Again my wife is my biggest support.
If you would like to talk or need someone to share your emotions with, send me a private message and I'll give you my personal email address. I hope that I did not make you feel worse. I would like to be of help to you. Let me know
God bless,
Ron
Ron
Hi I was watching Dr.Phil last night and I googled about it and your page was the first thing I came across. First off i want to say I'm sorry you have to go through that and i wish you the best in life. I will definitely pray for you and others who have the same problem. I can only imagine how hard it must be and not experiencing it myself makes it even harder to imagine...The only advice i could give you as an outsider is to see the doctors they're there to help you. Its the best you can do for yourself. Feel free to write me back whenever you need someone to talk too.
thanks again vanessa!
you have been of great help now i have a bit of an understanding of how things work!
and the right people to get referred to!
thank you
leevan
you have been of great help now i have a bit of an understanding of how things work!
and the right people to get referred to!
thank you
leevan
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi,
Hormones are being secreted by organs in the body after receiving signals from two "superiors".These are the hypothalamus and pituitary glands.The hypothalamus contains all the primary signals called releasing and inhibiting homones.The pituitary gland receives these signals and itself releases major signals to the taget organs or end organs.
End organ is the term used for organs in the body which receives the last bout of signals in the hypothalamic-pitutary gland axis.These are your testes, thyroids and adrenal glands to name a few.
Hormones are being secreted by organs in the body after receiving signals from two "superiors".These are the hypothalamus and pituitary glands.The hypothalamus contains all the primary signals called releasing and inhibiting homones.The pituitary gland receives these signals and itself releases major signals to the taget organs or end organs.
End organ is the term used for organs in the body which receives the last bout of signals in the hypothalamic-pitutary gland axis.These are your testes, thyroids and adrenal glands to name a few.
hi vanessa, thank you very much for your advice i will do exactly what you said.just thought i'd ask what do you mean by (end organ)?
many thanks
leevan
many thanks
leevan
MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL
Hi,
The presence of decreased testosterone levels should warrant further evaluation. In your case, I suggest that you ask your physician for a referral to an endocrinologist.Your pituitary glands need to be assessed. The pituitary sends off signals to your testes and indicates the glands to secrete testosterone.In some cases the problem may be due to these signals but in other cases, the problems may be due to the end organ or testes themselves.
A complete assessment by an endocrinologist will be able to shed some light on this and guide you in terms of using the right form of therapy.
The presence of decreased testosterone levels should warrant further evaluation. In your case, I suggest that you ask your physician for a referral to an endocrinologist.Your pituitary glands need to be assessed. The pituitary sends off signals to your testes and indicates the glands to secrete testosterone.In some cases the problem may be due to these signals but in other cases, the problems may be due to the end organ or testes themselves.
A complete assessment by an endocrinologist will be able to shed some light on this and guide you in terms of using the right form of therapy.
Hi - sorry if my post caused offence
I was suggesting that you had had not received a reply to your post because people here incorrectly think you are a troll
If you look at other posts you will see most have had a reply , but yours has not
you said ;
"i didn't think i was being humorous just trying to find out some answers?"
well you mentioned your "squeaky voice" - there are quite a few spelling mistakes too
since you also said
"i feel suicidal sometimes"
It is a shame that the "nice people who like to help" haven't replied to you if you really are suicidal - perhaps they dont care and have to tell people they are nice because it is not obvious
anyway I had composed a reply to your query but decided against posting it incase it was taken the wrong way - I can post my reply if you wish - or you can wait for the Doc or someone else
Uckfield isnt a large place
I was suggesting that you had had not received a reply to your post because people here incorrectly think you are a troll
If you look at other posts you will see most have had a reply , but yours has not
you said ;
"i didn't think i was being humorous just trying to find out some answers?"
well you mentioned your "squeaky voice" - there are quite a few spelling mistakes too
since you also said
"i feel suicidal sometimes"
It is a shame that the "nice people who like to help" haven't replied to you if you really are suicidal - perhaps they dont care and have to tell people they are nice because it is not obvious
anyway I had composed a reply to your query but decided against posting it incase it was taken the wrong way - I can post my reply if you wish - or you can wait for the Doc or someone else
Uckfield isnt a large place
hi kevin are you a doctor?if so could you please look at my original post(underdeveloped genitalia)and please give me some advice e.g.what to do?and how to go about it?this problem has rearly affected my life!and will continue to do so till i get some kind of treatment!please help!
thanks
leevan
thanks
leevan
hi vanessa are you a doctor? If so could you please look at my original post(underdeveloped genitalia)and please give me some advice e.g.what to do? and how to go about it? this problem has rearly affected my life! and will continue to do so till i get some kind of treatment! please help!
thanks
leevan
thanks
leevan
hi smeghead what do you mean by troll?
i am very serious i didn't think i was being humorous just trying to find out some answers?is vanessa on here a doctor if so i would like to talk to her! she sounds like she knows what she is talking about! does MD mean they are a doctor?
i am very serious i didn't think i was being humorous just trying to find out some answers?is vanessa on here a doctor if so i would like to talk to her! she sounds like she knows what she is talking about! does MD mean they are a doctor?
you haven't had a reply to your post
people may think you are a troll because you have used humor in your post - I suppose you need a sense of humor with your problem - you then ask for feedback from serious people but haven't received any
I would reply but people will say I'm a troll
I am sure that someone nice who likes to help people will be along soon
people may think you are a troll because you have used humor in your post - I suppose you need a sense of humor with your problem - you then ask for feedback from serious people but haven't received any
I would reply but people will say I'm a troll
I am sure that someone nice who likes to help people will be along soon
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