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16 and pregnant.

I am 16 years old and I just found out yesterday that I was pregnant. My mother told me that if I was pregnant I had to have an abortion :'( but I don't one. Am I old enough to make my own descision?
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It doesnt matter how old you are, when you are prgnant it is YOUR decision and noone elses. She can not make u get one. Please please think about it and make a smart choice, even tho your young, ou can do it!
8494190 tn?1407619030
That is your decision hun...don't let anyone make that for you...you dont want to live with any regrets or pain thinking about yea you will have to grow up fast...but it's life...
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I had my first child when i was 16. You should really consider adoption. And you are probably matcher. But a child is the hardest thing in life. It is a blessing from god dont get me wrong. But girl it is a huge step. You dont even know what your going to go through.  After that step you do of keeping the baby thats tje last time you will ever have yime for yourself. And 1/10 teens stay with the fatjers child. wouldnt you like for your child to have a both parents a good home. And wouldnt you like to finish school.
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Im 15 and pregnant my mother want a abortion let her think about it! But by the way its your baby! It doesnt matter how old youre to make a decision!
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Legally no one can force you to have an abortion or give away your baby no matter how old you are.
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If you don't want to get an abortion I say don't get one. Mom knows the struggle of having a baby but sometimes we have to make our own mistakes. I am praying for you. God bless you.
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No one can force you to have an abortion.  Go meet with your school counsellor they might be able to get you some information you need to get help. If not then Google health and human services and they can help you find local help in your area. Planned Parenthood might know of help in your area too
973741 tn?1342346373
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Well, here is the deal.  You are a minor.  That means you are not independent as an adult.  No one can make this decision for you but understand that you can't take care of the baby yourself.  That's just real life.  

Having a child is a VERY big deal.  One must think about many practical things.  How would you care for the baby while going to school?  Who will watch your baby while you are at school? Are you basically willing to give up all your 'free' time and social life in order to care for the baby?  Are you still going to work to become financially independent at some point?  College or trade school or something for your future?

Why I am saying this is that while it isn't right for anyone to force a decision like abortion onto another---  you will need to have a full plan of how you are going to handle things when you talk to her about this. Understand that she is worried about you.  This could potentially change your life with some positive but also with negatives as well.  Nothing makes you grow up faster than motherhood.  

So, think about your options and be 'real' about them.  Kids that have babies really young together rarely stay together long term and that is just a statistic that is black and white.  So, you have to think about how you'd handle this if you have to do so all alone.  You can have the baby but understand you will need lots of help.  Basically, your parents will then have two kids to take care of (you and the baby),  So you will want to present your side of things as maturely and as well thought out as possible.  

Adoption is another wonderful option for a young person such as yourself.  It gives the gift of a child to a couple that can't have one.  It is such a win win and then when you are ready and in a better place in life, you can start your own family.  Today, they have things like 'open adoptions' so that you can know the adoptive parents and stay in touch with the child.

And last, termination is something available.  Sometimes it IS the right choice but only you can decide that.  good luck and peace
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I had my first at 18 my childhood friend had hers at 14. Its up to you sweetie if you want to keep your baby then do so no one can make you do anything you dont want. And dont let anyone scare you into getting one or putting up for adoption. If you make the choice to keep it then you know baby supplies dont come free. Abortion messes up your chances on having a healthy pregnancy in the future... Adoption you can either do open or close. With an open its limited on how often you see or spend time with the baby. If that become a option i'd just look into finding a family member that wouldn't mind adopting it that way you can watch him or her grow up and spend time with it as you like.  Good luck!

THE CHOICE IS YOURS NO ONE ELSES!!!
973741 tn?1342346373
COMMUNITY LEADER
I t want to state that abortion does NOT mess up your chances of having another baby in any way.   That is untrue.  thanks
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Thank you so much for your help. I was always against abortion. But now I'm 2 months, I'm keeping my baby! :)
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Thank you!
973741 tn?1342346373
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You'll have a rough road ahead but plenty of young girls do it and things turn out fine.  good luck to you
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