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17 :(
Im 17 now and going to be 18 3months from now.. im 2 months delayed and i dont know what to do. If i tell it to my family, they will get mad.. they might not accept it. im the youngest and only girl.. im worried. My boyfriend tell me not to have an abortion he told me that he will always be here for me.. but im not ready :(
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Wishing you all the best sweetie. It's a hard road to have a child young but you can do it if you put your mind to it., We have pregnancy forums you may find helpful and child forums for after the baby is here. I am here any time you need an ear or something to vent or talk to. peace
Thank you so much!
I understand very well what you are trying to say.. and thank you for enlightening my mind. It's not easy ti raise a child but if know how to work, and to believe.. nothing is impossible..
I can see in you a best mother your children can ever have. I really appreciate your message, i feel it. thank you for the advice.. I hope you continue touching people's lives specially those who are like me that needed someone who knows how to deal with life like this..
well, God bless you :))
I understand very well what you are trying to say.. and thank you for enlightening my mind. It's not easy ti raise a child but if know how to work, and to believe.. nothing is impossible..
I can see in you a best mother your children can ever have. I really appreciate your message, i feel it. thank you for the advice.. I hope you continue touching people's lives specially those who are like me that needed someone who knows how to deal with life like this..
well, God bless you :))
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi there and welcome. I really commend you for thinking of the big picture. Very very responsible of you. Raising kids is not easy and quite expensive.
I planned both of my children and I will say it is much harder than I ever imagined. Things to think about before having a child include where you will live. If you aren't married, do you want to rush that step and either move in with your boyfriend or marry? Or will you live with your parents? Or do you have a good enough job to support yourself independently of others and live on our own. Speaking of that, it is important for a woman of your age to be getting herself on her feet. This means either job training, trade school or college. This is the best way to have future financial independence. so, you must think of what you are going to do. And then you have to think of childcare-- who will watch the baby while you either go to school, learn a trade or work. You'll need medical care for you and the baby. Expense money for food, clothes, etc. And if you are still being supported by your parents, you do need their buy in because they are essentially then going to be helping to pay for raising another child. If your boyfriend is helping you financially, you don't want to get into a situation I which you are so dependent on him that you could never leave if you needed to. (if that makes sense--- you want your own education/job training so that you can make your own money if you need to). Social life pretty much ends when you have kids unless you have people to baby sit but understand, that is asking favors of people or you are paying them. It's hard. Kids take priority over all else.
Now, I'm not saying you can't do it. I just want you to understand what is involved. There are many who sugar coat it but I think a young woman should know what they are getting into.
So, think about what caring for a child 24/7 would be like for you, if you can afford it, and if it is realistic.
If it is, then try to get the support of your parents.
If it is not, your other options are abortion if you don't wish to carry a baby through a pregnancy or adoption. Both are excellent options. If you need information on either, I'm happy to help you.
good luck
I planned both of my children and I will say it is much harder than I ever imagined. Things to think about before having a child include where you will live. If you aren't married, do you want to rush that step and either move in with your boyfriend or marry? Or will you live with your parents? Or do you have a good enough job to support yourself independently of others and live on our own. Speaking of that, it is important for a woman of your age to be getting herself on her feet. This means either job training, trade school or college. This is the best way to have future financial independence. so, you must think of what you are going to do. And then you have to think of childcare-- who will watch the baby while you either go to school, learn a trade or work. You'll need medical care for you and the baby. Expense money for food, clothes, etc. And if you are still being supported by your parents, you do need their buy in because they are essentially then going to be helping to pay for raising another child. If your boyfriend is helping you financially, you don't want to get into a situation I which you are so dependent on him that you could never leave if you needed to. (if that makes sense--- you want your own education/job training so that you can make your own money if you need to). Social life pretty much ends when you have kids unless you have people to baby sit but understand, that is asking favors of people or you are paying them. It's hard. Kids take priority over all else.
Now, I'm not saying you can't do it. I just want you to understand what is involved. There are many who sugar coat it but I think a young woman should know what they are getting into.
So, think about what caring for a child 24/7 would be like for you, if you can afford it, and if it is realistic.
If it is, then try to get the support of your parents.
If it is not, your other options are abortion if you don't wish to carry a baby through a pregnancy or adoption. Both are excellent options. If you need information on either, I'm happy to help you.
good luck
I didnt feel like i was ready when i found out but i see it as Gods plan for us. I guess He felt like i was ready, so now i have to be strong. Ive been reading a lot and talking to a lot of people to kind of mentally prep myself and to learn what to expect and its been helping me feel a little more ready
Thank you so much for the inspiring msgs. I dont feel like having an abortion. I will keep my baby no matter what.. although im not sure, i will still keep it if im really pregnant. Just like my mama said when she gave birth to me.. this baby is a blessing. No one can tell if this baby is the one who can save me someday. thankyou so much guys!
Do whats best for you. Im only 19 With my First 34weeks & i decided to keep her. I barely got an support system or babyfather but i felt that was the best decision. Do whats best for you and live life with no regrets.
Do what is right for you...not your parents, not your boyfriend, and not anyone else. YOU have to do what YOU need to do. Boys tend to come and go- and while he saying this now...you can't see the future and he may end up being the majority. He may also end up being the minority of guys who DO step up 100%. Your parents will always love you. They may be mad...but it's because they wanted so much more for you. Understand that. They will support you in whatever decision you make. Guaranteed. It's a hard decision to make and one you will have to deal with your entire life. If you have the baby, there goes so much of your life. If you have an abortion, you have the guilt associated with that. You may want to even look at a third option of adoption. Again..just make the decision for you..nobody else.
And by the way it doesn't matter how long u wait u will never b totally ready. Things happen for a reason and the baby you have inside of you didn't ask to be there so don't take him or her out because there are so many people that wish to have a blessing like yours.
You gonna b 18 soon is not like u r 15 first make sure that u r pregnant then take some thing to process that information I had an abortion when I was 17 n I will regret it my entire life. Im 22 now n pregant again but now im goi to keep my baby she/he deserves a changes of life
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