Dont know what to do

[butterflykisses13]

I'm 16, and 6 weeks pregnant. Me and my boyfriend recently told my mom and shes leaving the choice up to me but really is leaning toward adoption (I already said no to abortion) honestly I feel like if I'm going to carry this kid then I want it.. She says I dont know what will happen in the future and she's right, but the father is a really good guy and I'm confident if we both keep at this it will work. It wont just be for us, but for our kid.  She says I will miss out on a lot more than I already am (online school) and that theres no gurantee my bf will be around later, which I know but I also know if he isnt around for me he will be for our kid. What do you guys think

[babyonboardxox]

Being a young mom myself, first one at 15 almost 16, second 21 almost 22, third 23, all three same daddy, we're married.

Anyways, I did online schooling and am currently presuing a career in child and youth work. (CPS/CAS). Yeah, sure I may have lost out on a lot, but I would do it all over again. My kids mean everything to me.

The choice is yours, but if you plan to adopt, makesure it is the right choice not only for the baby, but for you as well. Remember, you carry the tiny human for 9 months, see him or her on the sonogram, hear the tiny little heart bea, so you have to live with your choice.

[mjmurray]

Look don't giver your baby up floor adoption..love that child and I'm sure your mother will help out with him or her.. The road seems rocky now but don't do something your going to regret.. a lot of that is happening now.. A baby does not stop you from achieving any goals you put your mind to. You can work go school part time.. things will be OK...

[has jazs]

It sounds like you wanna keep it & your mom don't want you to. Seriosuly do what you true my wanna do. I was young when I had my first baby.father ran as soon as I told him. He comes & goes now my son is 17 months old. Yeah I don't get to party or go out or hang with friends much. But I true my learn my son my best friend friend & number one man. All my friend came & gone you truly find out who your friends are when your prego & have a kid. I wouldn't ever change it

[specialmom]

Hi there.  I think it is a wise young lady that knows her limits so I commend you for your maturity.  Adoption is a beautiful option and especially for someone in your situation.  Babies are hard work, expensive and all consuming.  NOTHING changes the trajectory of a young woman's life more than having a baby.  Many make it work but it is very difficult.  Adoption is really nice because you given the baby life, a couple that can't have a child is able to have one, and you can go on with our life and start a family when it is a better time.  You can know the child through open adoption via pictures and possibly even direct contact or you can do a traditional closed adoption.  An adoption service or attorney can help you.

Asking us what we think probably doesn't really help because this is about you and your life hon.  Do what is best for you.  peace and hugs

[Buzzbeemommy]

I think whatever you want to do is best, if you're not sure about adoption maybe look into more but it sounds like you want to keep your baby and THAT is fantastic  (: I had my first baby at barely 17 years old and it was really hard, my bf was not the best in the beginning but I had a lot of support and now my son is 2, I'm about to marry my bf in 2 weeks and I'm due in december with our 2nd child, couldn't be happier. I know you already know this won't be easy, so I won't tell you how hard this could be but I'll tell you I wouldn't change it for the world! You can do this, whether the father is there or not YOU can do it. It sounds like your mother is supportive so take her help and do everything you can to prepare for this baby! School is important and a job is too because diapers aren't cheap. You will definitely miss out on a lot of things, but there's no reason you can't have fun a little later in life when things are in order. Good luck, I hope everything turns out for you

[ErinPaige]

Thats weird.... I pray and hope for the best for you! I am 16 too... And the father of my baby unfortunately left when i was 3 months :p but that isnt stopping me from ending something i created myself... And like you abortion was not even a choice! And neither was adoption because even though im 16 im going too work and show this baby that i didnt give up! Finnishing school is my main priority right now and after that let god handle the rest :) but i think you should do some soul serching and really think with your spirit and heart.. I had to give god everything! before i made my final decision. Your smart! You will make the right decision <3 god bless you!!!

[melaniee123]

Honestly I'm a young mother as well, I'm 19 on my second baby..with my first son me and my bf were broken up when we found out and he didn't stick around threw the pregnancy, he didn't have nothing no job or car and anything really, and honestly when my son came, idk what happen to him but he did a 360! We worked it out and he got a job and car we moved in together and my 1st son is 18 months and we are expecting our 2nd lil boy together any day now... our relationship is a lot better as well.. yes it's tough but there are many young momma's that do it sometimes on there own and still graduate hs and go to college... adoption is good too if you feel that's best for you...but i personally couldn't do it, I was 17 when I got pregnant and my mom mentioned it as well, but I couldn't, just the thought of someone else raising my child I couldn't do... good luck :)

[julieeenewmum]

No one can tell you exactly what to do because we dont know exactly all the aspects of the situation, YES YOU CAN DO IT. Being a teen parent has been done and will be done a million more times in the future but if you feel adoption is the best for your situation than go for it because it is a beautiful and selfless thing. People can come on here and say ohh I did it you'll be fine but no one tells you about the hard days. There will be many hard days. I was blessed enough to have a job since before I even got pregnant with my first so my fiance and I have been financially okay but even with two full time incomes it is very very hard. Being 16 I'm sure it will be hard to find a job especially pregnant and finding the energy to finish school will be hard as well. Your bf will also have to find a job and his parents have to give him permission to change his school schedule and who knows if they will be on board with that. So even if he is a good guy he is most likely underage as well and his parents will probably not like the idea of him missing school or missing out on school activity's so that leaves you alone financially responsible, and if you cant provide your parents will have to and they have the option to refuse to be responsible for that baby if you cant provide and that baby can be taken from you. And once the baby comes if you have a job you will need to quit to watch the baby or put them in Daycare and it is very expensive. I'm not going to sugar coat things because that's what people did for me and when reality hit it hit me hard. So coming from a teen mom I advise you to think very wisely about your decisions. Like I said yes it can be done, has been done but be prepared and set goals. If your going to keep the baby think as your life is now altered forever NOW not when the baby comes but as of TODAY your life is different. Save every dime you have finish as much school as you can before that child comes and talk honestly and humbly with your mother about helping you financially, speak to your bf's parents about them helping financially as well till your both are able too. If you are not going to keep this baby than pray it will go to a family who can give them all you cant and that they will love that child endlessly. Adoption is an amazing hard and completely selfless thing but again YOU CAN DO IT but just know be ready to completely give yourself up to the beauty of motherhood because being a mother is not one day here one day there it is 24hrs of every single day for the rest of your life. Honesty is the best thing anyone can give in my opinion and if you ever need to talk you can message me anytime. Goodluck sweetheart!

[Destynee2015]

I think you shoukd do what you feel is best. If you want to keep your child, then keep it. Yes it is VERY HARD being a parent at such a young age. Its hard being a parent period though. If you set your mind to it, and think you can be a responsible and mature parent at 16 then you can do it. Its wise to set goals for yourself right now. Discuss with ur bf what your goals are and listen to his so you can work together. Its teamwork and communication that will help you 2 grow as parents. Think about your future as well as how it will affect your childs and im sure youll make the right choice. I commend you for having the courage to be a teen mom. Congratulations and I wish you the best.