What should I do ?

[lia0125]

I'm 18 years old and a senior in high school , I only have two months left until I graduate . I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for a year and 3 months . Two weeks ago I went to the clinic to get a refill on my birth control with my boyfriend . Before the doctors give me the birth control I have to take a pregnancy test . Earlier that week I was feeling sick , having fevers and feeling nauses . I didn't even think I could be pregnant but the first test she gave me had one faint line and one pink line . She asked if I wanted to take another one and both lines were pink and clearly I'm pregnant. Abortion is not an option for me and I won't put my baby up for adoption . After I was released and my boyfriend and I got in the car , I told him that I was pregnant and we both started crying . After we comfort each other he looked at me and told me we have to get an abortion . Ever since he said that word I have been looking at him different . Not that I don't love him . I'm just shocked . We can't afford to have a baby , but I wouldn't mind working and saving money like I have been doing before . He thinks that his sister would really pay to give us an abortion. I want to keep the baby , and he doesn't . What should I do ?

[specialmom]

Hi there.  So sorry for this situation.  It does not sound like that joyful event that we envision pregnancy to be.  Unplanned pregnancy can have this affect on people and relationships.  I would talk to him again to try to judge if it was just a shock and a snap judgment.  Most young men faced with fatherhood unexpectedly when they know they aren't ready or prepared panic.  It could be that.  With his first thought being 'undo this".  I'd forgive him for that if this is the case.  

If he still feels strongly about an abortion, this is tough.  He's being clear he doesn't want a child.  Are you open to adoption?  Otherwise, I think you may have to consider planning for this baby to be raised with you on your own (going for child support, of course, as every child deserves that).

I'm very sorry that you have to look at this this way.  Lots to figure out when pregnancy is unplanned.  I'm here if you need to vent or run ideas by anyone.  hugs