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395769 tn?1318449682

need help and hope

Hey everyone, I am 5', 21, and have a 7 month old baby boy and during my pregnancy I gained to much weight. All through high school I was 100-110 lbs and very athletic. I lost my healthy lifestyle because I got into drugs, but still stayed skinny. Well I got sober, quit everything including ciggarettes, and got pregnant. I weighed about 130 pre-pregnancy and went up to about 165 at my heaviest while I was pregnant. I have been hovering at 140-150 since and I go running and excersize every day for the past month, I look a little better but weigh the same. I feel so depressed about my body and am always comparing myself to how I looked in high school, and how high schoolers look. I am so jealous of anyone that is skinnier than me and I don't know what to do about it. My fiancee says I look good, and he is noticin changes and "likes how I am getting fit again". He is just trying to be supportive but it just makes me feel like I looked like **** before. I just want to feel better about myself, and whenever I start to, I see an actress or a beautiful women in real life and feel anger and jealousy. I don't know how to heal myself and feel normal again.

can anyone help me? or offer advice?
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I really like what you have to say in this comment, these are very important questions to ask ourselves as women.

To you silvercheer, Often times I feel like you, and I admire and sometimes hate women who are skinnier than me, and It can really start to get to me, I start to think that I'm not worthy of love just because I carry extra weight now.  Although I used to compete and I was a P.T. fitness was my life, I now live a life that most women dream of when they are little girls.  You have a wonderful loving husband, who is not looking at your body but your heart.
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410943 tn?1202262442
I can understand the anguish you are going through but how it looks to me is you need some self love. Yes extra pounds can makes us sad sometimes but don't let it control you. We are not teenagers anymore, we may not be perfect, but we can be "perfectly flawed" just like your husband probably thinks. Ask yourself are you wanting to be skinnier so people will admire you more? Give you more attention? Make you feel superior being thinner? And does your weight define you as a person?

All these questions (and remember I don't know you so I don't know what you are like) are meant to help you search deep in your soul to find the real reason you want to be thinner.

I know this is hard but look within yourself and rely on yourself alone to pick you up.

Good Luck
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