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My partner wants me to have an abortion but I don't wanna loose him shall I do it we are ment to be getting married next year I've always wanted a baby and had two miscarriages already?
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Hi there. you have a lot of opinions her based on other people's ideas about abortion. I personally believe it to be a woman's right and those I know who've had one have not had any regrets as at the time it was the best choice for them. So, don't be afraid of the choice hon as ONE of your options.
I guess I'd really need to talk to my partner more. What is his thinking on this and why is he so adamant about an abortion? Does he want kids? Talk to him about this. What is his major issue with pregnancy now rather than later? Is it financially based? Traditionally based in that marriage in his mind comes before baby? Stigma with his family and friends (which is hard on some people and a valid issue to deal with)?
You need to really understand where he is coming from . And then talk to him about your feelings. This should be something you decide together and neither should be resentful or upset about the decision. So, talk this out hon. good luck
I guess I'd really need to talk to my partner more. What is his thinking on this and why is he so adamant about an abortion? Does he want kids? Talk to him about this. What is his major issue with pregnancy now rather than later? Is it financially based? Traditionally based in that marriage in his mind comes before baby? Stigma with his family and friends (which is hard on some people and a valid issue to deal with)?
You need to really understand where he is coming from . And then talk to him about your feelings. This should be something you decide together and neither should be resentful or upset about the decision. So, talk this out hon. good luck
If he loved you and was ment for you he would never ask you to do that. Even if you do it and get married itll never last because he'll be happy with no.kids nd Youll be feeling regret. I'm mean really that is so wrong. I could understand of something medical was wrong and he might lose you.
PLEASE DON'T!!! I honestly had an abortion last 2013. And i still regret the day i did that even tho it was only 7weeks. I still cry every night and constantly ask God for forgiveness. It was a mutual decision for me and my partner back then. Im still studying that time and about to enter my last year in college plus i have 4y/o daughter to take care of. I thought having an abortion will fix everything. But guess what? Im totally wrong. My boyfriend and i fought almost everytime we remember the abortion. Everytime i see baby i cry i almost came to the point that i heard crying baby while im alone at night. Im feel so idiot and selfish for not letting that baby see this world. Please don't do something that you might regret later. Talk to your partner. If he really loves you he will also love the baby. We are now having our 3rd baby (i still consider my second eventho i had no chance to see and hold him/her that baby will forever be our baby). I know that as a soon to be momma you know what you have to do.
You should keep the baby
If a man will leave you because you won't kill a child he helped to create, why on earth would you marry him. If he loves you he wouldn't ask you to do such a thing and he sure wouldn't leave you because you chose to give your child life.
From what your saying..if u do this later on in life your going to end up having hate towards your man. And what loving man would make his woman feel like if she doesn't abort a baby that shes always wanted after having two miscarriages that your gonna lose him. That tells your right there that this probably won't last in the long run anyhow. Because that is not how love works. Nobody can make the decision for you! But by what your saying your going to probably regret if u do. Purely by how u explain how u feel towards wanting a baby.
Don't have an abortion for that guy of yours! That is so upset to even think about! I hope your not young and think that you can't live without this guy...think about that baby, God gave you another chance to be a mom! Really think about it, men have no right in this decision.
I've read all these posts and nobody wants you to have an abortion. I think even the question of should you for him hurts many of our hearts. Either already having babies or FTM we all are mommies already with each soul growing inside of our bodies. And what I dont understand is if he is willing to marry you, why wouldnt he want a family with you. Whenever the family should start. He sounds to me very selfish! I hope you dont decide to make him happy over your happiness. Good luck! And as for you and him doesnt sound lasting.
If he told you to jump off a bridge..would you? Sorry but if my husband suggested getting an abortion I would not have married him. We've had miscarriages and no way in hell would I give up this opportunity!
I don't know if the miscarriages were his, but if they were I'm surprised that he'd be so willing to give it up. If he doesn't want it, but wants you, I'd seriously think about how much he actually cares about you. Especially since he's willing to marry you later. Why not marry now & just take care of the baby since he says he loves you?
Cont. If you go through with it for him not for you it will haunt you forever. It's pain like no other way worse than l oosing any man. Just think it through before you decide. And what about adoption?? You could always give the gift of your precious child to a family you know will love and cherish it. I'm not judging you I've been in your situation just think about what YOU want to do
Keep the baby!!!!
I'm sorry I know you love him but doing something so permanent for someone who may or may not be in your life forever seems so ridiculous. Be afraid of losing someone you are growing in your belly not someone who should have protected himself so he wouldn't have to make you make this type of decision. I've had an abortimon and I can tell you personally of
carrrrsss, back in December you posted that you were 10 weeks and your boyfriend wants you to have an abortion or he'll leave. Is this the sa me pregnancy? If so, I believe you're too far along to have an abortion... Is this a real post?
I'd strongly consider marrying... Id be questioning his love for you. Im sorry, its a terrible situation. In my opinion, since you asked us, i would not get an abortion. I wouldn't even consider it. As adults, we know there's a chance of getting pregnant even WITH protection. Id leave him because he sounds like he could just go and leave whenever he doesn't get his way...So sorry you're experiencing this. I hope you have a strong family or friends you can trust a nd help you
Well let me first say That I have a four year old daughter and I'm 32 weeks pregnant with another little girl. Their father was hardly around For The first and I thought He changed my mistake, and me getting pregnant the second time was an oops situation and he did tell me he would support me getting an abortion because he wasnt ready for more kids or a relationship. I actually thought about it and considered it at first because i was thinking to myself now im single mom, pregnant again and heart broken what the heck am i gonna do. Im only 22 can i handle this on my own?? Well the thought of abortion left my mind so quick because all i could think about was my baby growing inside me and how much my oldest blessed my life and makes me so happy. Words cannot explain the love i have for my little girls. Before becoming a mother i couldnt imagine how life would be if i had kids and now i cant imagine my life any other way. With that being said, you said that you have had two miscarriages already. How did you feel when it happened? Were you happy and relieved or did you feel sad and empty after it happened? If sad and empty imagine the feeling you would have if you got an abortion. Miscarriage is an unexpected death of the baby growing inside of you, abortion is murdering the baby growing inside you. That baby is an innocent little life that depends solely on you, getting an abortion is killing that tiny innocent life that if protected by mommy could be the most beautiful and biggest blessing of your life. You dont know the future of you and your boyfriends relationship. Imagine that in the future you guys seperate and then your alone. If you keep the baby you will NEVER be alone. You will ALWAYS have someone that loves you more then words could ever explain, and that looks up to you like your as important as the president or a queen. That baby is a piece of you,something you created. After 2 miscarriages and an abortion theres a chance you might not ever be able to have another baby. If that is the case would you really be able to marry this guy that wants you to kill your baby and actually be happy with him forever? How bad would you regret your decision if the two of you ended up divorced and you find out that the baby you gave up on for him was the only child you were ever able to have? There are many things to think about if your saying you do want the baby but he doesnt. Its your baby, your body, your choice. So really think about it before going with it
Having an abortion will change you and you will always remember your choice and maybe regret it. i think you will always resent him deep down for pressuring you into doing it for fear of losing him. Sit down and talk to him. Express your feelings honestly. If he still insists on an abortion, i would think long and hard about whether or not you shoyld marry him. who would you rather spend the rest of your life with; your unborn baby or the man who is suppose to love and support you no matter what however doesnt? Good luck whatever you decide.
Um, no. Why throw away a healthy baby when you've already had two miscarriages? There's no guarantee your next will make it. Or if there will ever be a next.
It is ultimately your decision. Do what you feel is right because it's something you well have to live with for the rest of your life. If he is a good guy and truly loves you he will support whatever decision you make.
Just gonna throw this out there, over half of all marriages end in divorce. Can you give up the life of your baby for the possibility of a happy marriage? Sounds like your needs and wants are already being dismissed and doesn't sound like a lasting relationship. It is your decision. And yours alone! If you go through an abortion it is something you have to decide if you can live with.
Tell him to get fixed then if he don't want kidds
I am really sorry I hope this doesn't sound harsh but if he wants you to get an abortion why wasn't he protecting himself so that you didn't get pregnant. He has no right to tell you to do that if he isn't willing to go that far as to you not getting pregnant. This is something that you as a woman will never be able to forgive yourself if you did and you may resent him also for making you. If you follow through with this why would you once you got married want to try to have another baby when you got rid of this one. You need to follow your heart and make the right choice.
Dont do that please that sweet baby growing inside you done nothing to deserve that an if he really loves you he wouldn't want you to do that. God chose you to be mommy!
I am so very sorry!!! I would follow the light in your heart and protect this life. It's who we are as women and mothers, and this is a little life that had already begun! I will pray that God will change his heart and that you can find peace!
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