My husband and I are going for IVF because he had a vasectomy 20 years ago and his reversal of 1 year ago failed. He was told that the chance of a second attempt being successful was slim to none. On the positive side, we have been told that are chances of success with IVF are quite high, partly due to the fact that I have no issues. However, the second complication is my husband's age. He's quite a bit older than me and we had decided together, before the failed reversal, that we would only have one child as we didn't think it would be fair to have a second a couple of years later when he's a couple of years older still. Now with IVF, the opportunity for twins has developed and it is something I very desperately want because my personal belief is that a child benefits immensly from having a sibling. No offence to single children out there. This is just my opinion.
That said, I wouldn't want more than twins because I wouldn't want to get into the risks, for the babies or myself, of triplets or more.
Our doctor has told us that this is no problem because we can implant 3 or 4 and if all "take" then we can "termniate" one or two.
I will freely admit that we are currently living in a country that is not strongly bound by medical protocols like in the western world and so doctors have no ethical dilema with multiple implants.
It is not an appealing idea to me but I would risk it willingly to have twins.
My only concern is that another doctor has told us that selective reduction puts the other foetus(es) at great risk!!!
Now I'm miserable and very confused.
I've tried to read as much as I can on the internet and what I'm getting from all this is that the risk is NOT in fact high.
My understanding is that if the procedure used for the selective reduction is the injection of sodium chloride into the foetus, then there does exist a risk to the other(s) but if alternate procedures are used, then the risk is minor.
And frankly, the doctor who said it was very risky is in a neighbouring country where I'm not convinced that techniques are very up-to-date.
If anyone can enlighten me about this, I would be extremely grateful.