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baby with special needs?
Today I went to my first trimester screening. The baby neck to the aminon or whatever it is was measure 3.2mm. It shouldn't have been more than 3 mm. My doctor says my risks(Down Syndrome and a few others) for a birth defect are a little higher. They took a lot of blood and I'll know if there is anything wrong with the baby within a week. I'm a little nervous and my husband has already said if the baby turns out with something bad, he wants me to get an abortion. I don't know what I would want to do, I have already had a miscarriage and an ectopic.
Adoption would not be an option for us.
Adoption would not be an option for us.
Praying for you and your baby.
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A parent always loves their could regardless of what the child looks like, what music they listen to, what trends they are into, what friends they hang out with, what choices they make whether we may not always agree on them, and we should also love them regardless of however they arrive in this world. A mother's live never goes away.
I personally work with families and their children with disabilities on a daily basis, and let me tell you... The one thing I admire from these parents is the ability to love their child unconditionally. As a parent you figure out ways to provide the best for your child. I'm not sure how accurate these tests are but I believe a parent's love is unconditional. Just hope for the best and remember your child always comes first before the title of what he or she may have.
I personally work with families and their children with disabilities on a daily basis, and let me tell you... The one thing I admire from these parents is the ability to love their child unconditionally. As a parent you figure out ways to provide the best for your child. I'm not sure how accurate these tests are but I believe a parent's love is unconditional. Just hope for the best and remember your child always comes first before the title of what he or she may have.
Well let me tell u what happened to a friend before u go and believe these drs. Her first pregnancy the test came back positive. She ended up deciding to keep it and when the baby was born guess what? Completely normal healthy perfect little baby! Her second pregnancy the test came back that her baby is fine and normal. When it was Time to deliver guess what? Baby was born with down syndrome. My Dr said these tests are fairly new and give a lot of false readings. Tell ur bf to relax and I'm alil dissapointed in ur bf for giving up on a baby. My bf didn't want to do the test cuz he said that it didn't matter to him. Made me fall in love with him a lil more. He needs to support u not stress u out.
At the end of the day it is your decision. I understand your husband's point of view but have you sat down alone and really thought it through? Maybe you should take some time and think dnt listen to what the doctors suggest or friends or on here or your hubby, just you and God or whoever you believe in. You've lost two and now have been blessed with another baby, it may not be the perfect child but you were blessed with a baby that may just change your life for the good. Good luck and stay off this crazy site for a while before you find yourself screaming at your phone for a bunch of ppl you dnt even know lol
It is obviously your call, BUT know those tests are hardly ever right.
I'm 16 and already stuggling and me n my boyfriend have decided to give our son up for adoption of he has down syndrome or and special needs! It's not that I don't love my son, it's that it will be harder to care for and need More patients. Which I don't have, especially being 16
I hope they are wrong. I'm waiting on my blood work which will clear it or not. But thanks.
The test are almost always wrong
I dont think he has all the say so though. Ypur the momma. Ans if that man loves ypu he will love that baby. And respet your decision. But i understand im keeping you in my prayers!
It took me awhile to conceive. I know people have a hard time. I lost a baby at 11 weeks and at 6 weeks.I was thrilled to find out I was pregnant again.
I know I couldn't carry a baby for 9 months and end up not taking it home. I couldn't do it.
I know I couldn't carry a baby for 9 months and end up not taking it home. I couldn't do it.
They told us with our second child he has DS and wanted to do further testing and we said No. We would wait til he was born when he came into this world Monday May 7,2012 he did not have DS. Dont stress over it just wait it out and find out bc I stressed & cried my eyes out wondering how would I be able to handle that situation. I already loved him and had to deal with a special needs child... Thank God he is normal but I wish u all luck and keep ur head up as well as stay positive
Praying for you. They will do more testing though. Most of the time doctors say they see something but baby ends up fine.
And that's amazing. Im not saying I won't try to convince my husband of keeping it if the baby does have DS. But he's already made his choice on what he wants me to do.
Thibk about it though. Ypu cant walk out of that babies life because of a problem he or she may have. Yes it will be a hell of alot more difficult but that baby doesnt need people ALREADY giving up on him or her. And even if you dont want or thibk ypu cpuld do it families out there that litterly cant concieve(like me) after this pregnancy may be willing to give him or her any and everything they could want and ask for :/ im so sorry and that news would break my heart too. Just concider adoption. And mayne after that you can try again...
I will say (as much as I can w out violating HIPAA laws) that I had a patient today with Down syndrome, she was the sweetest, smartest little girl I had had all day today, it was a little harder to clean her teeth, BUT her dad did tell me that they had talked about abortion/adoption if she had DS, he told me he wouldn't change his decision for the world and regrets his thoughts. She was 5 yrs old and had a heart of gold! Her dad said she is the easiest child they have to take care of bc she listens and is so loving. I just want you to know, even with special needs children, it is all about how you raise the child.
I am 18 weeks and did the Down syndrome test a couple weeks ago because they told me it looked like my baby girl might have it, it turned out to be negitave. Not all of what the doctors have to say is true.
My little girl also has a chance of having down syndrome. Im 22weeks today and I absolutely love her. I cant wait to meet her. She will be so loved by everyone. I know your little one will be loved by everyone as well. Im praying for you and your little one
They told my sister in law that her baby was going to have down syndrome, the babu came out perfectly healthy!!! So those test are not that accurate, just trust in God and pray about it. He won't put more on you then you can bear
Stay strong,, keeping you inn my prayers
If you ask anyone who has a child/family member with down syndrome..they wouldnt swap there loved one for the world. They can be such beautiful, sweet people and i do honestly think you should look into it. There is a down syndrome forum on this app.
i actually had a similar scare (which came back as low risk) but my point is my partner and i talked long and hard and decided our baby will be loved no matter what. I hope this helps
i actually had a similar scare (which came back as low risk) but my point is my partner and i talked long and hard and decided our baby will be loved no matter what. I hope this helps
I'm only 12 weeks but my dr told me the tests are not always accurate. The tests my dr runs have very low accuracy. So she doesn't always suggest them. That's just what I've been told. All you can do is pray and hope for the best. I have a friend / coworker they told her that her daughter had Down syndrome and she came out 100% healthy.
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