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I'm 14 and have been trying to lose weight for a long time. about a week ago I started making myself sick (gad been wanting to and attempting to for alot longer) I eat as little as possible all day (I snack still cause it's hard to controll) then straight after tea I have a shower and sick it back
up. sometimes it is still in food form others it is liquid with buts of food, how many calories from around 400 (aprox my tea) am I not digesting cause of this?
up. sometimes it is still in food form others it is liquid with buts of food, how many calories from around 400 (aprox my tea) am I not digesting cause of this?
hey there, wishing you a happy christmas, don't go chucking up tomorrow, you know it's bad for you.
sending a hug.
xx
sending a hug.
xx
no if it got back to my family it could make everything alot worse, I have a phone box in my village! but it's on the green so all my friends would see me and I'm not even sure if it works! I don't think I have an ed it's just becoming a bad habit now I was thinking of taking baths cause I only do it in the shower. (sounds gross) but
I have a phobia of baths (watch too many horror films) if I don't make myself sick I feel gross and guilty and when I do I feel amazing, I don't even think about it till I have a shower which is weird. thank you xx
I have a phobia of baths (watch too many horror films) if I don't make myself sick I feel gross and guilty and when I do I feel amazing, I don't even think about it till I have a shower which is weird. thank you xx
no if it got back to my family it could make everything alot worse, I have a phone box in my village! but it's on the green so all my friends would see me and I'm not even sure if it works! I don't think I have an ed it's just becoming a bad habit now I was thinking of taking baths cause I only do it in the shower. (sounds gross) but
I have a phobia of baths (watch too many horror films) if I don't make myself sick I feel gross and guilty and when I do I feel amazing, I don't even think about it till I have a shower which is weird. thank you xx
I have a phobia of baths (watch too many horror films) if I don't make myself sick I feel gross and guilty and when I do I feel amazing, I don't even think about it till I have a shower which is weird. thank you xx
Oh dear, that makes it tricky I guess. This will make you laugh, when I was your age, if I wanted to call anyone I would use a phone box on the street! I guess they are pretty rare these days! Oh the world is all changed and I am all out of date!
what about a sympathetic teacher, or your doctor then? could you try one of them?
xx
what about a sympathetic teacher, or your doctor then? could you try one of them?
xx
thank you! :) i dont have much privacy at home so i cant ring any helplines, i rung beat a while ago cause i was struggling with my sister and she came in whilst i was on the phone and i had to hang up cause she kept asking who it was, it was really hard to do it so thats out of the question, thank you though xx
oooh, well here's a couple of things to think about.
just because you are not exactly like your sister doesn't mean that you might not actually have some similar issues that you just don't recognise as similar....not all eating disorders are the same, human beings are much more complicated than that.
your Mum is maybe in denial and not able to give you much support right now, perhaps she's super stressed about your sister and she's a bit shut down emotionally at the moment and can't hear what you're trying to tell her. maybe she even has her own issues that are affecting her and making her a bit blind to what's going on around her. It's so common for behaviour patterns and emotional issues to resonate through families, with little differences between family members that mean the similarities and issues can easily not seem obvious and it can all get a bit dysfunctional with people not. talking to each other and not supporting each other. Not many people's families are perfect!
Do you need your mum's permission to see someone? I'm not sure how the system works where you are, here in the UK we have the NHS and young people can talk directly to their doctors or agencies like the Samaritans and get help for themselves without needing their parents to arrange it for them. I am convinced there will at least be a free helpline you must be able to call to talk to someone about how you are feeling.
I have gone through phases of wanting to kill myself. It's a horrible feeling and in my case I think it was down to a hormone imbalance. It was horrible!. As a teenager your hormones are likely to be all over the place at the moment and if you're also not eating properly that will also affect your moods.
Trust me, when you are mentally and physically well, you won't want to kill yourself, it's something that will change. Life is amazing, you have so much of it left to live and so many incredible adventures you are going to have and people you will meet. It won't feel like it right now because you sound pretty down but believe me when I say, everything in life changes and things will improve for you.
I really think it's terribly important you find someone to talk to as a first step. If your mum is ignoring you, go and talk to the nurse at school, or a guidance teacher, or look online for a helpline in your area and call them.
You did say you hadn't told your mum you want to kill yourself. If you do open up to her and tell her how you really feel, you might find she is really supportive and starts to listen to you. When we start to tell the truth to the people closest to us in our lives incredible things sometimes happen.
But youi know, if you can't get what you need from her right now she is not the only source of support available to you. You have found this forum and that's great. There are lots more sources of help out there. Actually talking to someone who is qualified to help you could be massively helpful (scary at first no doubt but WORTH IT!!)
sending you a big hug and I'm more than happy to keep chatting on here if it's useful for you.
yl xx
just because you are not exactly like your sister doesn't mean that you might not actually have some similar issues that you just don't recognise as similar....not all eating disorders are the same, human beings are much more complicated than that.
your Mum is maybe in denial and not able to give you much support right now, perhaps she's super stressed about your sister and she's a bit shut down emotionally at the moment and can't hear what you're trying to tell her. maybe she even has her own issues that are affecting her and making her a bit blind to what's going on around her. It's so common for behaviour patterns and emotional issues to resonate through families, with little differences between family members that mean the similarities and issues can easily not seem obvious and it can all get a bit dysfunctional with people not. talking to each other and not supporting each other. Not many people's families are perfect!
Do you need your mum's permission to see someone? I'm not sure how the system works where you are, here in the UK we have the NHS and young people can talk directly to their doctors or agencies like the Samaritans and get help for themselves without needing their parents to arrange it for them. I am convinced there will at least be a free helpline you must be able to call to talk to someone about how you are feeling.
I have gone through phases of wanting to kill myself. It's a horrible feeling and in my case I think it was down to a hormone imbalance. It was horrible!. As a teenager your hormones are likely to be all over the place at the moment and if you're also not eating properly that will also affect your moods.
Trust me, when you are mentally and physically well, you won't want to kill yourself, it's something that will change. Life is amazing, you have so much of it left to live and so many incredible adventures you are going to have and people you will meet. It won't feel like it right now because you sound pretty down but believe me when I say, everything in life changes and things will improve for you.
I really think it's terribly important you find someone to talk to as a first step. If your mum is ignoring you, go and talk to the nurse at school, or a guidance teacher, or look online for a helpline in your area and call them.
You did say you hadn't told your mum you want to kill yourself. If you do open up to her and tell her how you really feel, you might find she is really supportive and starts to listen to you. When we start to tell the truth to the people closest to us in our lives incredible things sometimes happen.
But youi know, if you can't get what you need from her right now she is not the only source of support available to you. You have found this forum and that's great. There are lots more sources of help out there. Actually talking to someone who is qualified to help you could be massively helpful (scary at first no doubt but WORTH IT!!)
sending you a big hug and I'm more than happy to keep chatting on here if it's useful for you.
yl xx
thank you :) my sister has an eating disorder so I'm positive I don't, I've asked my mum if I can see someone cause I've been wanting to kill myself for months now and I hate feeling like this but she just ignores me (I havnt told her I want to die) xxx
hey Hearrtt
honestly love, throwing up is a really bad idea. even a tiny bit. it can cause all sorts of problems with your teeth, your breath, your skin and your overall health, it's so not good for you. And if you are feeling like you are revolting and too big and nauseaus, well something's not right is it?
Sometimes people can get a bit hysterical around the idea of an "eating disorder" and I can undestand you resisting the idea that you might have one. It really frightens them and that's because they care about you and don't want you to be ill. But whether you think you've got one or not, it definately sounds like you need to get yourself some support so you can stop doing what you're doing and start to feel better about yourself. Have you tried ringing any of the helplines that help distressed teenagers? Or asking for some counselling at school? If you feel you can't talk to your Mom or your doctor about this maybe start there.....
sending you a hug.
x
honestly love, throwing up is a really bad idea. even a tiny bit. it can cause all sorts of problems with your teeth, your breath, your skin and your overall health, it's so not good for you. And if you are feeling like you are revolting and too big and nauseaus, well something's not right is it?
Sometimes people can get a bit hysterical around the idea of an "eating disorder" and I can undestand you resisting the idea that you might have one. It really frightens them and that's because they care about you and don't want you to be ill. But whether you think you've got one or not, it definately sounds like you need to get yourself some support so you can stop doing what you're doing and start to feel better about yourself. Have you tried ringing any of the helplines that help distressed teenagers? Or asking for some counselling at school? If you feel you can't talk to your Mom or your doctor about this maybe start there.....
sending you a hug.
x
You really need to get some help now, this could become a very bad eating disorder, talk with you Mom or you Doctor as soon as possible!!!!! This is not normal at all to think like this!!!!
Diana
Diana
I stopped but I've started again, and I dint know why. Just the sick bit I eat healthier but I don't diet. if I don't throw up I feel revolting and as if I'm so big I can't move. recently I feel nausea after tea and if I don't make myself sick I feel sick and sometimes naturally throw up (small amounts) :s
thank you, i dont have as much of a problem/obsession with my body anymore, i think it might be because i dont like this boy which ive liked for about two years so now i dont care much what people think, thank you everyone xx
losing weight can be difficult but making yourself sick is nevr the answer. I can cause other health issues in the future probably and it bad for you. So eat food and exercise and hope to god that the weight comes off!!
you can talk to us on here heaarrtt. You are definately not alone! Your sister obviously doesn't understand, is she anorexic perhaps, or maybe she has other problems making her be mean to you? If she is anorexic (or bulimic, or both), it's actually a kind of mental illness and she won't be rational towards you. Don't let any unkind things she might say get to you Whenever anyone is being unkind, it's because they are unhappy themselves, it's never about you. That's a FACT and worth remembering. You can look elsewhere for support.
It's really normal to think that no-one will understand what you're going through but actually probably a lot of people will understand better than you might realise. It's amazing when you open up to people and share what you are worried about, how they can sometimes be absolutely brilliant about it and really help.
I'm so relieved it sounds like you are currently a healthy weight and you have only just tried throwing up to lose weight. People on here are right, you can't stay healthy only eating 400 calories. Running and other exercise is good, cutting out junk food of any kind is good, but you HAVE to eat enough healthy food to stay strong or you will end up with bad skin and teeth and weak bones and horrible things like depression from not having enough nutrients! Seriously you don't want rotten teeth and horrible spots! Be careful!!!
I bet there's a phone helpline you could call for teenage girls with possible eating disorders, you'll find someone there who will be really understanding. Why not do some internet research and find out what's available in your area. Honestly, talking about this is going to be the best thing you can do.
sending you love and light
It's really normal to think that no-one will understand what you're going through but actually probably a lot of people will understand better than you might realise. It's amazing when you open up to people and share what you are worried about, how they can sometimes be absolutely brilliant about it and really help.
I'm so relieved it sounds like you are currently a healthy weight and you have only just tried throwing up to lose weight. People on here are right, you can't stay healthy only eating 400 calories. Running and other exercise is good, cutting out junk food of any kind is good, but you HAVE to eat enough healthy food to stay strong or you will end up with bad skin and teeth and weak bones and horrible things like depression from not having enough nutrients! Seriously you don't want rotten teeth and horrible spots! Be careful!!!
I bet there's a phone helpline you could call for teenage girls with possible eating disorders, you'll find someone there who will be really understanding. Why not do some internet research and find out what's available in your area. Honestly, talking about this is going to be the best thing you can do.
sending you love and light
i cant my sister found out about me trying to lose weight a while ago and told everyone i was trying to be anorexic and was attention seeking, theres no one i cant alk to as no one understands
COMMUNITY LEADER
Please heed what's being said.. you are very young and your body is still growing; maybe as you get older, you will get taller and more slender. If you starve yourself now, you will destroy your health forever.
I agree that you need to talk to someone in regards to the way you feel about yourself - a parent, sibling, friend, teacher, anyone you trust to help you develop a healthy view of yourself.
I agree that you need to talk to someone in regards to the way you feel about yourself - a parent, sibling, friend, teacher, anyone you trust to help you develop a healthy view of yourself.
You will not be able to sustain your weight in a healthy way, though. The faster you lose the weight, the greater the gain when you stop starving yourself.
What you're doing now will put your body into starvation mode, so it'll start storing fat. Your body will also start consuming muscle to stay alive. And after the muscle, then your bones. I don't know about you, but the last thing I want is bones like tissue paper, which starvation diets can lead to at an astonishing rapid pace.
You can't just lose the weight you want, then eat more healthy afterwards, because you'll just gain it back. And the damage you do now may be permanent.
You need patience and a healthy view of your body to make this happen. Otherwise, you will sabotage yourself.
What you're doing now will put your body into starvation mode, so it'll start storing fat. Your body will also start consuming muscle to stay alive. And after the muscle, then your bones. I don't know about you, but the last thing I want is bones like tissue paper, which starvation diets can lead to at an astonishing rapid pace.
You can't just lose the weight you want, then eat more healthy afterwards, because you'll just gain it back. And the damage you do now may be permanent.
You need patience and a healthy view of your body to make this happen. Otherwise, you will sabotage yourself.
Everything Irenak, Barb135 and OytheGreat said is true, heaarrtt. Eating too few calories and forced vomiting are not good ways to lose weight. In addition to everything that's already been said, becoming malnourished will have many bad effects on how you feel and look: hair and skin looking dull, hair falling out, acid from the vomit damaging your teeth and more. In a very short time, you will change your blood chemistry which will make you feel ill. Then, eventually, your body taking protein from your muscles (including your heart) to try to get the nutrition you aren't providing in your diet. You'll be left feeling weak and probably dizzy. Eventually, "stealing" nutrition from your body organs to try to supply what you're not eating will damage your organs and make you sick; it could even result in death. Please don't go down this road.
Sounds like you body is where it needs to be. Don't abuse it. Eat well, but eat enough. Exercise, but don't overdo it. Start loving yourself and your body enough to want to be healthy. You'll feel better, look better, think better.
You should be eating no less than 1200 calories a day. So triple what you're eating. 400 calories a day may lead to rapid weight loss, but what you're losing is water and muscle. If you can't maintain this diet, you'll gain all of it back and more. If you CAN maintain 400 calories a day, you'll eventually die.
Also, please seek help, talk to a parent, friend, or teacher.
You should be eating no less than 1200 calories a day. So triple what you're eating. 400 calories a day may lead to rapid weight loss, but what you're losing is water and muscle. If you can't maintain this diet, you'll gain all of it back and more. If you CAN maintain 400 calories a day, you'll eventually die.
Also, please seek help, talk to a parent, friend, or teacher.
COMMUNITY LEADER
Well, I'm not real good at math, but my calculations say 9 stone is 126 pounds. For your height, you are pretty close to "perfect" weight. Just to help out, I copied a portion of a height/weight chart to help it make sense.
Height Small Frame Medium Frame Large Frame
5'4" 114-127 124-138 134-151
So you see, even if you have a small frame, you are still within the weight limits.
Please remember that your body needs so many calories per day just to stay alive. If you don't allow yourself to eat that much, you will get very sick. This will affect your body functions from now on, including your menstrual cycle, whether or not you can conceive babies and a lot of other things.
That brings us to the question of why you think you need to lose weight? Did someone tell you, you should?
You can still eat well and lose weight; much healthier than snacking, then making yourself throw up.
Height Small Frame Medium Frame Large Frame
5'4" 114-127 124-138 134-151
So you see, even if you have a small frame, you are still within the weight limits.
Please remember that your body needs so many calories per day just to stay alive. If you don't allow yourself to eat that much, you will get very sick. This will affect your body functions from now on, including your menstrual cycle, whether or not you can conceive babies and a lot of other things.
That brings us to the question of why you think you need to lose weight? Did someone tell you, you should?
You can still eat well and lose weight; much healthier than snacking, then making yourself throw up.
erm last time i checked (a few years back) i was 5ft 2 ish so id say im 5 ft 4 maybe? im average for 14 i think, im 9 stone and i try to run every other night
COMMUNITY LEADER
We need more information in order to be able to help you much. What is your current height, weight, activity level, etc............ ?
At 14, you have a lot of growing left to do, so you need to make sure you really need to lose weight.
Are you really only eating 400 calories/day? If so, you are starving yourself to death.
Don't listen to anyone regarding weight loss, until it's determined that you really need to lose weight................
At 14, you have a lot of growing left to do, so you need to make sure you really need to lose weight.
Are you really only eating 400 calories/day? If so, you are starving yourself to death.
Don't listen to anyone regarding weight loss, until it's determined that you really need to lose weight................
I would approach your weight loss a different way. If you make this just about losing weight and nothing else, then you will probably lose everything. How about changing your thinking and looking at this more about wanting to be healthy? A healthy person will be at a healthy weight, will have good teeth, nice pink skin, will not get sick so much, etc. It is win, win, win. What you are doing is not good in any way, because you will probably end up being either very sick and will not be able to enjoy life at all or you will end up grossly overweight. You are not treating yourself well.
The one thing you have going for you if you want to lose weight is that you are still growing. That means that you can eat well without being hungry and still lose weight. Eating well is the key. You will have to research healthy foods in their proper balance on your own. Education is everything. You need all different kinds of foods to be healthy. Here are some tips to help you in addition to your research. Drink only water and nothing else. No diet drinks. No deep fried foods like french fries. No fast foods. When it is necessary to eat fast food, learn to make wise choices. Eat lean meats, vegetables, fruits and whole grains in a proper balance. Keep your carbs primarily early in the day and less towards the end of the day. Eat dinner around 5 or 6 pm. This will be the last meal of the day. If you need a snack later, eat a small amount of vegetables like raw broccoli, cauliflower, peppers, etc. Say no to the dip. Stay away from sugar and all junk food. Eat soups with broth, not the thick kind. Go ahead and have a piece of pizza once in a while, but just one piece. Then fill up on veggies.
Exercise is key. This will rev up your metabolism. Research this and find what is right for you. Do it every day. You have to move. If you don't move you can't eat and you have to eat.
The next thing is to figure out the ratio for yourself as far as the amount of calories you are putting in relative to the amount of exercise you are getting and are able to lose weight. 1 to 2 pounds a week is plenty. The key is slow and steady weight loss. This is the best way to lose weight and keep it off forever because this is not a diet, it is a way of life. With the working out, you will build muscle which will make it seem like you are not losing weight for a while. However, the muscle will help you burn more calories in the long run so don't get discouraged.
I felt like I wanted to lose weight in high school and this is how I did it. I grew into my new body because even though I didn't lose weight, I was growing, so when I got where I wanted to be I was able to eat more. As long as I didn't gain weight, I had no problem. I did not need to lose a lot, though. For others, there may be a need to lose some weight. I am now 50 years old and I weight the same as I did in high school because I did it smart. I maintained a healthy practice without starving myself. I still exercise and eat well. I respect my body and appreciate everything it does for me. I want to be healthy and I learned to maintain myself so that I could be. This is what I want for you so that you can not only be at a healthy weight, but also be happy.
By the way, my sister is very over-weight. She was a huge inspiration for me to do things the right way. Also, change the way you see yourself. To be thin is a state of mind. You are beautiful just the way you are. You just want to be healthier. You want better for yourself. Do what you do because you love yourself, not because you are afraid of being fat, or whatever you are telling yourself. Love yourself thin. Take your time. Trying to do it quick will probably result in rebound weight gain later. If you should treat yourself a food that might not be the best choice, just make up for it in the day or two after. Keep your treats to a minimum and just keep the portions small. Everything in moderation. Keep a food diary so that you can keep track of what you are eating and how you are eating. It will help you figure things out.
Love yourself. You are lovable, beautiful and very important.
The one thing you have going for you if you want to lose weight is that you are still growing. That means that you can eat well without being hungry and still lose weight. Eating well is the key. You will have to research healthy foods in their proper balance on your own. Education is everything. You need all different kinds of foods to be healthy. Here are some tips to help you in addition to your research. Drink only water and nothing else. No diet drinks. No deep fried foods like french fries. No fast foods. When it is necessary to eat fast food, learn to make wise choices. Eat lean meats, vegetables, fruits and whole grains in a proper balance. Keep your carbs primarily early in the day and less towards the end of the day. Eat dinner around 5 or 6 pm. This will be the last meal of the day. If you need a snack later, eat a small amount of vegetables like raw broccoli, cauliflower, peppers, etc. Say no to the dip. Stay away from sugar and all junk food. Eat soups with broth, not the thick kind. Go ahead and have a piece of pizza once in a while, but just one piece. Then fill up on veggies.
Exercise is key. This will rev up your metabolism. Research this and find what is right for you. Do it every day. You have to move. If you don't move you can't eat and you have to eat.
The next thing is to figure out the ratio for yourself as far as the amount of calories you are putting in relative to the amount of exercise you are getting and are able to lose weight. 1 to 2 pounds a week is plenty. The key is slow and steady weight loss. This is the best way to lose weight and keep it off forever because this is not a diet, it is a way of life. With the working out, you will build muscle which will make it seem like you are not losing weight for a while. However, the muscle will help you burn more calories in the long run so don't get discouraged.
I felt like I wanted to lose weight in high school and this is how I did it. I grew into my new body because even though I didn't lose weight, I was growing, so when I got where I wanted to be I was able to eat more. As long as I didn't gain weight, I had no problem. I did not need to lose a lot, though. For others, there may be a need to lose some weight. I am now 50 years old and I weight the same as I did in high school because I did it smart. I maintained a healthy practice without starving myself. I still exercise and eat well. I respect my body and appreciate everything it does for me. I want to be healthy and I learned to maintain myself so that I could be. This is what I want for you so that you can not only be at a healthy weight, but also be happy.
By the way, my sister is very over-weight. She was a huge inspiration for me to do things the right way. Also, change the way you see yourself. To be thin is a state of mind. You are beautiful just the way you are. You just want to be healthier. You want better for yourself. Do what you do because you love yourself, not because you are afraid of being fat, or whatever you are telling yourself. Love yourself thin. Take your time. Trying to do it quick will probably result in rebound weight gain later. If you should treat yourself a food that might not be the best choice, just make up for it in the day or two after. Keep your treats to a minimum and just keep the portions small. Everything in moderation. Keep a food diary so that you can keep track of what you are eating and how you are eating. It will help you figure things out.
Love yourself. You are lovable, beautiful and very important.
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