abortion? ?

[cacanc814]

I couldn't find an abortion forum so I guess I'll post it here. I don't want to be bashed for my way of thinking or whatever, I'm just looking for a second opinion.  I have one child already who will be two in august and I am 9 weeks pregnant.  I have been over stressed because me and my boyfriend haven't been getting along and they changed the requirements for the nursing program I am planning on attending fall 2015. They changed the requirements to where I'm going to have to start a full semester earlier to get college credits needed to be accepted into the nursing program. On top of that I have to move out of my parents house by June 2015. We are downsizing to a smaller house this September and I know there is going to be no way that me my daughter and the new baby would be able to fit into the tiny bedroom I will be given. I am starting school again this August and will graduate this December 6 months earlier than scheduled for me. Sorry for such a long post but I am really considering abortion at this time I don't know any other way. It may sound selfish but I know I could never follow through with adoption. I couldn't hand my baby over to someone else not knowing where they would be in life. But at the same time killing my baby doesn't seem fair either. I'm so confused and don't know what I want to do. I will be working and going to school full time which already isn't fair to my 2 year old I couldn't imagine doing that to a new baby along with breastfeeding.  (I breastfed my 1st until 20months) does anyone have any insight on this subject.  Please don't bash me and cause arguments I'm just looking for support

[specialmom]

Hi, wanting to thank those who stepped in while I was gone to make sure women get support at the women's choice forum.  It's important for women to have a safe place to explore ALL of their options when a pregnancy has happened that wasn't expected, planned or even wanted.  

thanks for respecting that it is a woman's right to choose what happens in this situation.  

Again, we want this forum to be a safe place for women to discuss options such as abortion, adoption or keeping the baby without any judgment.  

[remar]

Thank you so much for keeping this forum the way it's supposed to be. Women should be able to come here for support, not to be bashed.

[Claire_MHModerator]

Hi, folks,

The purpose of this forum is to provide support and insight for cacanc814 as she makes her decision.  Whether you're "for" or "against" any of the options isn't relevant or helpful information, nor are comments about anyone's motives or character (any posts like this have already been removed).  They're also unlikely to convince anyone of anything.  Please remember that this isn't a debate -- in fact, debate isn't permitted in this forum.  

Comments that might be most helpful to her are those that share personal experiences from people who have faced similar situations, like those written by being_mommy, huddleston101, knufrio, Kayy19, and Bentin6.  If you'd like to debate issues, you might want to consider starting a user group.

Claire

[1978mama]

Adoption is one of the most selfless things you could do... hard, yes, but a much better alternative.

[Aaliyah__2]

I was gonna get abortion this is also my second child I have a two year old I had scheduled and cancelled and rescheduled appointments because I wanted to keep the baby then I had rescheduled another one and my bd aunt was supposed to take me to get it done because I would have to go out of town but she never took Me I couldn't ask my mom because ik she'll b mad that I was pregnant I wanted to go behind her back and do it I'm 19 with a two year old now I'm four months pregnant I put as it wasn't meant for me to get an abortion because if it was it would of already been done I still have my ups and down being pregnant because I still haven't told my mom but I will I'm in college to for ultrasound tech and I wanna stay and finish I have a lot of help from my bds family they watch my son while in school help me with what he needs ik they'll do the same with thisbaby bbut some reason I feel different this time . Things still haven't gone right but I hope they do

[Kayy19]

I was adopted when I was a baby by my grandmother sister. My mother wasn't financially stable to take care of me. I'm so happy she chose life for me than aborting me and giving me to someone with a good stable home to live in. I'm now 19years old I love both of my mothers so much. My adopted mother died 2years ago I'm still coping with her death. my biological mother have been a great support through my pregnancy.  I know it's proably will be hard to carry ur baby for 9months and give her away to a family. But I really think you should consider adoption

[Bentin6]

They have open ended adoptions. Meaning you can still be a part of the child's life, while you live your life. My cousin is going through this now. Her daughter is 7 and she is a part of her life. She gets her on holidays and does do what she can while she is in school. They have even agreed that when she is where she needs to be in her life, she can adopt her OWN DAUGHTER BACK. Now I think that is a adoption process that needs to be put forth to most pregnant mom's that face abortion as a option. Good luck hun!

[knufrio]

I was in a similar situation some years ago. I was 19 and living with my bf at the time, I was working two jobs and still barely making enough to cover my bills. I hated the relationship I was I'm and knew at that moment I wasn't ready for a child. I never ever regretted my decision. Afterwards I left my bf of that time and moved back home with my mom. I started dating the man who is now my husband and he pushed me to go back to school. We got married and I graduated nursing school and now at the age of 28 we are expecting our first child. I am very happy with my decision because it allowed me to become the woman I am today. I think you need to sit down and think hard about your decision and know that sometimes you need to do what you feel is best for you, regardless of how anyone else tries to sway you.

[Mommy_Garcia14]

It's not like your getting an abortion to party and what not, your going to school and trying to so something with your life an that of your daughter, no one can tell you yes do it or no don't that's all up to you, you only know what you can handle
Good luck girl no ones here to judge you :)

[huddleston101]

I have had one before and it was the worst thing i could possibly do. Im currently 21 years old and have a 18 month old and just found out today and havent broken the news yet but i will never in my life get another abortion . God will never give u more than you cant handle

[Mreeah]

Also its your body, abd ultimately your decision (which is why its legal.) Your responsibilities
Sleep on it! I wish you the best

[being_mommy]

I was in the same situation last july. I was starting college in september and i was only 18. As much as i felt guilty about it i.knew it was for the best. Its hard at first but it gets easier. Once you are done what u need to do and get where your going then you will know it was best! Dont let anyone bash u its yoyr choice... i got thru what i needed to amd i am now goimg to be 16 weeks tomorrow! Good luck hunny

[Richelle12]

Its always your option! Thats why its legal! You have obviously thought it through and if you feel that you cannot support the baby adequately then it may be for your best interest. I know a lot of people on here will push for adoption but if you feel you couldnt go through with it, its ultimately your choice! Get a good support system and make sure the father is on the same page as you. I wish you look with this hard decision!