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What's done in the dark comes to the light
So my boyfriend of 4 years has been in prison for 17 months lord knows I love him so deeply , I made a mistake an did something in the dark with another man 5 weeks later an the light came out I'm pregnant . Me an my boyfriend of 4 years always wanted a baby but I could never get pregnant for some reason but th time I step out I get pregnant but some 1 I don't even like , my boyfriend is begging me to get an abortion but I'm so happy to be pregnant I'm now 8 weeks , I want to stay with my boyfriend but he says if I keep baby he is done . Please some1 give me advise please I'm n need of help an have no 2 to talk to
I'm just preparing to do this on my own so I won't have any let downs
1.) I'm not going to tell bash on you for being with someone else. You're an adult and it is your life.
2.) I believe everything happens for a reason. If you and your boyfriend have tried and came out unable to have a baby of yalls own then it's for a reason.
3.) If you are happy being pregnant then DO NOT abort your baby. That is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life. Your boyfriend telling you he is going to leave you because of it is ********.
Do not abort your baby to keep a man that is making you choose between an innocent life and him. That right there is bull. You did what you did and was blessed with a baby. You can love someone but have to let then go. Even if you do abort your baby who is to say he is going to stay? Who is to say you two will make it through life as a couple? Who is to say you will ever have the opportunity to have another child? You need to think about you and not not your boyfriend. He made a mistake and got his *** thrown in prison. You are 19 years old who is happily pregnant. You don't have to have your boyfriend in tour life to be happy and you don't have to have baby daddy in your life if you don't want to. Now if he wants to be a part of his child's life than he has that right because it is only fair to the baby. But just because your boyfriend is threatening to leave you is not a good enough reason to abort your baby. You are on your way to becoming a mother and mothers have to make personal sacrifices for our children. Whatever you decide make sure it is something you can live with. The love of a man is not guaranteed but the love of a child is. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise.
2.) I believe everything happens for a reason. If you and your boyfriend have tried and came out unable to have a baby of yalls own then it's for a reason.
3.) If you are happy being pregnant then DO NOT abort your baby. That is something you will have to live with for the rest of your life. Your boyfriend telling you he is going to leave you because of it is ********.
Do not abort your baby to keep a man that is making you choose between an innocent life and him. That right there is bull. You did what you did and was blessed with a baby. You can love someone but have to let then go. Even if you do abort your baby who is to say he is going to stay? Who is to say you two will make it through life as a couple? Who is to say you will ever have the opportunity to have another child? You need to think about you and not not your boyfriend. He made a mistake and got his *** thrown in prison. You are 19 years old who is happily pregnant. You don't have to have your boyfriend in tour life to be happy and you don't have to have baby daddy in your life if you don't want to. Now if he wants to be a part of his child's life than he has that right because it is only fair to the baby. But just because your boyfriend is threatening to leave you is not a good enough reason to abort your baby. You are on your way to becoming a mother and mothers have to make personal sacrifices for our children. Whatever you decide make sure it is something you can live with. The love of a man is not guaranteed but the love of a child is. Maybe this is a blessing in disguise.
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I applaud you
My only advice is to not abort the baby you will regret it for the rest of your life bcus even if you do you never know if you and your bf can break up and thrn you will look back and regret taking that baby out...
Only God knows why he does this stuff but please do not abort that little angel on your tummy its not its fault you made a mistake its already a living thing and it will be worth every sacrifice once you see your little one here...
I too made a mistake and got pregnant from someone else and i regret it so much cus i am married and i first my husband wanted me to abort and i told him my baby came first so he juet came around at like 12 weeks into my pregnancy and were a very happy couple and his been a father to my daughter since day one and he treats her equally like our other kids so have faith in God and I promise he will listen yo you and everything will be okay :)
Only God knows why he does this stuff but please do not abort that little angel on your tummy its not its fault you made a mistake its already a living thing and it will be worth every sacrifice once you see your little one here...
I too made a mistake and got pregnant from someone else and i regret it so much cus i am married and i first my husband wanted me to abort and i told him my baby came first so he juet came around at like 12 weeks into my pregnancy and were a very happy couple and his been a father to my daughter since day one and he treats her equally like our other kids so have faith in God and I promise he will listen yo you and everything will be okay :)
That is on you.
If I were your boyfriend, I would probably leave you too. Not just because you wouldn't abort the baby but because you got pregnant by another man.
You both need to have a serious talk. Be realistic. Your current boyfriend is not obligated to stay with you. And he I'd not obligated to raise a baby that's not his.
What about the father of the baby? Will he provide for it? Be in its life?
If not, then from the circumstances you need to prepare to do things on your own.
If I were your boyfriend, I would probably leave you too. Not just because you wouldn't abort the baby but because you got pregnant by another man.
You both need to have a serious talk. Be realistic. Your current boyfriend is not obligated to stay with you. And he I'd not obligated to raise a baby that's not his.
What about the father of the baby? Will he provide for it? Be in its life?
If not, then from the circumstances you need to prepare to do things on your own.
I hope things work out for you and your boyfriend. I also hope Baby Daddy is there for your child in the right way. As well as has interest in your babys' life rather than just hoping to get lucky again. If you do end up becoming a single mother just remember that you will do great! Lots of women (my mother included) are single mothers who are totally bad***. I wish the best for you and your little one. Being a mother is the best thing that has ever happened to me.
To all the comments above thank u so much I read all of them an I am greatful for the response . I've decided to keep my baby . An if he wants to be a apart of our family he can if not his lose I just hope this is easier done then said . The dad is in picture to a certain extinct . But not the way I want it he's the type to call me an 11 pm every couple days an tells me to come over I do because this is my child's father but I have told him I'm not doing that any more so if he wants to talk about baby that is fine but the other crap
I'm done with . This is a very blessing I think because my due date is my boyfriend in jails birthday !!! That's so weird . I just wish he would accept baby but if he doesn't want to I cannot be selfish an force , I told him I wasn't getting an abortion an he told me we were over then today he called an said he's willing to work things out but can't ptomise they will be how they were befor . This is just a weird situation to be in but mayb once I start geting big it will really hit me that I'm pregnant cause I still can't believe it .
I'm done with . This is a very blessing I think because my due date is my boyfriend in jails birthday !!! That's so weird . I just wish he would accept baby but if he doesn't want to I cannot be selfish an force , I told him I wasn't getting an abortion an he told me we were over then today he called an said he's willing to work things out but can't ptomise they will be how they were befor . This is just a weird situation to be in but mayb once I start geting big it will really hit me that I'm pregnant cause I still can't believe it .
I would keep the baby. A boyfriend can be replaced but a child is a gift and a blessing. I would keep the baby
An I'm 19
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